Hey guys. 43m here. Been separated for over two years now. I live in a major West Coast city Have two kids have joint custody Here’s my dating experience thus far

The first 12 months I did nothing On the one year mark, I ended up dating someone who I knew. That lasted seven months and then I pulled the plug. She tried to control me and I was out.

And then spent several months alone. Took some time to recover from that and everything.

I then slowly hit the market again
And then went on the dating apps and things turned into a waterfall

Probably been out with over 20 women Mid 30s is the average Women with kids women without kids You must read the gatekeeper by Shawn Smith . A man’s tactical guide to commitment

https://www.amazon.com/Gatekeeper-Tactical-Commitment-Shawn-Smith/dp/0990686469

I would also read the book attached so you can learn your attachment style and you can learn women’s attachment styles

Most recently I met a nice one. Was very attractive. Top notch. Sex was amazing. But there were just enough red flags where I pulled the plug before things got official . So now I stopped the apps for a while and will re enter a period of solitude from women. I find these periods peaceful and full of personal growth. I recommend all men do this from time to time. You don’t always have to be dating you don’t always have to be on the hunt.

I can say in the vast majority of my interactions in dating. I was the one to exit.

Most of these women are looking for a relationship Most of these women are looking for someone to take care of them financially as well

We have to be careful we are free men and we paid for our freedom very heavily

I don’t know if I will ever be able to be any long-term official relationship again. There is very deep peace in my life. And I will not let any woman disrupt my peace. Peace is paramount. Peace ✌🏼