Cowards

captainchippsixx · 2024-02-09T14:56:53+00:00

Dude.
1-They are protecting that the bills getting paid the husband. Funding their lifestyle. 2-They are protecting their social image. 3-They are protecting their status of mom to the children instead of cheater/liar. 5- The longer they stay married the more assets they get from the courts.

OkEmphasis5923 · 2024-02-06T18:14:06+00:00

After I caught my wife continuing to communicate with her AP after D-Day I had to go to his house and tell him to stop responding to her texts, emails, calls, etc. He was shocked to see me on his ring doorbell camera and didn't come out. He was married with a kid and wanted nothing more to do with her once I was at his doorstep and after that day communication finally stopped. It felt good to get his fat ugly ass out of the picture. But I was demoralized with my piece of shit wife, it felt like I was married to a boy crazy 16 year old.

I've thought about your question before. There are mom's at my kids school who are beautiful and my type and the thought of fucking them behind their husband's back is revolting. I would feel like a slimy guy who doesn't have a spine. But that's me. Everyone is different. People have all kinds of kinks and I'm sure there are piece of shit dudes who get a sick thrill out of fucking another dude's wife behind his back. I mean there's sick twisted people who prey on children. There's men who enjoy rape and only get turned on when beating a woman. You can't control all the fucked up dudes out there. You only have control over your choice of who to marry. Unfortunately, we made the wrong choice.

Ecstatic-Shopping313 · 2024-02-06T18:07:48+00:00

They don't care about the victory, they just want sex. I doubt most APs actually brag that they're stealing someone's girl so much as they brag they're having sex.

BurnDownTheMission68 · 2024-02-06T11:58:00+00:00

The sneaking around and almost getting caught is a big part of the danger and turn on.

The bald-faced lying is the sadistic thrill and the ultimate shit test.

osikalk · 2024-02-06T09:00:20+00:00

The only reason for cheating is the twisted morality of cheaters, their stable character traits formed in childhood and adolescence under the influence of family, school, friends, social environment, literature, cinema and mass media. Therefore, such a "spoiled" morality cannot be corrected by popular methods widely used in "reconciliation": IC, MC, books, frank conversations, movies, algorithms of romantic behavior (dates, walks, trips to resorts, gifts, flowers, love bombing, etc.).

occoptionplaya · 2024-02-06T03:38:46+00:00

I have a married woman texting me every few days begging me to fuck her. It's a crazy world out there fellas.

xosto · 2024-02-06T02:40:17+00:00

I agree people who cheat are terrible for doing it and it is such a deep betrayal.

Look many people especially men approach relationships logically and the logical thing to do is to just leave if you can't remain faithful If you have to break your oath then try to fix it if you can't then leave and that's the logical thing to do.

But a lot of people women especially men too but a lot of people cheat because emotionally that satisfies a need.

And the hardest thing to accept is that their need is often independent of what you do sure you have perhaps a contribution to that need but that need originates within themselves.

You know it's very difficult for me to understand why a woman that you've been with for over a decade would come to leave you suddenly and after the fact you realize that the entire time you were together she actually didn't want to be with you but couldn't figure out a way to express that.

But rather than he was worse to express it they choose to engage in actions and then they cover it up and you only find out about these kind of things when it's safe when you've moved on when the fallout for those consequences doesn't matter.

I mean who cares that the woman you divorced you later find out was having multiple affairs behind your back and hid them so well you had no idea. I mean you feel duped and dumb and that betrayal of trust affects your ability to form connections with other women I think the hardest thing is assuming things were fine when they weren't really and in a way it just helps you see a little bit better.

By the way I really feel like Bill Clinton really put it out there in his definition of what it means to have a sex with a person because apparently oral doesn't count and a generation of women men as well but women have adopted that definition and so when you ask them have you been faithful they'll say they have but apparently that doesn't count.

upvotersfortruth · 2024-02-06T02:21:24+00:00

I hope the hate for cheating and cheaters is contained in rant threads and not levied at men who admit having cheated and come here for help. I don't think giving them hate is who we should be as a community.

landy_109 · 2024-02-06T01:14:29+00:00

Even in my years of dead bedroom situation I never cheated. Now I am looking at dating I got a offer from a woman that looked for sex but behind her husbands back. It would be different if hubby knew and gave the ok, but now... no. I hate cheaters.

DannyboyRN · 2024-02-06T00:50:20+00:00

Because they want to still have that stable house to come home to. They are cake eaters.

Cheb44 · 2024-02-06T00:30:11+00:00

I’ve said it before. But I would NEVER sleep with a married woman no matter how long she’s been “separated”. Knowing the hurt on this side, you would have to be a loser imho.

NothingIsEverEnough · 2024-02-06T00:27:46+00:00

Answer to question: because society, especially the religious portion, has created such shame around it. And shame is a powerful emotion.

Cheating is one of two things

The cheating partner has unresolved issues and is trying to fill a hole
The relationship is so lacking in connection that the cheating person is trying to fill that hole

Filling a hole is figuratively, and literally

IllustriousCry672 · 2024-02-06T00:22:20+00:00

I'll first say, and I know many disagree here, the people who sleep with our spouses are just as bad. You could argue worse if you wanted, but at least just as bad, so I take solace they will get quality time with Satan.

But more on topic, I did some capital defense at the very beginning of my career. Even those murderers, who did the most heinous things, did not think they did anything wrong. If they could justify it, they would, if they couldn't, they would deny it and act like it never happened and event some fantasy.

Basically, our minds are programmed to help us survive, and acknowledging you're an evil POS is not useful to survival, so it will follow it's programming and protect them from it.

tragicaddiction · 2024-02-05T23:33:36+00:00

the reason why it's hidden is because in their mind if you don't know, it doesn't hurt you.

they don't want to give up the relationship but this helps temporarily fix it in their mind with a fantasy that once X happens in the relationship they wont need to cheat anymore

Capable_Luck_2817 · 2024-02-05T23:28:40+00:00

If they had principles they wouldn’t be cheaters. Couple the lack of a moral compass with a total lack of self-awareness and you’ll have your answer.

Title	Cowards
Author	Slow_Complex9685
Upvotes	16
Comments	32
Date	February 5, 2024 11:14 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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