Dating…

rub-positive-8063 · 2024-05-15T16:45:55+00:00

You’re more likely to find a woman whose an empty-nester than one without and doesn’t want kids

DivorceCharacter512 · 2024-05-15T02:37:08+00:00

Geographically dependent. But yeah - they're out there. Lots of women say they have hard and fast rules. For most women, hard and fast rules will usually get soft and slow pretty quickly once they develop a feeling one way or the other.

I make it a point not to throw my kid in their face. They're dating me, not my kid. Even if things go swimmingly - they're a year out from meeting them anyway.

p71interceptor · 2024-05-14T22:24:54+00:00

They are out there. Lots of them are career women that were hustling to be independent and now they are wondering if that was the right path. But yes they are fewer than the single mom pools and the "I want kids" pool.

The girl I'm dating wants kids and honestly I'm open to it. Especially now that I only see my girls 50% of the time. Being alone and doing my own thing is nice but it's not what I wanted.

Smooth-Sheepherder86 · 2024-05-14T20:53:41+00:00

What’s funny to all of this is that I have an acquaintance in the dating market same age as me 40s but no kids, and he can’t find women that want kids…. It’s crazy how many he says he has met but don’t want kids. I have told him, let’s exchange contacts… I doubt that would work.

He is basically matching and dating those women that are likely his age but past the idea of having kids and don’t want to deal with guys like myself with kids…

Tough times lol 😅

CrazySanta7 · 2024-05-14T18:25:23+00:00

Each woman i have dated that said they did not want kids, eventually starting dropping hints about having kids. The population of women who do not have kids, are not overweight, don't post thirsty photos online, don't have hundreds of male 'friends', and don't want to marry are very, very few. I'm not compromising at my age, and i'm fine with the outcome.

slow-motion-pearls · 2024-05-14T17:22:57+00:00

Found someone in her early 40s with no kids. We’re in an LDR which is frustrating since I can’t see her nearly enough. She’s extremely cautious and won’t have kids without being married. She’s laid back and basically the opposite of the ex

Heavy_Guitar_4848 · 2024-05-14T16:12:49+00:00

I tell them I’m willing to get married again with a prenup but I’m not having anymore kids. They usually respect the honesty. Biggest thing is just meeting them to see if there’s chemistry and the rest will work itself out.

AvacodoCartwheeler · 2024-05-14T15:15:00+00:00

Honestly, your age range sucks. Going into the 20somethings gets you before the bioclock ticks hard and some good times. Going up into the 40s more will get you stress free good times, but they will almost certainly have kids already.

YOU have kids. Personally I worry more about age of their kids - IE: teenagers? good to go. Little kids? hell no.

Also, I have little kids and am basically the same age as you - I get rejections for having young kids the same as I reject women for having young kids.

krazykanuck · 2024-05-14T14:58:33+00:00

I'd guess if you want to find a woman who doesn't want kids, I'd suggest looking for someone 40+ that doesn't have kids already

alifeofpeace · 2024-05-14T14:22:00+00:00

41m here. 2 young boys. Separated for about 10 months. I’ve done a little bit of dating. Here’s what I found.

Most of the ladies 35-40 without kids wanted kids with the exception of one. She never said a reason.

The ones with kids didn’t care so much about them.

I turned off all the apps. Am not dating atm. Don’t know when I’ll start again. I really am just enjoying life without the distractions relating to dating.

lifelesswriter69 · 2024-05-14T14:20:59+00:00

i have accepted the fact kids (young or old) will be part of any future relationship. my kids are a bit older. The thought of resetting a bit is real, but i am dating the person and staying true to myself throughout the process

jimsmythee · 2024-05-14T14:11:07+00:00

I met my wife version 2.0. I was 44 at the time with 2 young daughters. Only reason she never had kids was that she has endometriosis. She Can’t have kids.

Equivalent_Rabbit_62 · 2024-05-14T13:53:51+00:00

Yeah, I’ve noticed a lot of that too. Looking on a lot of the profiles they all want kids. I’ve also seen a lot of them that are older than that that want kids. It seems kind of crazy to me. My divorce still isn’t final, but I’m starting to get to a point where I think I’m just gonna have to learn how to be happy as a single man. For me that’s even tougher because I don’t believe in sex outside of marriage. Good luck to you.

Several-Eagle4141 · 2024-05-14T13:46:33+00:00

I’m the guy with young kids. So I have to be accepting. And I’m 46

guy_n_cognito_tu · 2024-05-14T13:40:22+00:00

Do they exist? Yes. My current wife fit every category except your age group. Are there a lot of them? LOL.......no. They're pretty rare. You're much more likely to find a woman with grown children if you expand your age range a bit. 30 year old women will likely either have young kids, or have a biological clock ticking like Big Ben.

Title	Dating…
Author	Smooth-Sheepherder86
Upvotes	3
Comments	37
Date	May 14, 2024 1:19 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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