I got a date in a week

toooldforthisnonsens · 2023-04-18T09:52:24+00:00

Brother......chill. You'll do fine. Be yourself, focus on listening, put your phone in your pocket and don't pull it out. Prepare some easy conversation starters.

I had one lady ask me where I saw myself in 5 years. Nobody has asked me that, ever. We talked about 5 year plans the entire evening.

wakablahh · 2023-04-18T13:39:29+00:00

I’d personally avoid mentioning she’s the first date in 12 years.

RuRu_1999 · 2023-04-18T13:16:53+00:00

I recommend turning your phone off.

joemoorcarz · 2023-04-18T13:56:42+00:00

Seriously relax you've done this before. Turn off your phone let her lead the conversation and have a good time. In twelve years the dance really hasn't changed that much. So be yourself and enjoy.

whatamoniker1 · 2023-04-18T13:51:23+00:00

You got this, bro. Remember, shes just some woman. Nothing special, theres a million of em. Relax, enjoy yourself, smile. You're the prize, and if she plays her cards right, you'll show her a great time

ciscokid12345 · 2023-04-18T15:16:01+00:00

middle aged dating is like shopping for clothes at a thrift store. Anything that’s in the store has been tossed out by somebody else for some reason.

your job is not to necessarily find something new, but to find some thing that doesn’t have holes in it, stink, or have stains.

2021Bamaboy · 2023-04-18T15:38:38+00:00

Been divorced around 5 years now. I read this sub sometimes and I get amazed at the hubris and the bravado, but then I don’t expect everyone to feel as I did at the start or as I feel Now at this point . Right after my ending….my anxiety level and my emotions and my loss and emptiness (even tho I had more to do with things than she did really) was off the wall. I was reaching out to any woman that befriended me, or knew me, trying to find some kind of assurance . Trying to find some understanding. And sometimes, misunderstanding the connection with them and losing a friendship or two in the bargain. I was mourning and I was lost inside. At the time, I wasn’t worth dating . I just wanted to spill my guts to anyone . I just wanted to feel a touch. I had to get my spiritual side right and slow my ass down and find who I was as a “divorced” male. Now, I’m trying again because I’m not the man I was and I don’t want to be alone for the rest of my life but I also don’t want to compromise. I’m telling you all of this because …I just want you to know that I get it. Your post made me remember . It’ll be ok. You’ll be alright. God and life isn’t done with you yet. So, I wish you very well on your dating journey . But, make sure that you are ready for this.

The_Usual_Suspect__ · 2023-04-18T15:02:29+00:00

Man just one foot in front the other. See where it takes you. What else would you do that weekend? Start living for you. Play that music loud read, excerize, reach out to family. Gotta keep going king.

RideATX · 2023-04-18T16:17:44+00:00

Dude, dating is a numbers game. Rejection isn't failure. With this attitude you're going to come across as needy and you will have very little success dating. You have to date from a place of abundance. You are the prize and she is auditioning for your time and attention.

MGTOWManofMystery · 2023-04-18T19:00:26+00:00

Dude. Take time to focus on yourself. And why are you even dating? Focus on liaisons and casual encounters -- that's the way of the world now. A man in his mid 30's is at the top of his SMV but our female-correct gynocentric social order forbids men knowing this. Act like the valuable asset you are.

steaksauce872 · 2023-04-19T00:55:48+00:00

I went on a date, first time in 13 years. I thought it went well, we had good conversation. She was laughing, seemed to be having a good time. Then she texted me in the morning that “we weren’t a match and good luck to me”…ehhh 🤷🏼‍♂️

UN_sensored · 2023-04-19T21:25:36+00:00

Dates off guys check the edited post.

stent00 · 2023-04-18T17:30:05+00:00

Don't have any expectations at all. Your just meeting another human. Soetimes you click but mostly you won't. Get used to failure with online dating. And don't beat yourself up. Get used to ghosting as well. And being stood up. It's par for the course.

Crotchlobsterz · 2023-04-18T17:47:07+00:00

Good for you! You’ve got a date. If she flakes or you shove your head up your ass during the date, that’s normal. I bet many of us had tons of potential poon while married and blew it off. Now we’re single and wondering “where’d the tang go”? Sliding into a date and sliding into home plate are two different things, but with practice (like anything in life) they get easier. Either way, great step forward!

Feinixaway · 2023-04-19T04:00:38+00:00

The book "3% Man" from Corey Wayne was huge help.

I was never successful with women, I settled down with my ex because I didn't think I could do better.

The first year after the divorce I had to take a break from dating because I was having so much sex I needed to rest.

Ecstatic-Eye-5766 · 2023-04-19T04:30:41+00:00

Don’t rush man, if u are not ready you are not ready and relax. Work on yourself in the meantime until I feel comfortable. Don’t pressure yourself… relax have fun doing something that u are ok with

Acceptable_Photo6956 · 2023-04-19T14:52:08+00:00

Clear your mind of expectations. You've talked on tinder so there's things to talk about. Unless you've declared romantic intentions at the beginning, I'd say treat it like a "getting to know you" initially and see how it goes from there.

thrownaway41422 · 2023-04-19T21:15:37+00:00

I met a woman on here not too long. We chatted for a while and set something up ina week or so.

Afew days before we were supposed to meet I told her I couldn't do it. My head just wasn't in t he right place yet and I didn't want to drag her into all my drama. She seemed perfectly nice and doesn't deserve that.

Title	I got a date in a week
Author	UN_sensored
Upvotes	9
Comments	23
Date	April 18, 2023 9:35 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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