Im getting divorced

WartimeDad · 2022-05-30T14:04:48+00:00

If you don’t have kids get the fuck out of there.

Stealth_Not_Required · 2022-05-30T12:59:28+00:00

Go to the bank and withdraw what you can immediately. Log off right now and do that. Report back when complete.

Tiger_27 · 2022-05-30T13:24:50+00:00

Get the fuck out of Dodge. Go back to your family. If you don't have the money to fly back to the states then ask your family for the fare. There are two songs that come to mind here and those are: "50 ways to leave your lover" by Paul Simon and "Whats live got to do with it" by Tina Turner.

JD-Anderson · 2022-05-30T23:59:11+00:00

Dude, you’re super young and got to live in Germany for awhile! Much better story than mine. Get as much money as you can, but if you leave with enough to pay for a plane ticket you’ve got nothing but time to build a life and fortune in the US.

pegleg_legal · 2022-05-30T23:11:49+00:00

Get on the first plane home. Accept the help from your family for a while. Regroup and handle the divorce, you’re honestly not walking away from that much even though it feels like a lot now. All the legal stuff can be handled remotely, you may need to go to a German Embassy in the US a few times.

MobileFlatworm3233 · 2022-05-31T01:38:49+00:00

Go back to your family… if you have no children, start new.. it’s not the end of the world. If you do have children together… well, that makes things different.

TheDead_Cell · 2022-05-30T13:57:26+00:00

Split it equally. Do not let her push you around. Be respectful but do not budge on this. She wants the divorce she needs to live with the consequences of her actions. My ex-wife is learning that the hard way now and has to pay me out for the next 4 years. I had to move back in with my parents last year when my ex had an affair. It sucks but I also didn't have a job, I was going back to school and in a bad mental space so when she left I broke. I did a lot of talking to people and watching videos on divorce and learned: stand up for yourself in the divorce no matter what. Do not take more than you are owed and find an attorney to help you. She has made her decision and it is going to suck for you for a while but your first step is taking care of yourself first. You saved that money together and needs to be split, together.

Gattsama · 2022-05-30T14:09:42+00:00

Don't know the law in Germany but it is the west. You should be entitled to half. You need to talk to a local attorney, in the states normally the first 1hr consult is free. There should be an attorney somewhere in Germany that can assist you. Good luck.

If you are married, then you are entitled to alimony of some kind. Google ehat you can about German law and good luck 🙏

33649 · 2022-05-30T16:24:02+00:00

Contact your embassy immediately and let them know of your current situation. 10 Euro allowance is not enough to survive. Also, be very honest with your family to coordinate your return.

It sucks she didn’t give your money, but in a situation like this it might be wiser to eat up your losses and return home for the sake of your well being or just count it as a $5k vaccination.

You are still young and will have plenty of time.

Best of luck, OP!

dray1214 · 2022-05-30T17:30:19+00:00

Bruh cheating on your wife consistently isn’t a good look

onthisthing_ · 2022-05-31T02:01:59+00:00

Go home to the States immediately and move in with your parents. Go back to school and get a job to pay your bills and save so you can move out in a few years. You’re very young, plenty of time to recover. But get the fuck out now.

No-Magazine2896 · 2022-05-31T03:14:07+00:00

You are 25. You haven’t even started to start. You fucked up. You trusted her. Never trust a woman. Now go back to work.

Boring_Cancel · 2022-05-31T03:16:25+00:00

We all make mistakes. Sounds like you made a few yourself. Now is the time to reflect and learn from them. Fuck the 10 grand. I walked away from a hell of a lot more than that for my peace of mind. Can’t buy peace of mind. Hit the reset button. Calll your parents in the states. Explain the situation. Call a friend in the states explain the situation. Borrow the money if you have to. Just get the hell out of there. Grab your clothes and things you NEED for when your back state side and go. I’d try to be out of there by the end of the week. Shit if she’s not there when you leave don’t even tell her where your going. Cut the cord quick. You’ll thank me later. Don’t get involved with the mind games. We all fuck up. Not all of us learn from them though. So take the time to learn from it and grow as a person.

Lay low at your parents for a few weeks. Figure out what you want to do. Shit your only 25. Whole life ahead of you. Maybe get a job and go to school part time. Maybe enlist in the military. The possibilities are endless. Just get back stateside. Kiss mom and dad and hit the reset button.

canival9885 · 2022-05-31T04:24:53+00:00

Bro, you have your whole life ahead of you at 25. Plus no kids together so you have a clean slate and chance a restarting your life. Start with getting a job and becoming independent and not relying on woman to support you so that the next time you have to break up with a woman you can make a clean break. And you’ll get over your ex

awesomeroy · 2022-05-31T04:50:45+00:00

bro im late to the party, i hope you got everything situated for your homing and stuff.

on the flip side, you say you have nothing, not even a career. i suggest once you get your homing situation settled and get some food in your stomach, that you take a deep look inside yourself and what you want to do. youre so young, theres plenty of time to do anything you want to do. figure that out first

after that, i suggest getting your own living space, either in america or germany.

then work more on yourself. go to therapy. work out, read, go out, do whatever you can to make sure youre mentally stable and have a good group of people you can rely on and talk to.

then the sky's the limit. date again, dont date, get into motorcycles, be who you want to be and enjoy life.

we are only here for a short 60-70-80-90 years. so make the most of it and do what you wanna do.

you got this man. youre young.

phuckyew18 · 2022-05-31T09:28:02+00:00

Oh, and you are 25, it might feel as if you have done “nothing “ with your life, but you have a long life ahead of you and it will get better, if you let it. Mourn for your relationship, but move .

JSNTFS · 2022-05-31T17:45:33+00:00

Now is actually a pretty good time to restart your life in the US. The labor market is kind of nuts, you should be able to get an ok job as long as you have some sort of work ethic and aren't an idiot.

I'm sure this sucks but you're young and don't have any kids. You're in a much better position than many people are.

No_more_BPD_2020 · 2022-05-31T02:43:57+00:00

I know this sucks. You're in your 20s and don't have kids, it will never get any easier than it is today to start fresh. It really is going to be OK. Therapy helped me a lot through the process. Good luck!

guy_n_cognito_tu · 2022-05-30T13:54:02+00:00

You say the moneys in a safe? Take the safe. Keep it until she’s willing to negotiate.

Any_Development6693 · 2022-05-31T19:29:25+00:00

So, were you just free loading off your wife?? No job? No kids? What were you doing all day if she pays for all the bills, owns the house and car?

Title	Im getting divorced
Author	Silent_Advertising44
Upvotes	19
Comments	52
Date	May 30, 2022 12:57 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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