Just shouting into the abyss

swampwiz · 2026-02-19T21:37:21+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VrKEVZcSxNM

fewdo · 2026-02-15T20:14:53+00:00

honestly, the "feel your feelings" thing is bullshit for men.

PrestigiousStatus933 · 2026-02-15T20:03:39+00:00

My man. Don't fall for the cooperative trap!

Yes, that's their husband destruction pattern.

When the relationship or marriage breaks, usually the first ally in their game against the man is his ex who also has animosity toward him.

They're not friends. They're just using each other in order to hurt you. Probably, the ex number two knew all about your history about the ex number one and now that she's divorcing you, she decided to use it against you. Typical. Common. Normal.

She knows you're watching and she knows you'll feel hurt over it. They're probably waiting for your reaction. Don't do or say anything. Act like you didn't see it. Ignore, ignore, ignore. And then ignore some more.

It's a game. Don't play it.

Chemical-Eye-1828 · 2026-02-15T17:55:22+00:00

Sorry to hear this. But there is a silver lining in this if you look for it.

Using this time alone to work on yourself and taking full ownership of your mistakes in both marriages will help you avoid bringing those mistakes into your next relationship. If you’re honest with yourself about what transpired in both marriages you should see patterns that you can focus on to improve yourself. Use this as a catalyst for self transformation and you will be amazed how much you can accomplish!

Best of luck and focus on what is under your control and watch your progress

Kind_Equivalent_369 · 2026-02-15T10:21:38+00:00

Some of these comments are really gross. I think what’s most important is your sanity which will not be achieved by doing anything out of anger when you see things like oh she is at my ex-wife’s house with my kid and her kid. Write that in your mind as something positive because the only way you’re gonna get through this is by thinking of things in the calmest and most peaceful way.

Kind_Equivalent_369 · 2026-02-15T10:19:54+00:00

In the kindness who possible why does it upset you so much?

Mental_Antelope_7202 · 2026-02-15T06:20:35+00:00

You should block her.

MiloGoesToPorridge · 2026-02-15T04:31:38+00:00

You should consider that she's only posting shite like that in order for your eyes to see it.

If she had any sense or honour, she wouldnt.

If I'm wrong, it might be an idea to delete/unfriend her from all your SM anyway.

Sorry pal, this is fucked up, but you will eventually be alright.

Immediate-Story2562 · 2026-02-15T03:36:28+00:00

Feelings are just visitors let them go

Sorry you are going through this bro, I know it's hard.

TheConjugalVisit · 2026-02-15T01:05:13+00:00

Want you to know you're normal, I still tear up 8 months later from a 13 year relationship. Still trying to fight for her, going nowhere.

DC did jack for me but introduce me to women lol.

Glad you're here man.

Grouchy_Land895 · 2026-02-14T23:11:13+00:00

Dude, you still have a purpose, it’s your daughter. If she’s going to parties with her mom then I’m guessing she’s still pretty young. You have a job to do and it doesn’t end at 18. You’ll find someone romantic by taking care of what is in front of you when it’s your turn.

JayRock1970 · 2026-02-14T21:26:46+00:00

It's a tough pill to swallow. In general, Women are the more social animal. So we have a harder time adjusting to being alone after a breakup. I'm going through something similar, and even though I do have friends, job, hobbies, family, she does seem to be enjoying life more than me post breakup, going by social media posts.

I'm not sure the answer. Keep doing the right things, and find your new purpose. Men need a purpose to feel fulfilled, and typically when in a relationship part of that purpose is the Woman. Then when she's gone, the purpose is gone too. Leaves you pretty empty inside.

TeddyPSmith · 2026-02-14T19:13:36+00:00

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Similar-Guitar-6 · 2026-02-14T18:45:29+00:00

I feel you, bro.

After five years I've learned to:

Live and Let live

Wish her the best on her journey

You are already whole and complete without her

Your happiness does not depend on her presence

RespectInevitable479 · 2026-02-14T18:26:47+00:00

I’m so sorry. Please take care of yourself and daughter and please do not get married for a third time

IcyMycologist4837 · 2026-02-14T17:44:14+00:00

Many of us experienced different versions of this story. Obviously you know why she is doing it. If playing into it the result will be a self fulfilling prophecy in regard to your kid seeing you as weak. That will let her win and make her vindictive nature stronger. It’s hard but you need to gather yourself quick. Be strong!! Win! Meaning live a great life is the best remedy. Btw you gives sh@t about a mardi gra party at ex s house. Quite Fran kk would make me laugh.

Title	Just shouting into the abyss
Author	TeddyPSmith
Upvotes	23
Comments	34
Date	February 14, 2026 5:30 PM UTC (5 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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