Losing everything

2025-01-31T06:02:59+00:00

Welcome. This shit sucks but at least you're with men who understand you here.

Eric_C_Productions · 2025-01-27T05:50:12+00:00

Hopefully this is rock bottom for you. How about this? I was married for 20 years in a physical and mentally abusive relationship with my wife. The final straw is when I was thrown in jail for a made up charge by my ex-wife. The same day I bailed out, I went to my house with a police escort and my parents to get my stuff and move out. I filed for divorce, actually she had filed it three years before and never served me. It would be two long years of going through the process, cost me $25k, went into debt, huge credit card bill, my kids lived with their mom, I lived with my parents 90 miles away, and I was paying for the mortgage and utility bills for a house I couldn't live in. To make matters worse, I lost my grandmother, mother in law, grand uncle and one of my best friends to alcoholism in the span of that two years. It was a bad time for me but things do get better. I can testify to that. So keep your head up, you are not the only one going through a rough patch.

pmbrenner91 · 2025-01-25T15:41:11+00:00

hang in there, it gets better

Commercial_Music_931 · 2025-01-25T02:52:48+00:00

Got served the day before I left the hospital. Lost the job. Lived in my half ton truck for about 2 months thank god there was an essentially abandoned lake out in the boonies I could park off at and wander/sleep.

Got a job in the same industry after two months. Snagged a shitbag apartment. Got on my feet. It's a long road bro. You just have to not suck-start a shotgun and be there for your kids when the judge says you can.

Life gets better. Its been 4 years. You'll smash some randos. Watch some new shows. Create some new memories with new friends and new people. Don't get stuck in a chapter that's already over. It's done dude. Close it out and start writing the next one. This won't break you. It's ganna forge a new you. And you get to decide who tf that's ganna be.

Find a skill you can dump hours and brainpower into and hone that bitch. Games. Gym. Piano. Second language. Dancing. Whatever. Just keep your mind busy and it'll dull the pain. Don't lose yourself in drinking.

You've got this. Now time to become someone new.

iwanthelpDogeKingWDK · 2025-01-24T19:08:01+00:00

Im even more confused fellas. While she was gone today I decided to clean up and i Separated our bedrooms. She told me i was moving too fast.

Brown33470 · 2025-01-24T18:42:36+00:00

It took a year for me totally worth it.

I got served divorce papers. Week later lost my job.

Orlando1701 · 2025-01-24T18:10:24+00:00

It is what it is.

Yeah man. Find help. You are loved and you matter.

f-ranke · 2025-01-24T15:44:11+00:00

I also lost almost everything! Different circumstances but grinds you down if you let it (don’t! - IT WILL GET BETTER!!!!)! If you have friends and they are any good they will help you!

bald_headed_yeti · 2025-01-24T12:36:12+00:00

"Illegitimi non carborundum"

or

Don't let the bastards grind you down.

LashkarNaraanji123 · 2025-01-24T11:04:47+00:00

All power to you, brother. Sorry about your grandmother, but the memories are yours forever.

Looks like you're at a juncture where you've been cut loose from things in your life, for better and worse.

What is important to you? What did your grandmother say or inspire you with?

Bumblebee56990 · 2025-01-24T09:58:23+00:00

Therapy to process all your emotions. Are you sure the wife didnt have the car stolen?

You’ll be okay. One day at a time.

laztaztic · 2025-01-24T06:17:38+00:00

Keep your head up. You have some tough roads behind you. Better days ahead of you.

regertsrus · 2025-01-24T04:38:43+00:00

You start by finding things you value. Trust, love, hope....

Alternative_Put9030 · 2025-01-24T02:47:45+00:00

Take your time with things, overcome one obstacle at a time. I am getting a divorce (recent) to a woman I never imagined leaving.

I am not going to lie I was tore up and broken, but the more time I spend away from her and reflect, the more I am realizing that I dodged a major bullet.

Better to pass it now, then live a lifetime in misery. Take things slow brother. You will overcome.

IceCreamMan1977 · 2025-01-24T02:11:29+00:00

It all changes. Everything changes. In 5 years, you won’t care about much of this.

All-Rounder21 · 2025-01-24T02:02:12+00:00

Things will improve, remember that. I walk the same path.

No_Pace2396 · 2025-01-24T01:40:58+00:00

Soldier.

GreatEdubu · 2025-01-24T01:00:20+00:00

Sounds like you’re getting a fresh start.

LiteratureWeak9298 · 2025-01-24T01:00:18+00:00

Wow, sorry to hear that, it’s ok to cry, but my best advice is to go to Christ! Cry before Him, because He’s the mender of broken hearts!

dober88 · 2025-01-24T00:28:38+00:00

Time to let it go and focus inward.

Your #1 priority should now be you.

sroundsound · 2025-01-23T23:39:51+00:00

Let it out man. Just keep pushing forward

Puzzleheaded-Yam1718 · 2025-01-23T23:26:01+00:00

Thanks for sharing. Sounds like shitty time you’re going through. I hope you see the sun rise as a chance to dream new dreams.

livefast17 · 2025-01-23T23:21:13+00:00

Only way to go is up brother 🤘🏻

deland1 · 2025-01-23T23:20:49+00:00

Im sorry man, thats rough. Try to hang in there bro. Things will get better.

Title	Losing everything
Author	iwanthelpDogeKingWDK
Upvotes	52
Comments	32
Date	January 23, 2025 11:14 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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