Hey guys, I just wanted to get some thoughts and feedback on how you all feel about sexual incompatibility and how it effects marriage.

My STBXW and I had sex about once a month for the entirety of our relationship, even before marriage. I was always high libido and would like it every day if I had my choice. I never expected that much from her but would've been happy once a week.

When we did have sex, it was a chore for her 95% of the times. She would just lay there like a dead fish and ask if I was almost finished. She really only liked to orgasm if it was me going down on her. Which, I never received reciprocation for. In our 10 years, I received one blowjob where she did it from start to finish. The handful of times her mouth even went down there otherwise was only if we were doing 69 and even then, it was just for 15 seconds or something before she stopped. No handjobs either. Her hand wouldn't touch me unless she was guiding it in during for the lame sex.

Overall, I felt very rejected the entire marriage. This led to lots of resentment with me which eventually effected our communication and emotional intimacy. She then complained her needs were not met in the communication and emotional areas and this to me is the vicious cycle and incompatibility that was the main demise of our marriage.

Can anyone else relate? I'd like to hear some thoughts and similar stories.