So This Is My Life

Angelo_Banana1312 · 2025-12-15T19:31:57+00:00

Save for next year 💪 https://youtu.be/uRFEDgbSQU8?si=I9KhNZfUXalkgzww

BeginningProgress551 · 2025-12-01T22:30:55+00:00

Hey man you're getting grilled for the flowers and card but I think everyone has been there at one time or another. You're trying to put pieces back together that don't go back together. I did the same thing and worse, and many others have as well. It gets easier though going forward just chalk it up too being a good guy. And I hope the Coke was the fizzy kind lol

IllustriousIce159 · 2025-11-28T22:13:52+00:00

Man, I see you. The anniversary card and the roses... that move comes from a place of deep character, but right now, it's landing on barren soil.

You're describing a fundamental shift: You are still operating in a marriage mindset, but she is operating in a transaction mindset.

That lack of a 'thank you' text is painful, but it's a critical data point. She is reinforcing that the person she left is irrelevant to the person she is now. She can't validate the man who sends roses because she wants the guy who is now too busy rebuilding his life to even think about the date.

The wake-up call isn't the betrayal; it's the fact that her recognition doesn't matter anymore. The moment you stopped needing her approval to feel valuable, you actually started becoming the man she might regret losing.

Enjoy those crab legs and Stranger Things. That peace you're feeling? Double down on it. Your mission now is to become the man who pays for his own gated community and never looks back at the one he paid for her.

It sounds cliché, but the fact that you feel like you'll never trust again is just proof of how high your standards were. Build for yourself now. Don't look at her as the benchmark; look at your own reflection.

Keep going.

Kullval · 2025-11-28T10:30:49+00:00

Sei un romantico e a quanto pare di questi tempi essere dei romantici è fuori moda...ma sei una brava persona, devi essere orgoglioso di questo, la pace è l'aspetto della solitudine migliore.

IcyMycologist4837 · 2025-11-28T03:42:37+00:00

You need to start treating your interactions with her like a business transaction. Of course stay civil and respectful especially about kids. But gifts to her and expectations from her are not healthy. If you keep up this you will really get shafted on the divorce decree thinking you were a good guy. If she gets the edge in the terms of the decree both financial and other rights you will have no recourse as you pay the piper month after month and she has her new guy living off your dime taking your kids to Disney. And there will be nothing you can do about it. So wake up. Read No More Mr Nice Guy. Because that could be part of the problem with your relationship and future relationships. Sry!!!

crager34 · 2025-11-27T23:01:01+00:00

She is eating it up that you are still giving her so much attention. Stop! You can and must stop!!

Ready-Tomatillo7645 · 2025-11-28T00:15:13+00:00

I’m sorry dude. It hurts. When someone who decides to just give up on not only you but the family feels so wicked. You’re a good dude and all the “simp” shit is just you being a fucking human with feelings for the person who you thought loved you, was the mother of your children, and lastly the person who you loved so deeply because you’re loyal. I feel this. Focus on your healing and kiddo. Best of luck.

bluephotoshop · 2025-11-27T23:31:33+00:00

You did good, u/320. Keep on keeping your cool.

Factastical · 2025-11-27T22:30:57+00:00

Unless you have tiny kids you can stop co-parenting if you want to. Nobody (not even a judge) can impose this. You can stop talking to her as soon as the kids are old enough to have phones. Again assuming you want to and assuming she don't try to gatekeep the kids from you, which is alienation. It sounds like you are both civil now. Wait until she moves a new dude into your house or you find a new woman. You may want to reconsider your will to talk

BigBubbaMac · 2025-11-27T22:05:45+00:00

This is my first single TG. I'm going to a Chinese place alone.

OldGuyNewTrix · 2025-11-27T19:59:10+00:00

Need a new gender of ‘gay’. It’s just regular dudes who got shitted on by their partner of many years to be left in isolation and loneliness that team up to raise their kids, while being fiscally responsible and still having sex as they please with females. However it will always be talked out of anything more than a girlfriend.

Nefarious_Villan · 2025-11-27T19:54:11+00:00

The biggest bullshit in all this is men having to pay for two fkn households under the guise of “in the best interests of the kids”

krazykanuck · 2025-11-27T19:18:43+00:00

I say this with legit love; wake the fuck up man.

"Our anniversary was 2 days ago. Of course I simped out and got her a card and some roses despite all of the disrespect she consistently gives me during every encounter we have (must communicate as coparents).

I didn't even get a thank you text smh. I guess this is my life."

Why the fuck would you send her flowers and a card for your anniversary? "Hey remember the life we used to have that you don't want anymore? Here is some stuff to make you remember it again!". It's not even simping, it's somehow worse than that. Nope, stop.

You don't have to go down the path of hate, but do NOT do this dumb shit. It's over. The sooner you understand that with every fiber of your being you will finally start to get it and move on and be happy.

DivorcingSamThrowawa · 2025-11-27T19:04:05+00:00

Coke? ...a cola I hope. I've had a few turkey-free Thanksgivings. Don't worry about it. It's just a day. You'll be ok. Do you get the kids next Thanksgiving? Your message reads like you're very vulnerable. You need to fight for your rights.

Life will be good. Give it time. Sometimes you can do things to make your life better and sometimes you just have to wait.

FUMoney · 2025-11-27T19:02:04+00:00

Of course I simped out and got her a card and some roses despite all of the disrespect she consistently gives me during every encounter we have (must communicate as coparents).

The fuck would you waste time, money, and your backbone on that bullshit? She probably threw them right into the trash.

Both in gated communities and of course I pay for both.

Yeah, that is what you need to focus on. The financials of your divorce. You need to win as much as you can. As much as possible, stop paying for her shit. You need to go scorched earth, staying just within the bounds of the law.

Stop failing. Stop simping. It's beyond pathetic.

Key_Display_4189 · 2025-11-27T18:59:42+00:00

You try to do something nice.... You got your answer moving forward. Sucks.

Funny_Object_5538 · 2025-11-27T18:51:59+00:00

Feel this one. I just left the gym and was like, what now? Where are my kids? Where is my turkey dinner we enjoyed as a family for the last 16 years? Oh that’s right, at her new place that I get to pay for as well. I’m not even angry with her anymore, just extremely disappointed. Like a father to a child. She blew up the family for such selfish reasons. Under the disguise that it was best for the kids. My kids were so happy their entire lives, and hate this new back and forth life. Thanks mom

Title	So This Is My Life
Author	320ForLife
Upvotes	54
Comments	24
Date	November 27, 2025 6:43 PM UTC (8 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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