Why even fight?

Mental_Antelope_7202 · 2025-02-03T22:16:31+00:00

Fight for your life.

Curious_Helicopter29 · 2025-02-03T16:32:14+00:00

Get a lawyer asap.

Exactly65536 · 2025-02-03T12:25:23+00:00

When you are attacked, the choice is simple: fight, freeze or flee.

That's why.

And you can't choose to be not attacked, it's the choice of the attacker.

Ready-Flamingo6494 · 2025-02-02T03:23:54+00:00

It sounds to me there is some truth to this criminal part you are failing to explain. So she was experiencing PMS and you did what exactly? And that was okay and justifiable how?

She's going to play this card to its fullest potential if there is any bit of truth behind it. I would be preparing to defend against this character attack.

Any-Dare-7261 · 2025-02-01T23:37:54+00:00

Men who fight back usually do well. When they fold up because they are “still in love with her,” and she was done with him a year before filing and could cut his throat and sleep like an infant.

You have proof of her engineering that criminal stuff?

Two years ago she thought i was done and I did too. Now her dad is begging me to take a deal of 50/50, etc. The scale is tipping in MY favor and im gonna mash the proverbial boot into the throat.

Sideways_planet · 2025-02-01T19:51:26+00:00

You can represent yourself and still win

henrysmyagent · 2025-02-01T19:43:59+00:00

Because there are worse fates than losing, that makes fighting a losing battle worthwhile.

One day, your kids will ask why you didn't fight for them.

On that day, you will be grateful to have a stack of court documents a foot thick proving you did fight for your kids.

Then, you can start fixing the damage your contentious wife has done to your paternal relationship with your kids.

Lots of single-mothers falsely portray themselves as victims by asking, "Why didn't their father fight harder to be with their kids?"

But no one ever asks single'mothers, "Why did you make their father have to fight for his kids?"

Be strong and carry on.

InspectionOk3946 · 2025-02-01T14:43:38+00:00

I mean go quit then and put yourself in jail and set your money on fire - you already did with this attitude.

If you want to be a father that your kids and friends can be proud of then fight. It’s not going to get better right away but if you don’t fight you will never get a do over you will never get the time back with your kids.

It’s going to cost money and it’s going to take work. Get a father’s rights focused lawyer. Write down and record everything. Write down notes about your case and everything involved in detail.

Or complain about the world and the system and put yourself in jail.

Representing yourself is the dumbest thing you can do btw.

regertsrus · 2025-02-01T11:12:17+00:00

Your comment is exactly right! And i am in the same boat. I filed against a pathological liar and cheater. 3 years later while i regained (without help from any lawyer or child attorney) my custody 50%. I now have a new blended family and living the life despite having multiple false police reports and false order of protection and numerous violations. You are absolutely right. This court clerk circle jerk is a farce to part you from your money. Why do i fight for my kids? Because if i let her have them, they are likely to turn out jast like her and her new loefer she moved into my home still deeded to me. I fight because the statistics about single moms are terrible. I fight because i dont want my kids to turn out liars and cheats. Thats why you fight too. Lets not pretend like you forgot. I ask these same questions often as if i am debating with confucious and looking for answers. You have the answers obviously. I know this because youre asking all the right questions.

Emotional_Lettuce251 · 2025-02-01T04:39:56+00:00

I get it. My divorce has been on-going for about 14 months now. I've barely contested anything. I have no idea what the hold-up is. Somehow, I still get a bill for about $1,200 - $1,500 per month. I barely care what happens anymore. I just want it to be over so I can fully move on.

EvalCrux · 2025-02-01T03:32:43+00:00

Screw her, money is only worth fighting for your kids 100% til it’s done.

Same exact boat, first criminal charge of my life included. Got a legit lawyer to called the state attorney week before trial. Poof dismissed. False allegations after allegation later, pendente lite hearing coming up. I’m sure I’ll be reporting back here on the outcome.

She claimed verbal, physical, FINANCIAL abuse. When I make 4x her and paid for everything. It’s like she has a disease of delusion.

Stay strong.

RedRibbon3KS · 2025-02-01T03:03:19+00:00

I feel you. It is disheartening. It doesn't ever feel like an end is in sight. But what I had to do was to remember my kids. I do it for them. People I thought were my friends kept attacking me. People I thought I could count on abandoned me. But I kept going for my kids.

IceCreamMan1977 · 2025-02-01T02:51:49+00:00

Your hard-earned money may not go to the kids. She might meet someone new and spend it on him. Fight fight fight.

Reflog1791 · 2025-02-01T02:46:49+00:00

Hang in there man it’s a temporary issue it will get sorted out. Stay positive. I recommend 50 push-ups when you feel stressed. 50 more if that doesn’t make you feel better. Consider it a long precautionary unfair series of hoops to jump through. In the end, lack of evidence will prevail. There will be injustice along the way.

No_Pace2396 · 2025-02-01T02:40:06+00:00

If you don’t fight, that won’t stop family court from taking.

Acceptable_Piano4809 · 2025-02-01T02:26:22+00:00

What would you say if your father said this about you? If you’re OK with it, you have your answer.

Title	Why even fight?
Author	thefilmguy83
Upvotes	17
Comments	26
Date	February 1, 2025 1:51 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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