Avoid: personal trainers

Toot--Sweet · 2021-01-19T09:59:28+00:00

Honestly, the “cheater career” list can be ANY man/woman. A cheater will cheat regardless of their profession. It stems from learned behavior, upbringing, deep rooted trauma, insecurity, self-hate, self-pity, etc. Some careers just make cheating an easier opportunity.

I dated someone in logistics, a project manager and a cop. All cheaters.

I say that to say this. I’ve since learned to become a secure, confident woman. I recognize red flags now. I set boundaries. I vet THOROUGHLY. And most importantly, I’m alone and SO HAPPY. I am secure. I don’t settle for less anymore.

ETA- I look back and the LVM men that cheated on me were all INCREDIBLY similar. They were all empty inside. Emotionally unavailable. Narcissistic characteristics. All 3 had addictions. (One was a pill addict. Another was an alcoholic and spent money mindlessly. The last, an alcoholic and had a gaming addiction.) Each of their fathers cheated on their mothers. So I always think that’s an interesting connection. One ex said he hated his father for cheating on his mother and yet, he cheats. Cheaters harbor a lot of internal pain. They’ll project it onto you. Run away and run far! I’m 34 years old and it took me 3 failed relationships to figure this out. But I learned from it and used the pain to heal. It fueled me. It changed me. I’m a HVW now! 💁🏻‍♀️

TheSuspiciousChard · 2021-01-19T13:04:28+00:00

I called a mortgage lender to plan buying my second house. I specifically asked for a woman to call back. I will be doing this with every professional I use and recommend from now on.

Curiousquest2 · 2021-01-19T13:46:32+00:00

As a female personal trainer, please continue to choose females! I had a potential client who was mid to late 40’s out of shape and openly admitted he wanted someone he wouldn’t be intimidated by(i.e., the jacked brosef trainers). After that, I decided that I only want to help women. It never fails; men always want to control the situation/women.

denimbastard · 2021-01-19T14:25:12+00:00

I'd like to add tattooists to this list

misty-muse · 2021-01-19T16:13:13+00:00

If you are buying a car, ask for a saleswoman. Do you want that sleazeball who greeted you at the door to get the commission?

Papaverinum · 2021-01-19T17:16:55+00:00

I don't go to male doctors period. I'm willing to wait more time, just to visit female doctor. Why? Dr Scrote almost killed me in his arrogance and ignorance few years ago 🤦‍

Kimpractical · 2021-01-19T15:39:29+00:00

Can confirm. I’ve had a few different personal trainers. Two of them were male, the first one was just weird and creepy. The second one had a girlfriend but was very inappropriate with me. He actually started training me for free but at that point I felt really uncomfortable and told him his services were no longer needed. He was pissed

SamuelaTheThrifty · 2021-01-19T19:33:57+00:00

And avoid male lawyers.

NiBBasBeCrazy · 2021-01-19T09:42:48+00:00

Why doctors? I’m a med student and I feel like all I’ll be surrounded by is drs when I start working, so I won’t have much choice for a future partner :/

myousername · 2021-01-19T19:53:16+00:00

I hire female personal trainers exclusively. I would never ever spend money on a male personal trainer.

Maisiebr · 2021-01-19T14:35:20+00:00

Masseurs are the worst.

goldiebaby · 2021-01-19T19:10:22+00:00

I don't really agree with this X profession = cheaters at all. My friend's husband is a boring office worker who was found to have cheated with his equally boring married female co-worker. Another friend's husband was a contractor who had an all-male crew and worked mainly in commercial construction around other men (no housewives) and yet, he cheated with a waitress who served him lunch at his fav lunch spot.

I think it's a bad way to vet based on profession. You should consider each man's circumstances individually. His upbringing, culture, family views on monogamy, his friends, his past relationships etc. It's not easy and even with all the vetting in the world, you cannot predict things like cheating. Minimize risk and protect yourself financially. That's the best you can do.

karebearkilla79 · 2021-01-19T16:40:51+00:00

Perfect victims as well.. most coming to them insecure and vulnerable.

nottverifiedd · 2021-01-19T19:01:59+00:00

I use to work in the medical field and entertained the idea of how cute it would be to date a doctor. In the words of another female doctor "I would NEVER date a fellow physician, there's so many cheating assholes."

Strawberrycreem · 2021-01-21T22:05:30+00:00

My ex did massage therapy and was a cheater, he used to tell me he had “temptations at work” 🤮🤮 I do massage as well and as an attractive woman and I have no idea on how he (a very ugly fat scrote) could possibly have options at work...he was definitely just lusting over unsuspecting women ugh

Title	Avoid: personal trainers
Author	JaneIsaPain
Upvotes	326
Comments	52
Date	January 19, 2021 8:52 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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