Cringe stories from your past

hoIds_up_spork · 2020-03-14T02:20:19+00:00

My ex fwb told me he didn't want to commit but I stuck around because I thought I could change his mind 🤡

I promised him threesomes and to set him up with my friends so he'd stay interested (this didnt end up happening thank god but still) 🤡🤡

I stayed even after he said he had feelings for another girl and wanted to date her even though he didn't want to date me 🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡

sweatydeath · 2020-03-14T02:34:38+00:00

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AfraidofFollowers · 2020-03-14T02:56:27+00:00

I bought my own engagement ring. 2 years later he stole it. I bought another one and before the last payment was made, we were divorced.

It’s such a pretty ring though... I just don’t wear it.

onemoredaydream · 2020-03-14T03:15:02+00:00

I used to drink too much. I cringe when I think about how I used to act. It's one of the more painful things I deal with every day.

Learning how to not treat yourself like shit, how to make your life interesting and enjoyable yourself and not rely on other people, save money, find a career and advance it... it all takes so much energy, and I used to hide behind alcohol to run away from my anxieties that I wasnt good enough, would never be good enough.

Learning how to unfuck your life and also learning how to know when you are full of bullshit is actually pretty challenging.

Nifteroni-and-Cheese · 2020-03-14T03:16:35+00:00

I forgave some garden gnome looking MF for sleeping with his ex while I was recovering mentally/physically from being raped less than a month before...

shadowsneak221 · 2020-03-14T04:01:52+00:00

I could write a book on cringy moments from my marriage. A few highlights:

-He complained that the house was a mess. I cleaned it. He criticized how I had cleaned it. I sobbed and begged for a little appreciation. He grudgingly gave it. I was happy.

-I made homecooked meals for him every day. One day he yelled at me because I hadn't made rice to go with his chicken rolls. I apologized and adjusted my meal plan to his specifications.

-Towards the end whenever I said, "I love you" he would immediately say, "Liar." I would try to assure him that I did love him.

-The one time I raised my voice at him (for asking my parents to command me to obey him), I later apologized for shouting.

-When I left him, I felt so guilty - like if I had tried harder towards the beginning, our marriage would have lasted.

I am happy to report that I have been 'clean' for nearly four and a half years and that any man who wants to get with me has to exceed one (so far) impossible standard: that being with him is better than being single.

hydrohydrangeas · 2020-03-14T03:05:25+00:00

I was the “work wife” to some dude that had a live-in girlfriend. The sad side chick that thought he was going to leave her for me because what we had was special and I knew all his secrets (because I was one of them LOL), even though he made it clear we were just friends. I was delusional and one of those girls that only heard what I wanted to hear. I still feel guilty to this day about this, though I was much younger and I had recently undergone a bunch of traumatic shit a few months before, so I’ve mostly forgiven myself. Never again.

I’ve allowed a FWB to have sex with me without a condom because I thought our Netflix and chilling was more than what it was. I’m hip to that game now but, again, I was young and dumb (and hopeful). He dumped me over text, saying “We can’t have sex anymore” because obviously that’s all it was to him. I gave him a lecture when I went over to collect stuff I had left at his apartment, telling him he would never fill the emptiness he felt inside by looking to things outside of himself for fulfillment (he is a serial monogamist, always hopping from girl to girl) and I was so proud of myself after. The clownery.

I stayed with a guy after he “put it in the wrong hole.” I started crying hysterically as soon as he did that, and I explained to him that it was not okay, but I couldn’t articulate why and then he got mad at me and went to sleep on the floor and then I was the one begging him for forgiveness. I don’t know how that happened. I stayed with him for another month before he broke up with me. I didn’t even like him that much, either, and he knew it. He was constantly harping on about how I was going to dump him because I guess he had this weird inferiority complex so he felt he had to do it first. I was way out of his league and we both knew it but my self-esteem was on the floor. One of my worst, loneliest, most Pick Me relationships ever.

Most recently, I dated someone exactly twice my age. I’m 26. I’ll let you do the math. I ghosted him, but I still feel residual guilt from this one even though I knew dating him wasn’t in my best interests.

LadyGrimes · 2020-03-14T05:53:01+00:00

The worst thing I ever did was give up pets that loved me for a man who didn't. Not a day goes by that I don't regret that decision because it was impulsive on my part. I basically left one abusive partner for another who manipulated me and caused me to get rid of my pets and move to another state to be with him.

I was the worst kind of pickmeisha.

2020-03-14T02:18:25+00:00

Prefacing this with: you wouldn't be here without being there at that time.

Got caught up on a dude I met on a forum when I was 11. He was 4 years older. He also def lead me on. The last time I saw him I was early 20s and he was drink and threw a chair and I didn't even think anything of it.

Online dated someone who did not identify as a dude. For just shy of 3 years. They kept putting off us meeting and I bought all the excuses because love. I'm glad I had that experience though because I learned that I am a great partner.

Guy I dated for a little. So many things looking back I'm like. Dude. What. But also, I see there's a lot of ways that I don't give myself credit for for not buying or sabotaging myself. But I was a total Pollyanna. Giving him the benefit of the doubt constantly. He canceled and rescheduled our second date like 5 times. And I asked him like hey you keep canceling so maybe let's call it quits. It's okay. He then insisted to me he wanted to go out "or else I wouldn't be trying so hard." (He wasn't trying hard)

He told me he did nofap and I said like "oh that's really great. I know a lot of guys do it because porn changes men's view on women and causes more disrespect." And the motherfucker chortled.

I told him my roommate and her fiance aren't having pre marital sex. He asked if they were virgins and I told him no, neither was. He told me he would be mad if someone who had sex before denied him. (I haven't had sex so this didn't register as bad to me until later.)

I had my anxiety under control when I met him and was on meds and hadn't had a panic attack since my online person. I had a panic attack in my car while trying to date him.

He told me he just wanted to be friends but would tell me how much he wanted to kiss me. He did this three times, once over text. When I confronted him about this asking him what his plan was, he got mad and basically called me crazy. I reminded him I had a paper trail, and he managed to spin it into "I was joking obv. Get over yourself." Gaslight the shit out of me.

Part of the problem is my friends are all very loving and they wanted it to go well for me so they couldn't believe he had any I'll meaning towards me, a soft baby. One friend told me how she and my other friend started dating and stopped trying to play emotional chicken with each other and believed the same thing would happen with us. I wanted to believe that (this was pre gaslighting) so I believed them.

I stupidly thought that his constant flirting when we were just friends meant he would want to date me again.

Part of me wonders if he thought he was going to get me to be FWB but that doesn't make sense to me, because I would only kiss him when we were dating, so it's not like he was gonna get as much or more from friendship? IDK. I don't understand men's logic.

I also kept noticing weird things he was doing but overlooked it as cute and awkward. But now I'm like. Never again.

Lalelolaleelo · 2020-03-14T03:38:55+00:00

I used to do the whole treat him like a king when he didn't deserve it thing.

They were already committed relationships but I was always putting more thought and effort into it.

So done with that - I deserve to be pursued and treasured!

naamshiko · 2020-03-14T12:17:57+00:00

Omg one time I had a crush on this guy I had met like two months ago and Valentine day was approaching and he told me he was expecting chocolates (giving out chocolate to men you like is a huge thing where I lived at that time). So I went out and got him a big, heart-shaped box of chocolate cries at my younger self for being so stupid. Then I ASKED HIM when we could meet (to give him his present) and he kind of ghosted me? Lmaoooo so on valentine day I called a friend to my place and we ate the entire chocolate box together 🤷🏻‍♀️ That was the last time I bought a man who was not my boyfriend a present.

galian84 · 2020-03-14T17:16:57+00:00

Boy. The things we used to put up with, before FDS!

From ages 26-35, I chased after a guy who were clearly less invested than I was. One didn't want to marry me after 7 years, one didn't love me after almost a year, and the last one didn't even want a relationship with me. Still, I chased them, trying to make them love me more, and settled for whatever scraps of attention and affection I got.

Not to mention I'd always insist on splitting the bill, paying for dates, picking THEM up early on, and generally all around settling for minimal effort from them.

After discovering FDS and making a friend who is very much a HWV, I decided I will never behave like that again. Because damn it, I'm a prize and I deserve better. We all deserve the best, ladies.

2020-03-14T09:50:47+00:00

Deluded myself into thinking his porn addiction wasn't that bad. Helped him manage his life to the T, meaning daily reminders and reports on his drug and porn use, making exercise schedules for him, being his personal trainer etc etc. All at his request. And if he had even 1 stressful day, it was back to binge eating and jacking off to porn all day.

Meanwhile he didn't improve my life in tangible way. In fact he only made it worse with his weird sex obsessions and paraphilias. In the end I couldn't even tear him a new one before leaving bc I gave him nudes, and knew I was in a blackmail-able position. So I didn't even have the satisfaction of laying into him about what a disgusting, perverted slob he was.

CSardothien_1 · 2020-03-14T04:04:36+00:00

I used to ‘help’ my FWB go through tinder right after sex...in which he never, ever made me climax, and he had pornsick limpdick and would always go soft right when things would start to get good. Oh, and he never went down on me afterwards or offered to get me off. He was and is the last man I’ll ever date. So glad I’m bi.

lilitha134 · 2020-03-14T16:38:27+00:00

I got into a "bdsm" Relationship with a guy and did all the disgusting acts that come with it up until one day he got mad about something and actually tried to strangle me. And I stayed for 2 more months.

Begged a guy not to leave me.

Stayed with a guy after he repeatedly criticized my appearance and compared me with other girls.

ChixCzech · 2020-03-14T19:41:54+00:00

To make a long long story short, I did wife shit for someone who wasn't worth sneezing the other way.

TokiMarvel · 2020-03-14T07:24:03+00:00

College bf literally had the mattress on the floor room in his parents’ house and it was filthy. Met him to watch rented movies(remember those?) at his house, every Saturday afternoon. Then we got intimate. I started on the pill for him, not realizing it was making me depressed. Turned him down for sex twice and he broke up with me. He never defended me or told his pickme girl bff to not talk to me rudely.

A few months later, he started IMing me and inviting me to hang out as friends. Nothing changed from our relationship except we weren’t kissing, sexing, or going to his filth house. Dates upon dates later, I told him that I loved him. He told me that he loved all of his friends and thank you. I never spoke to him after that. It feels like he wanted to see if we could date again.

grand_tiremaster · 2020-03-14T20:08:57+00:00

A lot. When I was 18 I moved out with my first ex. Total gold digger.

First ex made me get rid of almost all my chickens.. 50 or so birds that I bred and raised myself. Had to take them to a livestock auction and only got about $25 out of it. Which he KEPT, and used to buy a snake, which I ended up caring for. Cleaning it’s tank and I provided the tank also, plus the stand, and when he got bored of the snake, he just gave away everything to someone for free without even telling me!

I had 2 chihuahuas and I found out my female’s breeder was retiring and rehoming her chi’s.. so I asked if we could go get one. Apparently not, he wanted an American Bully, used my car to go all the way to Riverside to get this dog.. and it threw up in my car.. I ALSO ended up caring for this 150 lb dog.. he eventually got bored of this dog also and dumped her at a shelter.

I come from a middle class family and my ex came from poor n’ struggling.. I grew up with new york steaks for dinner and he grew up with hot dogs and beans.. he was very aware of this. He really liked my belongings and aside from my reptile tank and stand, he tried to give my things to his family and friends.. I had my old laptop that I was going to sell, if I needed money. His friend needed a laptop and so my ex said “hey let me give it to him”, when I said heck no, my ex called me selfish and guilted me into giving it away for free. I had a stash of money for my OWN emergencies, one day he couldn’t pay the bills so he just came in and took it without discussing it with me. I have a Japanese sushi making kit, and he tried to give it to his dad.. I said absolutely not. My mother gave it to me.. Then my ex started showing interest in my family’s home and property.. After 6 months of living together I mustered up the courage to cut it off.

His mom texted me and said a whole bunch of mean things, told me to go find someone else and ride their coattails. His friend (who got my laptop) also texted me and called me an ungrateful bitch plus a lot of other mean things. But I provided the flat screen TV, all the kitchen ware, dishes, pots, silverware, bedroom furniture, rugs, appliances, outdoor deco, etc etc. I took care of my animals, plus his animals, I cleaned the house even when his stupid friends came over and made a mess of the house, and I cooked for him and his dumb friends. They would literally let the dishes pile up because they didn’t want to wash it. They had parties frequently and I was the one always cleaning up after them. He wanted some pickme bang maid. That ain’t me. I know that he got married to an inexperienced pickme and had a baby with her, I just feel so bad for her. I’d kill myself if I had to stay with him.

Habahaba3 · 2020-03-14T14:04:16+00:00

My LVM ex boyfriend had bed bugs for 3 months and didn’t tell me.

cumlady · 2020-03-15T04:27:42+00:00

Not my story, but a former friend’s. I was best friends with a girl way back when. I was 19 or so and she was a few years older. She had a boyfriend of about a year who also became my friend. Their relationship was some kind of fucked up. Basically my friend would tell me that if her bf wouldn’t propose by the time she was 25, then she was leaving him. Well, 25 came and went. No proposal, but she never left. Soon after, she actually went out and bought herself an engagement ring and then told all their friends and family that he had proposed and they were getting married. I knew he hadn’t proposed, but dude just said nothing so I assumed he was ok with it. My friend begins planning her wedding. She’s so happy, trying on dresses and the whole nine yards. She even set a date and put down a deposit on a venue. Then, maybe like three months from the wedding day, her bf tells her he doesn’t want to get married. He didn’t want to actually break up with her, but he didn’t want to get married. My friend was absolutely devastated. She cried and begged but he had all these excuses. Did she break up with him? Hell, no! They stayed together and as far as I know they’re still together but not married. But after that episode I swore I was never going to be like her.

azngirl7689 · 2020-03-15T15:24:08+00:00

I gave an ex 3 chances to stop sexting me and speak to me like a friend (like he insisted we stay after the breakup.....) I should’ve put my foot down after the first dick pic. I really thought telling him to make conversation with me like I was a person was something I had to do.......

Title	Cringe stories from your past
Author	ThunderofHipHippos
Upvotes	69
Comments	50
Date	March 14, 2020 1:52 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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