Ladies, I don't know if this belong here but need to vent/tell someone in case this can help you! I met a man out and about when I was with a friend, we exchanged numbers and went on 2 dates. He said he was divorced 4 years with 2 kids. After the 2nd date he wanted to lock me in for another date but I wasn't available on that particular night. His reaction to that triggered a red flag for me, because after I told him for the 3rd time that I couldn't do that night, and asked him to pick another night he said (via text) something along the lines of "I guess it's for the best." RED FLAG

So, I did a little digging:

(1) First I searched his phone number to get his last name and confirm his first name

(2) Then I searched divorce records on the county court records search portal (public information). I couldn't find any record of divorce.

(3) Then with searching his name, I found his current address

(4) I then searched for the address on the recorder of deeds website (or you can search the property tax records online to get the PIN and then search recorder of deeds website with the PIN) depending on how your county handles these types of public searches.

And guess what I found, a property record, recorded mortgage with his name, his wife's name "as husband and wife" with the date of the mortgage (within the last 3 years).

Then some other red flags from lies he told about his divorce, relationship with his "ex-wife", co-parenting were brought to surface I am so annoyed I missed them and just trusted this man to not be a con artist! Example: I asked about his living situation, he joked "well I don't have roommates." I meant more so, do the kids share a room, do you have a play area or backyard. But when you aren't on high alert for lies and just enjoying a fun date, hard to see in the moment that someone is being evasive and purposefully vague.

I sent him a long well worded text calling him out for his behavior and blocked him without waiting for a response.

Worthless jerk and his poor wife and kids having to have that kind of infidelity and sociopathic behavior in their home.