Queens, here's my theory and would love to hear your wisdom about this!

Feeling irritation at someone's mannerisms is your intuition telling you that something is disingenuous about this person.

We can sense the subtleties of facial expressions, hand movements, body movements not aligning with the sentiments the person is trying to convey.

Backstory:

For the past few months I have been vetting a man and I could not understand why his mannerisms irritated me so much!

Examples: His facial expressions were exaggerated, his hand movements were so annoying, the noises he made in lieu of laughing made me cringe, even the way he talked the pauses and cadence made my blood boil sometimes.

I felt like something was wrong with me like I was unable to accept someone for their unique personality traits or that I was unable to accept someone who was not as poised as I wanted, or whatever it was, I blamed myself. This is not first that I have been around a man whose mannerisms irritated me. He otherwise, was portraying some HVM qualities, he was attentive, caring, helpful, always planning the next date, sent me flowers weekly. But something about his mannerisms made me cringe.

And then it hit me after realizing some other things that were off with this particular scrote. (I ended things). He annoyed me so much because he was being disingenuous and he was trying to be someone he was not, he was faking maturity and HVM qualities when in actuality he was an insecure passive aggressive scrote and my intuition was telling me that all along! More and more red flags started popping up as he got more and more comfortable. When I asked him about his over exaggerated facial expressions, he said he knows how to “behave” in public and around new people. And that no one else in his life has had an issue with it, later he confessed one of his exes pointed it out as well. He would forget things that he told me, contradict himself, pretend to know something about a certain topic he was actually clueless about, usually politics. So glad to be done with this one!

Also, as an aside, a vetting question to use in the initial dating process: What do you want out of life for your future wife/partner?

The goal being to see if the person has ever thought about or if they have the ability to think about on the spot what they want out of life for a person they love or if they can even articulate care and wants for another person. The one man I asked it to so far, drew a complete blank and had a difficult time answering this which was a red flag, IMHO.