How do you ladies feel about men using OnlyFans?

PollyAnnaSunshine · 2020-07-06T16:55:38+00:00

It is cheating and I would dump him. Same as cam girls or prostitution IMO.

Sage_Planter · 2020-07-06T17:04:05+00:00

It's all extremely low value behavior. I can't think of a single good argument a man could use to justify paying for OnlyFans.

And yes, the same men who will gladly throw their money at random women online will get upset if a woman doesn't pay on the first date.

redbirdflies · 2020-07-06T17:01:40+00:00

Any guy who uses that site is an immediate throwaway. No exceptions.

Neorago · 2020-07-06T17:17:03+00:00

It doesn't matter if onlyfans is "less" damaging to women, anything that exploits a woman's vulnerability or need for male validation is bad IMO. So any man that feels his need to see a naked woman is more important than the exploitation of women is low value IMO.

devoushka · 2020-07-06T17:56:09+00:00

Paying for porn is a sign of fiscal irresponsibility and poor impulse control. The same guys that pay $25/month to random naked women on the internet would probably call you a gold digging whore if you were dating them and asked them to cover your Netflix subscription.

2020-07-06T17:25:39+00:00

All porn in every form is cheating and low value behaviour. Don't be the "cool" girl no matter how much they gaslight you.

Also i made a post on this a little while ago, dont be this person. https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/gqdksh/theyre_really_fighting_about_the_right_way_for/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share

OrchidLion · 2020-07-06T17:23:22+00:00

It's unacceptable.

Don't care if it's closer or further from cheating lol. I don't like it and I don't accept it.

Women make the rules and we don't need to justify our boundaries. They just have to obey.

Fatt3stAveng3r · 2020-07-06T17:02:27+00:00

It's the same damage to the women, and it's more personalized so it's a bit worse.

2020-07-06T17:55:33+00:00

I find it pretty pathetic if a man feels the need to pay for porn. There’s so much free porn out there. But I would never date a man that consumes any type of porn anyway, whether it’s free or not. It’s not a secret how terrible the industry is, and if he doesn’t care then it shows he doesn’t care about women at all outside of using them for his own pleasure.

htp5643 · 2020-07-06T17:30:50+00:00

In a way it is less damaging to women because the women that use it have more agency than women in porn do. The content they post is on their terms. However, men are still creeps and can harass a woman even if they are only interacting with her virtually. There are also consequences that will follow these women when/if they decide to stop. And it’s sad that we live in a society that undervalues the labor of women to the point that they often make more money selling sex than they do after spending 4 years in school to become a nurse or a teacher.

Also, a man paying to wack off to a specific woman is worse than browsing a porn site IMO. If he’s willing to open his pockets to some random girl on OnlyFans that doesn’t know he exists, he is going to be more likely to cheat when a woman in the flesh that he is attracted to shows interest. These types of men will actively seek opportunities to have sex with other women behind your back too.

igotchugirl · 2020-07-06T17:25:30+00:00

One of the guys I subscribe to on YouTube has an onlyfans. He dresses up like a father and apologizes for all the things your father did and tells you how proud of you he is.

ReignRain95 · 2020-07-06T19:50:44+00:00

Social Media has ruined relationships. Stuff that seems like it’s not a big deal, is, because it still shows you that your man is looking elsewhere. I dumped my last boyfriend because he was constantly liking sexy Instagram photos.

warinmymind94 · 2020-07-06T19:42:52+00:00

A hvm wouldn't be using onlyfans. It's the same as paying for prostitution or a lap dance. I wouldnt tolerate it normally but I especially wouldnt tolerate it if he was dating me, its an automatic dealbreaker and usually a red flag of porn sick limp dick. If hes in a relationship and using only fans /paying for cam girls it's the same as cheating.

abstractsadgurl · 2020-07-06T17:48:01+00:00

Nah I'll pass on a guy like that

Fiebre · 2020-07-06T20:46:17+00:00

All the same shit to me.

2020-07-06T20:36:17+00:00

Cheating, nasty. Using sex workers is a boundary for me.

West-Cook · 2020-07-06T20:31:52+00:00

I know I keep good company because the few men in my life ruthlessly mock the whole concept and their user base. Tbf the only man whose phone I have access to is my fiancé’s so I can’t be sure my other friends don’t use only fans, but still.

Shaakie · 2020-07-06T21:53:05+00:00

Cheating.

I'd leave after getting a nice dinner from him. Fuck that.

yggiwtmiih · 2020-07-07T02:40:39+00:00

Honestly, porn has become so normalized, but it's a very weird concept if you think of it at its barest components:

Let's say there were no screens, no TVs, no computers, no phones.

Can you imagine your boyfriend or husband going to a public theater to watch two people fuck in person? How about to just see a single woman do erotic poses or touch herself? How about every single day?

Why is it okay now that it's on a screen?

People through history have wanted to see the naked female form, right? Erotic artwork has been around since caveman times, they say prostitution is the oldest profession in the world, there were cabarets and now there are strip clubs.

Everyone's looked at engaging in these behaviors as skeevy, and anyone would definitely give someone the side eye if they went to a strip club or prostitute daily.

We've only had modern pornography for roughly the last what, about 15 years or so? (I would say around then, most middle class households had an internet connected computer.) The modern human, according to science, has been around for 200,000 years. Porn just isn't natural for our species to have access to 24/7 like this.

I'm willing to bet in like 20 years, the scientific community is going to come out and say that this has destroyed men's brains worse than we originally imagined. It's awful that it's such a normalized thing.

skyerippa · 2020-07-07T02:49:17+00:00

It’s worse to me than watching regular porn videos if my partner is doing it.

Not sure about my stance on it for single guys

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2020-07-07T02:22:13+00:00

NOPE NO NO NOPE! It’s cheating and shouldn’t be tolerated.

2020-07-07T02:34:22+00:00

I think we should clarify what we feel about Only Fans in general. Men who use it - throw away. No exceptions. It’s not only photos, they pay to chat directly with the women. It’s another porn platform that is damaging to women, reiterated by all these points we’ve made under this post.

I’m against sex work. BUT a user can post whatever content they want so it can be a photo that you see on Instagram. In which you know a lot of women post WAY too much on there. So hear me out, at least those who just switched platforms are getting money for things that were once free. Whether it be for attention or any other reason I’m glad they are making men at least pay for these photos. Still don’t support it though 🤷‍♀️

immortallogic · 2020-07-07T04:05:25+00:00

To find out - are what types of accounts he follows on social media particularly IG, bring up the topic in casual conversation (damn, what are your thoughts on the rise in cam sites) or something similar.

If you find out - dump his ass. Period. Don't allow yourself to be disrespected like that.

And please girl, refrain from the phrase "bad bitches" it does absolutely nothing to elevate women. Consider sis, or sister. Women calling themselves/each other bitches/ho's etc is not empowering, it just feeds into the names given to women by a society that doesn't respect them.

GRCA · 2020-07-06T17:54:32+00:00

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