How to raise a hvm....

arwenagon24999 · 2020-12-03T22:44:46+00:00

More like how to raise a functioning adult lol

ThrowawayKITTY777 · 2020-12-04T00:22:36+00:00

I hate how the world STILL perpetuates the idea that men shouldn't cook and clean.

My dad didn't learn how to until he married my mom. My grandmother used to go to his bachelor apartment and clean up after dad and his roommate and leave him casseroles even when he was in his last year of college. So until my mom got a hold of him he'd never done a load of laundry, washed a dish, made dinner... not once in his life.

My mom used to joke about "I should have gotten a puppy, not gotten married, puppies are easier to train."

At least my little brother got raised better, he knows how to do all the housework the right way and he keeps his place nice and neat.

It's just basic being an adult and so many men don't/can't/won't

🤬🤬🤬

-pop-fizz-clink · 2020-12-03T22:55:22+00:00

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if11bravehawk · 2020-12-03T22:56:50+00:00

I hope someday soon society normalizes men/boys cleaning and cooking and doing chores, just like how women/girls are expected to do those things when growing up

maybeathrowaway5678 · 2020-12-04T02:00:26+00:00

She should’ve taught him waaay earlier than 14.

kittykittywoofwoof · 2020-12-04T02:30:46+00:00

I just bought both of my sons (elementary age) kid Garmin watches. The steps counting thing is nice but I can assign chores and give them stars. It’s just fucking stars and they love it. They want to clean and take care of the pets and help cook. They need to learn how to be functioning adults. I refuse to cater to them beyond being a loving, supportive mother. I’m here to support and guide, facilitate your growth into adulthood. Not do that shit FOR you 😤

EclecticBarbarella · 2020-12-04T00:22:01+00:00

I get her point but this seems like a very personal and emotionally charged overreaction for a teenager complaining about chores. If her first impulse is to slap her kid because he doesn’t want to do the dishes, it doesn’t seem like good parenting to me.

MummyCroc · 2020-12-04T13:11:33+00:00

One thing I am thankful for, is that my mama never allowed my brother to get out of doing housework because he was male. And for African families, this is a huge deal because a 7 year old girl in some families is made to cook for adult males if there are no older women around.

My mother in law also had a similar policy, so my husband cleans ,cooks and parents our kids when he is off work while I am at work. And he doesn't whine about it because he knows being an adult means doing adult shit.

I have 2 toddler boys, and I'm continuing the the tradition. They will learn to take care of themselves and do chores.

luna_prismatic · 2020-12-04T04:00:45+00:00

And then that boy grows up to be a hateful, resentful misogynist who blames all his shortcomings on his “bitch mother” who wouldn’t let him do whatever the fuck he wanted, whenever, and however he wanted. He then claims it was obviously an abusive and traumatizing childhood. Deep, deep sigh.

heroic_nincompoop · 2020-12-04T04:16:13+00:00

I wonder why the person who made this post didn't tell us what their son said next...14-year-old boys are notorious for their love of female slurs...

sarahbae03 · 2020-12-04T03:34:07+00:00

OMG yes!

GretaTheBeeotch · 2020-12-04T03:41:08+00:00

PREACH!!

EurasianEmpress · 2020-12-04T01:11:08+00:00

Ehh I think it’s too late for this scrotelet. He’ll just find a LVW who will take his shit and pamper him.

draconicomma · 2020-12-04T22:50:40+00:00

🤠 my family home is/was perpetually dirty when I lived there because my little sister and I (I’m the oldest) were left to take care of the entire house (which housed 6). My mom spoiled and babied my brothers (especially the middle child one). My mom and him could be described as that cringe saying “I asked God for a man and unconditional love and he gave me a son <3” except my brother would probably call her a bitch 😂. These boys were not taught to clean up after themselves or wash dishes until they reached 13-15. My lil sister and I were expected and taught to clean house at the age of 8. Even when they knew HOW, dishes and laundry would just stack up for days, getting nastier and nastier because it would literally be their turn on the rotation. They still don’t get it.

2020-12-04T06:39:03+00:00

We need more moms like her.

Title	How to raise a hvm....
Author	libralia
Upvotes	767
Comments	40
Date	December 3, 2020 10:36 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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