Link: https://hackspirit.com/what-men-want-in-relationship/#:~:text=Men%20want%20to%20be%20treated,the%20same%20things%20as%20women.

The opening paragraph starts with “Men want to be treated in a way that doesn’t diminish their egos or make them feel inadequate.”

Oh boy, it’s not a woman’s responsibility to maintain his fragile ego. Besides, having an ego isn’t healthy. They should shed ego altogether and learn to be self-validated without being coddled and lied to by a woman who in turn has to dim her light to keep him from feeling threatened and “unneeded”.

“In order to get your partner to commit, you simply have to convince him that this relationship is something he needs.”

Nope. Women don’t need to convince men to commit to them. If he wanted to, he would. Men already have made up their mind within mere seconds if they want to pursue a woman or not. Or else a woman would just be a placeholder if she is the one who pursues.

“1. Praise him.

The Need: To hear your approval and admiration

Satisfy It By: Complimenting him regularly

Men have surprisingly vulnerable egos so let your praise loose. Take time to remind your partner what you like about him and reassure him about all his qualities.”

Uhm, no. Just no. Like I said before, he shouldn’t have a fragile ego in the first place. He has to learn how to be self-validated, not rely on others’ approval and validation to fill in the void. Walk away if you meet a guy like this. This type of guy tends to be hateful and jealous and expects you to dim your light not to threaten his ego.

"2. Make him feel like a ‘hero’

The Need: To feel needed.

Show him that you value his opinions and cherish his advice. Always express how much you look up to his competency and never humiliate him when he doesn’t live up to your expectations."

Women shouldn’t be in the position where they need a guy. Independent women shouldn’t make men feel emasculated. It’s not healthy to foster co-dependency. Also, it shouldn’t be humiliating to receive constructive criticism on making a mistake. That’s how we learn and grow. Coddling and lying to keep them from feeling “humiliated” and emasculated is a huge turn-off. It’s hard to be attracted to a man like that. It’s such a low value trait. Feeling any form of emasculation is a low-value trait. Full stop. Period. Because it requires women to diminish herself to keep men on the pedestal in order to not make men emasculated.

"3. Allow him to be vulnerable.

The Need: To have a safe space for his emotions

Satisfy It By: Being there for him and helping him heal

As a partner, you have to nurture him when he lets the cracks in his armour show.

You have to learn how to help him work through negative emotions such as sadness or fear without pushing him away.

Otherwise, you will never be able to bridge that emotional gap."

Women are not rehabilitation centres. Go to fucking therapy and learn to build healthy emotional self-regulation skills. Stop with this nonsense. Women are not equipped to do emotional labour work.

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It was a mess of an article. It was too much to unpack, so I'm gonna stop there. I can't believe how normalized these stupid advices are. I constantly see these advices from men and women everywhere while growing up. It's literally everywhere. In media. In dating spaces. Every-fucking-where.

I'm grateful for FDS for making me feel like I'm not crazy for being against these harmful messages where women should bear all the responsibilities while men don't have to do shit while expecting to be praised.