No such thing as too picky

shortywannarock · 2020-11-23T23:01:06+00:00

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kimmysradscreename · 2020-11-24T00:33:06+00:00

Be picky early on! It's so much easier to avoid a bad marriage than it is to leave one.

SavingsStrength0 · 2020-11-23T22:34:51+00:00

I’d rather end up single than with a ZVM. You’re just adding stress to your life and having to take care of another child, if you do decide have kids with him. No ty!

CassieGreen85 · 2020-11-24T05:10:35+00:00

Plenty of married women are, for all terms and purposes, single or single moms; too many absent fathers who just do fuck-all around the house.

In fact it's worse, since he expects her to cater to him too with sex and emotional labor (on top of already picking up after his messes, cooking for him, etc)

Might as well just have a kid by yourself, at least there's no man to pull you down.

dreaminabottle · 2020-11-23T23:13:55+00:00

Either divorced, or together but absolutely miserable. Unfortunately, people think together but miserable is better than alone and happy 🤷🏻‍♀️

Danigirl_03 · 2020-11-23T23:09:50+00:00

I’ve got the divorce from the ZVM already. I’d rate be be single. I learned from my mistakes lol.

SirCrowDevoidOfCorn · 2020-11-24T03:36:15+00:00

Oh hell to the yeah! You're going to end up spending a couple of years unable to admit to yourself that you made a mistake, followed by a few years of slowly accepting the fact that you married into a shitty marriage and you're ashamed to admit it to your family and friends. After a suitable length of time has gone by where you think it's socially acceptable to get a divorce, you'll get a divorce. It will take a few years and age you as he drags you through the court system. Finally you'll be divorced and onky need a few years of therapy to get normal after all the damage he did to you.

Source: Had so many friends and family do exactly that. It's practically the norm.

Equal-Ear2312 · 2020-11-24T03:50:59+00:00

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LegallyParis · 2020-11-24T01:57:46+00:00

And that's the tea. ☕

Not-A-SoggyBagel · 2020-11-24T06:23:25+00:00

This. This to infinity. Keep to your standards and don't settle for anything less than your standards. Its better to live a good life on your own than stuck to an uncaring partner who drags you down. I used to lower my standards to one desired trait, "understanding". I went on roughly 5 dates a week for years trying to find one man that fit that one standard. Could not find one truly empathetic man at all. Found a lot of fake feminists.

When I expanded my standards to someone my equal, I found my lovely partner. She's my bestfriend and she's as generous, kind, empathetic as I am.

We are queens, and have both left men behind. All the men we had dated never met our standards. In either of our dating pools they weren't as gentle, fit, emotionally intelligent, equal in appearances or behaved inappropriately, weren't as cleanly, or financially secure as either of us yet asked for so much more of us.

If I was straight, I'd probably be alone. I don't know how you all wade through this swamp of an endless ocean searching for a bluefin tuna amongst all the plastic floating garbage.

randomgirlimok · 2020-11-24T02:10:14+00:00

Or stay together but miserable

breadandbunny · 2020-11-24T06:51:25+00:00

Having found my man, I can't believe I once settled for less than what I want and need in a relationship. I have let go of who I used to be when I would do that. I haven't suffered through a divorce, though. Thankfully.

SayNad · 2020-11-24T14:33:09+00:00

A yes alone, in a moderately spacious house with big windows overlooking the lake. And when the night's thunderstorm came for a visit, I will be in my couch, wrapped in darkness with a cup of coffee and watching the rain hits the glass in the rush of tap-tap-tap. How horrible.

libralia · 2020-11-24T03:31:21+00:00

Or both. 😫😂

Equal-Ear2312 · 2020-11-24T10:10:16+00:00

IDK why people think of divorce as something bad. When most things fail, divorce is a good thing. People should go into marriage with full knowledge that it is a contract and that most contracts can go through dissolution. Most of the women I went to college with are divorced. I am happy for them that at least they did not continue in a situation that was clearly detrimental to them. Marriage is a civil right and is regulated by the state, thus it is a type of contract. Hope for the best, but prepare for the worst - meaning that a prenup should be there for a reason. Therefore, if you had a prenup with an adultery clause, if the court enforces the agreement, you could be sure that you would get a greater payout upon the dissolution of the marriage.

pikkpie · 2020-11-24T03:07:23+00:00

Got'em.

pinkliquor · 2020-11-24T14:15:52+00:00

My friend always says this to me but yet her husband has cheated multiple times and doesn’t help her around the house or with anything. My mom always says this to me too but she is her husbands slave, all he has to do is come home from work and he gets dinner, lunches packed, a clean house, she makes all his phone calls and appts, grocery shops etc. And I’m just like, I never want to be married to someone if that’s what it would be. No thank you, I’ll enjoy my singleness instead.

StellarSunDance · 2020-11-24T17:52:33+00:00

Being single =/= Alone.

Also, I'd rather be single forever than with a LVM/NVM.

butterflyfrenchfry · 2020-11-24T04:16:16+00:00

PREACH 🙌🏼

_HEDONISM_BOT · 2020-11-29T00:21:42+00:00

I'm always surprised that people look at being "single" and "alone" as some sort of awful, permanent, irredeemable character flaw.

I implore you all to go check out the divorce subs. Married people who settled down with the wrong person are out there paying $300k, $600k, $120k + to be single again. That's like the price of a nice house.... A grad degree?? Really expensive plastic surgery?? Idk?

Being single isn't the boogeyman they think it is. The REAL boogeyman is an expensive, nasty, messy divorce that takes years to get through and leaves you permanently scarred.

Have ya'll read half of the shituationships that are happening on the dating/relationship subs? Some people are so miserable in their "relationship", I'm left wondering how any of that is in any way, shape, or form, an upgrade over being single? Like How? Explain it to me.

4BigData · 2020-11-24T07:17:34+00:00

Didn't she end up divorced because Brad got too much into alcohol after getting too much into weed while with Jennifer Aniston?

Title	No such thing as too picky
Author	hahsatan72
Upvotes	2195
Comments	39
Date	November 23, 2020 10:26 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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