Normalize divorcing ain’t sh*t men

Goosehasthreelegs · 2020-08-30T22:23:19+00:00

I did too! Happiest day of my life after an emotionally and physically abusive six years. :)

moxymoxalone · 2020-08-30T22:19:29+00:00

Truly, the day my divorce was final was to that point the happiest day of my life.

xYennefer · 2020-08-30T23:42:39+00:00

This is so important. We don’t live in a utopia where all men are HVM. The majority of them turn out to be lazy, unmannered, misogynistic, sexist, cheating, abusive trash after marriage, and sometimes before. The stigma around divorce is for the MANS BENEFIT ONLY. DIVORCED WOMEN get shamed, but divorced men are perfectly fine! Fuck this logic. Men created this garbage stigma to force women to devote her life caring for the scrote, being his free bangmaid, and raise his kids, while hes putting the LEAST amount of effort into her. Low value men LOVE women who take their abuse, neglect and give up their bodies for him. And of course, he’s secured behind the idea that she will never divorce him because she doesn’t want to be shamed and hated by her family and society! He can put absolutely no effort, and get away with it because the person whos suffers the most from a fucking divorce is the woman! Tell me this is not a fucking misogynistic world!

apple_cores · 2020-08-30T21:27:49+00:00

I say normalize because in my culture and religion (Christian), divorce is very taboo. I’ve seen countless women stay with their awful husbands because divorce is one of the worst sins to commit. I say enough is enough. People can change after marriage, men can scheme and manipulate you into marrying them. You are not the problem, they are. Divorce. You deserve good things.

2020-08-31T01:26:01+00:00

I really needed this because it reminded me of how two months after we separated, he started dating and sleeping around, while I waited a full year to work on myself and decided to go on a few dates.

The shame I was faced with for it being "too early" yet he had zero repercussions for putting in zero effort to see our child, never once tried to prove saving the marriage, sleeping around right away, etc. So I'll be damned. I celebrate that I left. And fuck the divorce shaming that we deal with, as well as the bullshit of "too early to date" or "times a ticking you're not getting any younger".

I'd also like to add that they (NVM/LVM) love to drag out the divorce as long as they can because we are still legally attached to them and likely have their last name over our heads. But again, they get no shame for starting over within a few months, weeks or even days. Damned if you do, damned if you don't. I'll take a slice.

Pasdepromesses · 2020-08-30T21:22:04+00:00

Good for them. I would too if I were married to a N/LVM.

SayNad · 2020-08-31T01:50:03+00:00

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bonnie_no_shame · 2020-08-30T21:42:44+00:00

I think this aesthetic is kind of ironic. It uses the vibe of a prom or an engagement - rites of passages of the beginnings. The execution is overdone, because it tries to go against the stereotype: divorce is failure, it’s the ending, and a divorced women is worthless. The message is divorce is something worth celebration, it’s the new beginning, and the divorced women is free, fresh and autonome.

Adventurous_Rise_307 · 2020-08-30T22:06:23+00:00

I plan on celebrating mine both when I file then when it’s finalized

GlobalDynamicsEureka · 2020-08-30T23:18:29+00:00

Honestly, you can't even be sure after two years who a person is. I don't want to be anyone's forever gf, but I am technically still married to a man I dated for two years. The timeline was right, and it felt like the logical next step. That doesn't mean it should have been. Lesson learned.

2020-08-31T03:37:16+00:00

Hell yes! Celebrate that!

gothoneybones · 2020-08-31T00:46:20+00:00

I LOVE ALL OF THIS! Seriously, divorce SHOULD be celebrated. No good marriage ever ends in divorce. I'm legit planning my divorce party when my ex finally does his part to finish filing.

Got an idea from another post on here to throw a "Nacho Wife" party, totally going to invite all my friends to join me on discord to stream tacky movies while eating nachos. & hell yes I'm going to get a tacky cake for it. 😎

(I'm also debating taking the piss out of engagement/pregnancy announcement photos and hiring a photographer to do a "Newly Single" professional shoot but that might be extra dramatic XD )

warinmymind94 · 2020-08-31T02:12:33+00:00

Yes! We need to start celebrating divorce as it can be freeing and empowering especially when it comes to leaving a manipulate or rapey LVM

2020-08-31T14:16:13+00:00

Twice this weekend, I mentioned being divorced to some female acquaintances and they both, individually, went on about the merits of alimony.

I am very secure in who I am and what I stand for, so I didn’t bother to inform them that I didn’t ask for a dime from my ex husband. I made more than he did and left all of my hand picked and self purchased furniture at our old home because it reminded me of him. And I mailed him back his ring (that was a hand me down).

Let them think I’m some kept woman 😂 I have no desire to prove myself to relative strangers.

Blacktontonguetoffee · 2020-08-31T03:25:51+00:00

Normalize not marrying shit men just bc you ‘want’ to get married

gigi_chi · 2020-08-30T23:32:48+00:00

I actually love this concept 😂

basicgirl2022 · 2020-08-31T04:28:25+00:00

She looks like a queen

MonicaLSolis · 2020-08-31T10:18:41+00:00

There should be no stigma around divorce. No two people be forced to stay together for the sake of tradition

Elturtleo · 2020-08-31T13:05:40+00:00

I think divorce parties are a great idea. My mom didn’t have a party but we did go out to eat to celebrate her being divorced for 10 years. We ate our favorite food and made fun of him lol.

KetoKittenAround · 2020-08-31T17:03:32+00:00

I’m a happy divorcée and loving life!!!

apple_cores · 2020-08-30T21:28:08+00:00

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Title	Normalize divorcing ain’t sh*t men
Author	apple_cores
Upvotes	956
Comments	49
Date	August 30, 2020 9:21 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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