Has anyone else noticed the influx of pickme energy that's flowing through fds lately??

it's strong and strange af.

Although I am new to reddit, I am not new to fds type principles and joined to be surrounded by like minded people.

It is becoming more and more apparent that people are not following the rules, Especially the one that states read the handbook before posting .

Types of pickme energy I've been seeing.

"He doesn't treat me very well should I leave him"

Having long ass conversations with men who clearly showed they were of little to no value from the start.

The sudden need / want to clean up after men and buy them gifts when you're only a gf or have just barely entered a "commitment"

The undying desperation to find a hvm that you consider/ confuse every male you encounter online with a HVM

The constant debate on if you should send nudes " well I think it's okay" or "it's not a big deal "no the answer is and will always be no. Don't be dumb

Ladies if you are joining fds that means you want better for yourself , and are willing to put in the work regardless of the opinion of men and how you still want to go about trying to please them.

I don't want to be mean or attack anyone but we should all keep in mind that we are here to better ourselves and our fellow women.

Edit: to be clear. I'm not saying people change over night or instantly.
What I'm saying is using the resources available to you and applying the advice given to you shows the initiative and or willingness to make changes that will hopefully benefit people in the long run. A lot of people (this is quite common ) just want to vent (which is fine) and don't actually want to make changes for fear of being alone and things of that nature..and while I understand this , it is a waste of other people's time and concern. What I have noticed about fds is that this is an environment that genuinely cares about the well-being of others. Yes some of the advice is harsh...but sometimes tough love is needed.