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[–]neonfairylightsFDS Newbie178 points179 points180 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Pls tell me this is a joke...
[–][deleted] 67 points68 points69 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yea like WTF?
[–]esthermaniiiFDS Newbie144 points145 points146 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Stockholm syndrome. This is scary. It’s wild how even porn conditions women to be okay with being abused.
[–]DoeEyedBrownSkinFDS Newbie56 points57 points58 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lol what a roller coaster.
[–]szuszik4FDS Newbie93 points94 points95 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
There are so many things wrong with this.
If your boyfriend loves you, then how can he agree to physically hurt you? Surely normal, empathetic people would feel distressed at punching someone they love in the face, and feel even worse when said person flinches every time they raise their hand.
Sorry but there is something wrong with people who enjoy being physically hurt or hurting others. Especially people who gleefully brag about it to strangers on public forums.
[–]asteria2002FDS Apprentice50 points51 points52 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is what I always say. If your bf agrees to hurt you, he doesn't love you! No one who loves will harm or hurt you in any way, let alone enjoy it also. But men don't love women they hate us.
[–]fim_de_semanaFDS Apprentice36 points37 points38 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I’ve been there. FDS made me see that men who are into kink are shit.
But that shit…stems from somewhere. I wonder what caused it.
[–]Used-ScreenFDS Newbie18 points19 points20 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I think war games
I’ve been studying a lot and there is a certain technique to Invading a territory and rape and child abuse is a huge part of it. Then because men went through it together they become trauma bonded over it, simultaneously agreeing to never talk about it, then they came back and literally put that ugliness into women through their angry sex. The whole Jeffrey Epstein thing is the most modern iteration, but basically men have always used the line between shame/excitement over group sexual violence and and blackmailed each other with it for money and power.
The codes of the brotherhood and all of that. Freemasonry, skull and bones.. the framework for frat life. It’s all just this post war ptsd programming that’s now being exploited through violent content which is on demand and free. They’re being sooooooo manipulated through porn and they just have no idea how much damage there is. But women know. We’ve always known, and we’ve always absorbed it and now we’re done. Now, either men learn and change with each other (holding each other accountable, not their women holding them accountable) or they continue spiraling downward into utter dysfunction. It’s a real societal hazard.
[–]Mamma_MidnightFDS Newbie11 points12 points13 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It's not just in war.
Men bond over abusing women.
Look at the Irish ruby rape trial - the four team mates worked together, not only to rape the woman, but to also conceal evidence & pervert the court of justice.
I'd bet the porn industry operates on similar bonding - all the men on the set working together to 'destroy' a woman.
[–]burntbpdFDS Newbie33 points34 points35 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Fuckity fuck fuck
[–]CelastrusTrustPickmeisha™️35 points36 points37 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
it doesn’t sound like she actually likes getting hit at all😔 i really worry about women today
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[–]leadmemoriesFDS Newbie38 points39 points40 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I used to like being hit or choked because it masked the pain I felt from penetration. Didn’t realize til recently that it hurt because there was no foreplay and it went in dry.. Never letting any of that happen again x
[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is me too. I am never going to let anyone hurt me ever again. Never. I love myself and I take care of my delicate and sensitive body now. I wish men would stop hurting women so much :( it hurts so bad, sex always hurt.
[–]MaisiebrFDS Apprentice60 points61 points62 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Not to mention that you're conditioning yourself to associate it with pleasure each time you do it during sex. It stems from somewhere but you're basically rewiring your brain even further.
[–][deleted] 28 points29 points30 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Uh, flinching? That shit is very messed up.
[–]ninetiesbaby16FDS Apprentice67 points68 points69 points 5 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
I’ve said this before but women like this need to be institutionalized for their own safety.
[–]asteria2002FDS Apprentice52 points53 points54 points 5 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Yep. Just like self harm is forbidden, this should too. But sadly it won't because it gets men peepees hard 😔
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[–]I_HATE_ECHO_CHAMBERSFDS Newbie12 points13 points14 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I’m anorexic. If I ever encounter people with views like this, I will ask them “what if guys got turned on by throwing food at me, force feeding me while calling me a disgusting, fat whore? Does it matter how obviously degrading that would be for me? What if I did like it and I told my therapist about it, what would they say?” Wouldn’t surprise me if many kinkmeishas don’t get any therapy ever.
[–]OrangeyPandaFDS Apprentice10 points11 points12 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is worthy of an entire post itself!
[–]ninetiesbaby16FDS Apprentice10 points11 points12 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
When men’s self harming behaviors cause boners in other men, the law steps in and says consent is not a defence to grievous bodily harm, such as in r v brown. In r v brown (I’m hazy on the details) there was a homosexual bdsm club where members would nail each other’s genitals to boards (among other things). All of the participants “consented” and didn’t want the law involved but the House of Lords found consent to be irrelevant in cases of grievous bodily harm and the perpetrators were found guilty.
What’s frustrating is that despite the precedent set by this case, they refused to follow it regarding women and allowed the “rough sex” defence to fly until recently. So one can only conclude that women are allowed to be hurt and injured for the sake of men’s pleasure, but God forbid a homosexual man get victimized in the same way.
[–]suncolorFDS Newbie10 points11 points12 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Holy... this comment definitely introduced an aspect I hadn’t thought of.
[–][deleted] 16 points17 points18 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I used to be a kinkmeisha! I've been through therapy regarding the types of relationships I used to seek but I never felt comfortable enough to discuss kink.
I obviously know that this isn't what I want anymore but I never really explored why I looked for it in the first place.
If anyone has any books/articles/videos they'd like to share about this topic (realising you're not kinky and it's just trauma) please let me know!
[–]textbasedpanda7 points8 points9 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Following this thread- I'm interested too!
[–][deleted] 4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I might do some research myself and write about it 🤔
[–]Lavender_flowFDS Disciple15 points16 points17 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
wtf did I just read
[–]YbhVanFDS Newbie16 points17 points18 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Her boyfriend now has a positive reinforcement for hitting her....
[–][deleted] 10 points11 points12 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That's an interesting point actually. I know that sociopaths will actively seek this type of kink so they can legitimately hit women so they don't get charged for it. However, for a man that's not a sadist or a sociopath (maybe a people pleaser) it must change his neural networks like porn does.
If you ask your BF to hit you or choke you when he has never done this before then you're creating toxicity. He is perpetuating it through compliance and it works in reverse too.
[–]OrangeyPandaFDS Apprentice14 points15 points16 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
All I see is a story about an abusive man and a traumatized woman coping. Non-abusive people wouldn't hit someone, even if they were asked too.
[–][deleted] 29 points30 points31 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
"but kinks are healthy and normal between consensual adults! 1!1!!!1 don't kink shame!! 1!1!11!""
[–]Phoenix__Rising2018Ruthless Strategist14 points15 points16 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Men have so much power and it's still not good enough for them.
[–]honeybeerollFDS Disciple13 points14 points15 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The mental fucking gymnastics. It's like her subconscious is crying out for help but she's so brainwashed she chooses not to see it.
[–]rinabeanFDS Apprentice10 points11 points12 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
wow, it's almost like there is no such thing as "in bed" and "in the bedroom", because your sex life is just the parts of your life when you are having sex and not actually a separate woman's separate life
It's horrifying the knots we can tie ourselves into. The things we can't see even if we literally write them down.
[–]the-red_womanFDS Disciple22 points23 points24 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA the brain cells on this one!!!
This girl is the one the other pickmeisha’s pray to for guidance 😂😂😂
[–]MagnfiqueMaleficentFDS Disciple7 points8 points9 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It’s a cry for help.
[–]juliet-eliaFDS Newbie6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Even if you're into that kind of bs: If you flinch when he lifts his hand, he isn't safely "slapping you bc its your kink" he must actively beat you during sex to develop such a trauma response. You know who else flinches when her man lifts his hand? An abused gf/wife.
[–]_xyoungbellax_FDS Apprentice4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just gotta say umm wtf girl???
The lies you tell yourself...
[–]yanyanfanFDS Newbie[🍰] 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yikes this made me flinch just reading it....
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