Looking back, I’ve noticed a major pattern. You ladies ever have LVM’s from your pickme days tell you, why are you on your phone watching that video? It’s time to sleep! Or if you have cramps or a stuffy nose or night sweats (hormonal mayhem) they are downright annoyed by you as if you are keeping them up when you are just minding your own business? Let me tell you something... I never thought of how much of a deal breaker this was until I remember how HVM ex would remind me how beautiful I was, when I was sick with colds and sinus infection, messy hair and breathe right strips on my nose. I tossed all night that night and tried to breathe out of my nose only to fall asleep around 2 am. The first thing out of this man’s mouth was him asking me if I was okay because he noticed I wasn’t able to sleep at all. He said he felt so bad knowing that I couldn’t sleep, he even knew what times I woke up to use the bathroom. He was genuinely concerned for my well-being and told me to rest that day and call out of work. While I would never move in before getting married now, ladies, remember a true HVM will care more about you and your health than his own. He will not get grumpy and upset and he won’t make you feel horrible for wanting to stay up talking to him about your dreams before you fall asleep.