this angers me so much

thirdtoebean · 2020-11-28T11:35:19+00:00

And, of course, you can solve problems with such men by 'communicating' with them

azureangel35 · 2020-11-28T13:35:55+00:00

my ex literally said to me it's hard to keep up when you make more than one point/mention more than one subject in a text. I'm childfree by choice so I don't have time to teach reading comprehension to half wits.

luna_prismatic · 2020-11-28T11:55:17+00:00

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sstena · 2020-11-28T14:13:56+00:00

Men aren't your friends.

Alpha_Aries · 2020-11-28T13:57:11+00:00

I’ve been lucky enough to have dated guys that called me on the phone, regularly and at length. It’s so much more intimate and relaxing. I’m kind of spoiled in that regard, because I’m just not impressed by texting.

BashRunes · 2020-11-28T15:31:17+00:00

Used to be a serial paragraph typer. Now people wonder why I don't send more than a sentence anymore.

If it's not this, it's "okay/k/yeah" or just being steamrolled by someone else's anger when they haven't even bothered to read what I've already said.

prettyexcitingnews · 2020-11-28T15:28:16+00:00

They will never read the longass message. Don’t!

InevitableHulk · 2020-11-28T19:21:01+00:00

Oh boy. I tend to express myself better through writing than speaking - which is fine for a journal, story, or email to a loved one. Not so much when it comes to shitty men and I had the Epic Saga Text down to an art form.

If I was feeling horrible over a man (there have only been a couple I was serious about since I was married for over a decade) I thought if I just worded everything correctly, he would see the error of his ways and change his shitty behavior. I put so much time and effort into these eloquent Lord of the Rings trilogy text messages. I don’t know how it is with other phones, but you know how iPhones will collapse a long text and will open up to this word document type thing for the person reading it? Yeah, I practically invented those. Just these emotional outpourings, explicitly detailing why I was so hurt. Chapter-length texts asking for the bare minimum.

You know what it got me? JACK SHIT. Unless you count a whole lot of gaslighting, or changed behavior for a couple of days before going right back to the same old nonsense.

That post from a few days ago, the video where the woman says if you find yourself composing a text in the notes app, he ain’t the one, pretty much nailed it. If you have to text a detailed instruction manual on how to treat you properly, the man is no good and all you’re doing is wasting your energy.

These days if I’m talking to a man I’m interested in (which is rare), he gets three or four sentences tops - no matter the topic. Longer conversations are for in-person or phone calls.

(Also, another reason I used to like text so much was because I couldn’t be interrupted that way. Then I thought to myself, why in the hell am I having conversations with men who interrupt me?? These days, I cut that shit off as soon as it happens. “I wasn’t finished.” “You interrupted me.” If it continues, game over.)

_wannaseemedisco · 2020-11-28T11:37:01+00:00

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petit_rouge · 2020-11-28T19:46:04+00:00

Women: *Write 3 paragraphs detailing their feelings, complete with a clear thesis*
Men: "But what do you mean"

ChocolateBiscuit96 · 2020-11-28T20:51:21+00:00

I’ll die before I ever send another man a paragraph. They know wtf they’re doing when they treat us poorly

heythereitsemily · 2020-11-28T16:13:49+00:00

“K” 🤦🏻‍♀️

Loose-Meet · 2020-11-28T13:11:14+00:00

Never again

Optimal_Grapefruit_5 · 2020-11-28T20:29:53+00:00

They need bite-sized info they can read under 5 seconds before they start thinking of humping something again.

straighthairgreece · 2020-11-28T18:20:10+00:00

Oh they love getting that long emotional plea 🙄

wrice05 · 2020-11-28T16:09:09+00:00

#devastatinglyrelatable

2020-11-28T23:26:36+00:00

i just block. i don't bother sending even a one word answer. waste of time n energy. they don't care.

Title	this angers me so much
Author	ishika_23
Upvotes	357
Comments	44
Date	November 28, 2020 11:30 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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