This is lovely

veruscka · 2020-06-12T15:34:01+00:00

I wish more people would realize this. Some women think there’s a reward in store for always putting others’ needs ahead of their own. Not only is there no reward but often there’s not even an acknowledgement.

Take that energy you pour into your relationships and pour it into yourself.

Adminious · 2020-06-12T16:59:49+00:00

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whatisfunemployment · 2020-06-12T14:43:25+00:00

We plan our lives and allocate our energy according to relationships or events me hope MIGHT happen... I wish I had an FDS Fairy following me around and stopping me from doing this :(

seraphinelysion · 2020-06-12T18:15:12+00:00

This alone makes being single and living alone so worth it. It gives you so much clarity and insight into yourself, your space, your stuff, your finances, and your life in general. Learn to do things on your own and for yourself, not because you think someone expects anything from you. Every woman should experience this at least once in their life, just so you have a frame of reference and something to compare all your next relationships to. Is this new man worth the peace you had when you were single? If yes, carry on. If no, move on.

highoncatnipbrownies · 2020-06-12T14:04:02+00:00

I have noticed throughout my life that people just take my stuff and it is a constant battle to either get it back or stop them from helping themselves. I can't prove this is because I am a woman but it sure feels that way.

- My step mother would go through my stuff while I was at school and literally help herself to anything she wanted or get rid of things she didn't like. She would also lone out my clothes to my cousin and then they were just gone.

- People who "borrowed" my things would then lend them to other people (who the hell does that?) and they'd be gone.

- Never ever lend books because they are just gone.

- I had a guy over and he was showering, I showed him where my bath supplies were and said "help yourself to whatever you need" thinking soap and toothpaste etc. He swiped a few teeth whitening strips. Like some for later. This one also used my fancy face scrubs and lotions... like.. is that normal?

- Tupperware and dishes, ya right, gone.

- Anything that comes in a package of many, someone always wants 'some' of them so they don't have to get their own.

- Food? OMG.... no just no... leave my snacks alone you vultures!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And I have to be gluten free so it BURNS me when someone eats all my GF cookies or whatever when there is a wheat filled version of it right there!

Anything that leaves my house I almost automatically accept that it's just gone. But yet I'm always careful to return anything that isn't mine. Is this normal? I've had to become very protective of my things just to keep what I own as mine.

Capable_Okra · 2020-06-12T18:53:50+00:00

I got in a fight with my ex because my best friend had sent me a gift of art supplies and I didn't want to share them. He felt entitled to my birthday gift.

msromperstomper · 2020-06-12T22:45:41+00:00

I once got into a minor accident in the parking lot of a children's museum (no real damage as we were going 5mph tops). The woman who hit my car felt so badly that she came over to my house and gifted me with the largest assortment of delicious chocolates that I had ever seen. Two days later I went to have the first of the chocolates...and the entire stash was gone. My boyfriend had eaten all of them. When I justifiably got angry, he then "replaced" the chocolates with a Hershey's bar (you can't make this stuff up...)

TheOGJammies · 2020-06-12T18:56:17+00:00

That's that pickmeisha programming we're trying to rid the culture of over here.

Georgerobertfrancis · 2020-06-12T16:50:21+00:00

I wish I learned this ten years ago.

CassieGreen85 · 2020-06-13T03:37:10+00:00

Yeeeepppp. This is why I'm never having kids, get into a guardian/mommy role EVER, and will try really hard to not marry a dude who puts me in the mommy position (regardless of kids, most are already big man-babies). Childfree forever for me!

Let's face it, most women, when they become moms, their lives are pretty much over (unless they have an incredibly dedicated partner and both vow to become good parents AND maintain a healthy relationship). Everything they have, their emotions, attention, time, body, labor, goes to the children AND the husband. EVERY. ATOM. Is not theirs anymore. Very few women end up with a wonderful partner who truly goes 50/50 with them (and not even then, remember women still have to carry the pregnancy, which ages their bodies 10 years).

No. I refuse to be a supporting character in my own story. I'm not a fucking NPC in my own game file. I have a limited amount of time on this Earth, and there's already overpopulation, me owning my own life takes away nothing. Men want a mommy, they can look somewhere else.

SuchBarracuda · 2020-06-13T02:06:45+00:00

Truth truth and absolute truth!

CannaUlim · 2020-06-12T22:20:40+00:00

Do people actually believe you can’t have things that are just yours?

ConvivialViper · 2020-06-13T01:02:25+00:00

If only I could go back in time...

Sage advice ❤️

4BigData · 2020-06-13T01:27:46+00:00

Who is the genius?

Title	This is lovely
Author	jetpatch
Upvotes	1795
Comments	53
Date	June 12, 2020 1:48 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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