When an older man tries to ask “what do you bring to the table?” RUN!!!

BlueSkiesOverLondon · 2021-08-30T14:27:52+00:00

I disagree with this post in that I don’t think it’s ever a good idea to date your “career mentor” or set a man up in a permanent role where he’s the wise teacher and you’re the naive little student. I really don’t want to hear financial literacy information on a date, and I’m not interested in trading my youth, beauty, fertility, etc for the “investment” of an old scrote. Like the title says, just run.

Quirky_Confusion_235 · 2021-08-30T14:39:00+00:00

I would rather be broke and making my own way than entertaining an old man who who thinks he can reduce me to the parts of my body.

hopeful_flounder93 · 2021-08-30T14:41:43+00:00

Yeah, also a man in this dynamic is going to put everything he has into holding onto the upper hand.

He's not going to "help you increase your cash flow", because in doing so he would be giving up his power over you. He'll help you when hell freezes over.

Prioritize your own career.

abirdofthesky · 2021-08-30T14:54:44+00:00

Has anyone ever encountered a man in real life asking “what do you bring to the table”? Because I haven’t, and would be so aghast if I did get asked that it would never occur to me to not run. But obviously my experience is not universal!

Also I’m not a huge fan of her mostly listing “youth and beauty” as her qualifications… like, yeah, but I’d want my partner (or even anyone I casually date) to recognize that I’m more than that. That’s the basis of initial attraction, not the basis of a long term, rewarding relationship. Even a fun fling has more mutual basis than that.

sadgirlji · 2021-08-30T15:16:27+00:00

This post has weird almost pick me empowerment vibes. The list of things a young woman brings to the table seems like it’s regurgitating the same things men say when you ask the why they date extremely younger women. I agree overall the question about what you bring to the table is the brightest red flag ever but this messaging is problematic for me.

ALISHAISHERE123 · 2021-08-30T14:15:41+00:00

" as a woman who primarily dates older men"

This is the first mistake.

The rest is on point.

purasangria · 2021-08-30T15:06:01+00:00

If he's unaware of what I bring to the table, then he's too stupid to date me.

Next!

feelgoodlost_ · 2021-08-30T15:20:55+00:00

They can’t even build a table yet are all up in your grill for what they can take. Like bissshhhh I have everything I need, who wants an old Peter Pan that has nothing to offer? A lunchables? Zero interest in old dudes, they bring down your quality of life and they make you sick. It’s a thing. Real men of substance don’t need to take inventory lmao wut

MajesticSkyPachyderm · 2021-08-30T15:26:38+00:00

"Nothing, so fuck off".

HeatherandHollyhock · 2021-08-30T16:20:13+00:00

This reads like something a redpill dude would write.

electroloop · 2021-08-30T15:05:44+00:00

Sis, the fuck is this post? She says this post “isn’t about sugar daddies and sugar babies” and then “as a woman who primarily dates older men”, then has a laundry list of demands she wants from an older man mirroring a transactional relationship.

Sorry I can’t take her advice seriously.

bombas- · 2021-08-30T16:03:50+00:00

Gross

the-worst- · 2021-08-30T16:08:21+00:00

This post is pick me vibes. Men who date women that aren't even part of the same generation as them are predatory, looking for someone he has power and control over, and will never be a HVM. End of.

LR_today · 2021-08-30T16:40:33+00:00

I've reported this post.

So once a woman is over 34 she's worthless? That's exactly what this post says.

OP if you agree with this horseshit you need to read more FDS materials.

After the first sentence "if 'what do you bring to the table' comes up, RUN" it's all demeaning garbage and likely written by a man.

Do better. The women on here do not need to see this trash.

lansburysoda · 2021-08-30T15:24:05+00:00

Or you could circumvent this problem by not engaging in age gap relationships 🤨

This post gives me strong pick-me energy. No one should be weighing their value in terms of a transaction in the first place.

It seems like just another “eMpOweRinG” post from a covert pickme promoting sugar baby relationships, aka women selling their bodies to men in exchange for money or other rewards, aka prostitution. That goes against everything FDS stands for.

blackmetalbetty · 2021-08-30T16:29:53+00:00

as a younger woman who primarily dates older men

Present tense? Dude, no. I don't understand this, even for money/gifts. You have nothing in common, that's why there's that dating over 50(?) commercial with the conventionally attractive older guy talking about how he wants to walk through the nuances with someone his agemate. You sitting there listening to him shout at that cloud about how a burger used to be a nickel and sexual misconduct was endearing. If a guy is older he was already exposed, in some capacity to that golden age of hero complex toting earthbound gods that wanted a woman to bring them their slippers when they entered the room. That's over now, modern women-these new generations of women should not aspire to mingle with the products of that bygone era. Ask the tradionalists/boomer women older than you whether they liked dealing with/developing alongside these delusional scrotes.

ShegoGreen · 2021-08-30T16:43:09+00:00

"What do you bring to the table?"

"Why were you interested in me in the first place? If you can't recognize my value then I can't convince you of it, goodbye."

xdecadent · 2021-08-30T16:30:50+00:00

Big facts! I was 27 and seeing this older guy who originally told me he was 30. Come to find out he was 40 🤦🏾‍♀️. When I confronted him about it he got indignant and I had to remind him that whether he was 30 or 40 I was making him look good when he was out with me! “Oh you calling me old?” No, asshole, I’m calling you a liar!

Don’t ever be afraid to tell these men that you aren’t as naive as they’d like you to be. And don’t be afraid to walk away.

Title	When an older man tries to ask “what do you bring to the table?” RUN!!!
Author	blueboobs-
Upvotes	147
Comments	59
Date	August 30, 2021 2:10 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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