I saw it last year when everyone was supposed to be just lifting lockdowns, and now I see it everywhere. “Here for the weekend!” “Visiting family!” “Just in town for a few days!”

They’re clearly not interested in making a genuine connection with someone. It’s just a signifier for hookups. What’s more, a lot of the men who are “just passing through” live there; I’ve seen the same dudes on different apps, in the same city, weeks and months later. Why so many, though? I seriously doubt the majority of women on Bumble and Hinge are looking for a new instant-gratification community dick every other day; we can literally walk out of our front doors and trip over the shit at any time. So why advertise yourself like this?

It seems like they’re employing the same logic as email scammers. Scammers use incredibly obvious lies in their email chains, designed to rope only the most gullible people available. If gullible elders will bleed their bank accounts dry to help a Nigerian prince wire his fortune, a LVM who is “6’4”, looking for a wife, but only here for a few days!” can for sure attract at least one woman who won’t stand up for herself or think critically about his claims.