Married MGTOW

PaPaKAPture · 2021-04-16T14:56:19+00:00

wanna add, the paternity tests are in the mail and on their way to the lab as we speak.

TeddyMGTOW · 2021-04-16T14:59:09+00:00

Your actually in a good position, you have time to plan an exit strategy. Laws vary state to state, I would suggest seeing a lawyer for a one hour consultation to see where you currently stand. Pay for the visit in cash as not to spook the wife.

alienmuseum · 2021-04-16T15:21:36+00:00

Man...imagine having to share the same house as your cheating spouse. Having to see her face every day.

LongTimeOn · 2021-04-16T15:30:33+00:00

Start planning your exit strategy and tucking those assets away where they can't be found, gathering paperwork (hiding it too, such as your wage slips). 11yrs is a long time but the closer you can get to that 18yr mark before pulling the trigger, the less it will cost you in child support, only make sure that staying isn't going to screw you in other ways such as lifetime alimony. I too found the RP and MGTOW whilst in the death throws of a bad marriage and it's one of the things that helped me keep my mind on the prize..... happiness, Freedom and the ability to forge my own destiny.

BlindMaestro · 2021-04-16T15:57:41+00:00

Let this be a cautionary tale to you, lads. The biggest proponents of the “don’t get married” message are men who’ve been married. Allahu akbar, nibs.

Fancy-Ad657 · 2021-04-16T16:36:39+00:00

Start siphoning money towards cryptocurrency.

As far as i know, the court system can't touch that.

Check with a lawyer about this so you can move money away. If not, check for an offshore bank account.

Go have some sex with other women, bang her some too, just go full blank on this shit not giving a damn.

Love doesn't exist and it never did. Time to move past that and just do whatever the frenchtoast you want.

Start lifting, start banking money, start smashing women, etc.

53withtrollhair · 2021-04-16T16:25:34+00:00

Brother, divorced MGTOW here, here is some reading for you. It's a lot. but this guy has done the work.

https://www.reddit.com/user/FalleNNNNN_1ms/comments/kxait7/fallens_guide_to_infidelity_recovery/

Divorce is expensive, but worth it.

brianmcg321 · 2021-04-16T15:48:36+00:00

Go grey rock.

Canute87 · 2021-04-16T16:21:46+00:00

Type in "How to Fire your Wife" In Google Search.

The first link should be a PDF attachment you can download.

sam619007 · 2021-04-16T16:23:44+00:00

how did you find out she was cheating?

Serena_XO_XO · 2021-04-16T17:36:20+00:00

Thank you for sharing your stoy.

Stories like this encourage the readers to see women for what they really are and avoid marriage like the plague.

ctgjerts · 2021-04-16T20:56:21+00:00

I know plenty that have endured until the kids got out of High School. One good friend slept on the couch for 17 yrs. The week his youngest graduated, he left and filed.

Truly envious of those that discover the reality of relationships when they are young. Would have saved me thousands if not hundreds of thousands.

AltoDomino79 · 2021-04-16T16:37:14+00:00

Too late. That's when most of us here learned the truth, but that truth is then indelible.

Plenty of guys got here by the same dismal route you've taken.

No_Victory3364 · 2021-04-17T01:28:49+00:00

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JohnnySkidmarx · 2021-04-16T19:46:32+00:00

It’s so sad for us that the saying “it’s cheaper to keep her” rings true. If the divorce court system was truly legitimate, men wouldn’t suffer so much in divorce proceedings.

Phantom_Spark · 2021-04-16T21:33:20+00:00

It’s ok. While you can’t yet break free, you provide a valuable perspective to those with doubts. Even inside a relationship, marriage and family... you see the truth in what we say.

There are a significant number of men who learned the truth of MGTOW too late. So until you get your life in order... you can provide that inside knowledge. It significantly impacts the discourse if husbands and fathers stand up and say it’s not worth it. You know there’s some truth to it when that happens.

So, wishing you the best in your efforts to put your life back on track.

Good Journey

madriverdog · 2021-04-16T22:11:00+00:00

Be careful of time limits for alimony. In CA the "mandatory alimony" time was after 10 years of marriage. Divorce before 10 years left the question open or time-limited. Check your local laws. (And maybe see a lawyer for a few hundred $ ASAP to get the current lowdown!) Sometimes big temporary pain now is better than big chronic pain later.

DrNoranDom · 2021-04-16T22:32:10+00:00

Sir, I've been there and there's only one way out of the dead bedroom. Waiting won't do you any good. I know the pain, I know the fear. Please listen to other brothers and plan an exit strategy for your future - honestly do it for your kids. Go grey rock and plan for getting out of this shit scenario you're in at the moment.

chtrchtr_pussyeater · 2021-04-16T23:28:49+00:00

I think a lot of us had to learn the hard way and that the redpill is a tough one to swallow.

Gobc · 2021-04-17T01:10:53+00:00

I think there is a book out there on how to divorce your wife. Read it and start preparing.

bbloodyddaffodills · 2021-04-16T14:48:04+00:00

Better get the "family" 23 and me for Christmas. It's a great way to check paternity without raising suspicion

dadudenines · 2021-04-16T17:36:31+00:00

Start reading realworlddivorce.com for your appropriate state if you are American. Maybe start downsizing?

takeitonyards · 2021-04-16T19:28:36+00:00

But women are the ones who choose to give birth to children, what ?.

psypD · 2021-04-16T22:23:24+00:00

I am stuck, breaking free is going to financially destroy me. At this point I am better off waiting until my kids turn 18, only 11 years off for my youngest

Only 11 years for your wife to totally fuck you over.

elim_garak_89 · 2021-04-16T23:43:23+00:00

Is there any way you can hide some assets and money just in case she does pull the trigger before you do on divorce? She must know its coming?

mr_pro_con · 2021-04-16T23:54:53+00:00

mens divorce forums have plans you might want to look at. it can take a few years to prevail in a divorce but they claim it can be done (=you get kids 50/50)

rjjr1963 · 2021-04-17T00:22:11+00:00

Try to equalize wages so you don't end up paying a bunch of alimony. If you receive any inheritance keep it separate from the family accounts. Get a safety deposit box and start stashing cash only you know about.

bamabeatsny · 2021-04-17T02:29:56+00:00

Well, judging from what I know by experience, you need to speak with an attorney immediately.

And you need to plan, NOW, because you can bet your ASSets that she sure as hell is. She has an entire support group giving her advice and intel. And probably has been for a while.

Know this, she is already hiding and stock piling money. Somewhere. All to use against you.

You need to do the same. Quietly. Find a way.

You need to get your ducks in a row post haste, because she is already 3 steps ahead.

EjakeJ · 2021-04-17T03:05:20+00:00

Take a pay cut for a year, your tax returns need to be lower

NetGrimm · 2021-04-17T06:00:19+00:00

I discovered MGTOW when I was married too, but it was pretty early since I was only married less than two years. Initially, I thought I had a NAWALT. Then the nagging started, sex died off, she started playing mind games, the last nail on the coffin was her trying to use sex as leverage to get what she wanted, and I was already not getting enough of it. That's when I decided it wasn't worth having the sex life of a sterile 90-year-old man when I was just 28, and I couldn't live the rest of my life in such misery. I broke it off. Luckily, I'm in a country that doesn't support that bullshit 50/50 division of assets when divorcing, and besides, I didn't have much to my name anyway. One year later, I'm enjoying the MGTOW lifestyle. Living alone happily and peacefully, lifting weights 4 times a week, getting bigger and stronger, and making the most money I've ever made in my life. Life is good!

anon517 · 2021-04-17T06:06:50+00:00

Do you love your kids?

Would you have been better off without getting married and having kids?

silent_hedges · 2021-04-17T14:42:17+00:00

Stash some of your money into bitcoins, in 10 years will be secretly rich

-Solitude-- · 2021-04-17T17:14:31+00:00

Just be cautious about waiting too long before divorcing her. Depending on your state, waiting the extra 11 years could easily be the difference between paying alimony for a decade or for the rest of your life. Do your research, of course, but there's a chance you'll save in the long run for biting the bullet and going through the proceedings now (though you'd obviously suffer a lot short-term). Might not be worth it anyway, though, since getting even part-time custody can be extremely difficult.

Edit: a consultation with a lawyer, like I see some other guys here suggesting, is a fantastic idea. That's a pretty simple way to see where the cards will likely fall.

marenostrum93 · 2021-04-17T19:57:23+00:00

you trusted her, and she did you a bad one. why do you think shes not planning anything now?

get a laywer, without telling her, and start building a case. if you have any proof she cheated, add it there. or get a confession in a legal manner. text/mail are good, usually recording without the person knowing is illegal.

NightOuts · 2021-04-18T11:16:51+00:00

how did you find out. did she tell u? if she told u, shes probably already over the relationship

Thinkingman21 · 2021-04-17T02:36:08+00:00

Immediately watch Terence popps video Pre divorce mentality. I would tip alcohol on your clothes once a week and go to AA meetings and gamble 3% of your wage at local casino that only takes cash.

If she files for divorce, you say the decline before filing lead to drink and gamble all your money away when really you slowly shoeboxed that shit at your brother's place after you show him cheating evidence. Get as much money now as you safely can into shoe box. Also forget the kids. She has already won them in court. 86% automatic custody. 7% chance you spend all your money fighting for custody and could still lose. 7% you get custody if she is a nutter.

Keep it good with her and start saving your money for worst case scenario. If she don't file you leave at 18. Doing as I said and maybe demoting your job RIGHT about 12 months before she gets jumpy will lower suspected child support.

If she files get a diary and write in it every week about how you wanna be family but court and her won't let it happen. Tell kids you have a present for them at 18 and hand them copy of journal.

Fight the long game hope for the best. Good luck brother.

2021-04-16T14:46:36+00:00

You can't be both.

Title	Married MGTOW
Author	PaPaKAPture
Upvotes	171
Comments	118
Date	April 16, 2021 2:45 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/ms4ny6/married_mgtow/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/MGTOW/married-mgtow.763203 https://theredarchive.com/post/763203

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