http://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/10dh1j/please_tell_me_why_i_29m_am_selfish/
Dude looked at several posts on the matter and noticed the trend. Only answer I could think of giving him was this: because he's a guy.
I've personally seen this trend myself on several different threads: for example, there was this one thread where this guy was the sole breadwinner (100k+), AND contributed to chores around the house (i think it was somewhere around 35-50% of the household work), AND chipped in with the kids, whereas his wife was a SAHM who unilaterally decided she was gonna quick her job after they had their first child, and stayed home ever since. The guy was at his wits end and was practically losing it because he was stressed out and wanted advice on how to make his wife contribute more to take the pressure off of him, and the majority of the answers in that thread consisted of "Her role is difficult, have some sympathy; try working harder at: work, the relationship, parenting skills, ability to do chores, etc etc".
It was gut-wrenching just reading it, so i wanna know what you guys think: Do you notice a trend in /r/relationships to find fault with the guy with just about everything, even if they're in abusive relationships? Is there a difference in the type of advice given? Tell me what you think!
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