Broken Sexually

ArthurMacArthur · 2017-06-25T04:12:37+00:00

What is going on with you young people? When did this become so complicated? Is this what happens when the existential threat of Soviet nuclear war is removed?

Jesus H. Christ.

madscientistlove · 2017-06-25T11:05:02+00:00

She shuts down during foreplay and does nothing more and says nothing.

Then she's not attracted to you.

Sunhappy_DC · 2017-06-25T04:12:08+00:00

men are broken because they aren't allowed to be men anymore. some are responding with addiction, some are checking out of human interaction entirely, some are becoming social losers and many just suck it up but remain depressed.

when men get to be men again, lead their families, be kings in their own, have community purpose again, feel respected....the 'broken' thing will heal itself.

uto-uto · 2017-06-25T14:39:31+00:00

really... from my experience anyway, most men are broken due to porn and insecurity (often both). i will note that my experience is pretty limited... but the guys i remember thinking of as broken or fucked up either were so used to porn that reality was disgusting or dissatisfying to them, or they were constantly asking how they measured up to other men.

certainly, women are equally as capable of these things. but for the 'red flag' guys i knew, this was pretty much it.

sweet_samsara · 2017-06-26T17:14:27+00:00

Yeah, these are so common they might as well be cliches. Surprisingly body issues don't seem as common as I would have expected.

Men are definitely sexualy broken as fuck too though. In many cases porn seems to be linked to erectyle disfunction or premature ejaculation, and I'm sure a host of more subtle problems.

despisedlove2 · 2017-06-25T04:50:38+00:00

Too true.

oneandforall · 2017-06-25T04:20:11+00:00

She shuts down during foreplay and does nothing more and says nothing. What then happens is, I ask. "What's the matter what's going on?" This always leads to one of two answers. "Why didn't you take me? Aren't you a man? I wanted to be taken."

This is not a woman who is "broken sexually". a woman wants to be ravished, not meekly penetrated.

slavicgypsygirl · 2017-06-25T04:30:53+00:00

I am sadly girl two, who doesnt ever want a relationship but does see a psychologist.

I have seen men I date broken by their careers, former gf's & financial ruin the most.

figthief · 2017-06-25T05:32:17+00:00

I suspect the types of women described first who desire new lovers to ravish them and don't want to "ruin" it by asking or providing dirty talk context are walking false rape accusations waiting to happen. I'm guessing it all stems from some sort of inner conflict with their tastes and how they arrived at them.

I was with a chick like that although she was more a mix of 2 & 4. Basically she was an anorgasmic faker who took more pleasure in the performance.

Anyway, #1 seems like somebody I would run from.

Freezing up during foreplay can mean you're just going too fast. If it's a new lover and she's inexperienced you might try getting her to play with herself and then watch, help, talk.

Regardless, the other ones (except for 3) seem workable, although I probably wouldn't bother at this point in my life unless everything else about them was great. The first I wouldn't fuck with at all.

GroovyEFS · 2017-06-25T08:57:53+00:00

"I had this trauma (Rape, abuse, assault, molestation...)"

In both cases this totally shuts down the evening. Pun intended.

Then you're doing it wrong because them fucked up girls are the most fun in bed and will do all kinds of crazy shit.

DarkLord0chinChin · 2017-06-25T10:32:24+00:00

But you should grab yourself a seat and a whisky double,

Because the girls of the world ain't nothing but trouble

ClarityofDisaster · 2017-06-25T11:01:41+00:00

We already had our conversation that started this thread here: https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/6j7hww/comment/djc7w2o

so I won't reiterate the entire thing again.

But ways that a man can be broken sexually? Besides dealing with similar shit because he was raped (either by a man or woman), I can think of 2 other issues.

He has trouble reaching orgasm, and thinks it's acceptable that he can't cum. Now, I'm not talking about the outlier men who are capable of having sex and feeling satisfied without an orgasm...if this describes you, I find it confusing but hey, you do you. I'm talking about a guy who desperately wants to orgasm and is upset and frustrated when it doesn't happen, but the previous women he's been with have convinced him that painful blue balls is just something he'll "have to live with" because they are done with the sex and it's his fault for not climaxing. In this broken mentality, you have a man who...after its evident he's having difficulties...will actually become emotionally closed off and attempt to literally push you away. I personally find it unacceptable to leave one's partner in an unclimaxed state, so I told him the sex isn't over til both of us have an orgasm, and proceeded to give him one even though it took another 20 minutes of massage and affirmations. It also makes me want to punch his previous partners in the throat.
He doesn't initiate sex, or does so very rarely, again because his previous partners rejected his advances to the point that they might as well have been clones of Spreadsheet Wife. This man has been conditioned to believe that, even when in a relationship with a permanently horny female, he will probably be shot down or given some bullshit excuse to not have sex. So he stops trying for the most part, which means that his partner needs to pick up the slack and initiate the majority of the time. I've found that a compromise can be reached, though, and if he's in the mood he can do something small like nibble my ear and I'll know that this is his version of asking for sex. Again, I think throat punches are in order for his past women for breaking him like this...

grindlegrundle · 2017-06-26T06:11:16+00:00

Lolwhat? These are all just annoying habits, other than the first one. You are totally allowed to tell your gf "Quit comparing me to your ex or we're over." It may be a deal breaker if she doesn't stop, but it's totally fixable. Do I have "broken hands" because I bite my nails sometimes? No! It's just a gross hand related habit and the person I'm dating can ask me to knock it off any time.

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zerobones · 2017-06-25T13:14:25+00:00

2 The woman who believes the only thing she has to offer a relationship or man is her beauty and sexuality. She basically is boring in every other aspect of her relationship but considers her beauty and her sexuality to be God's gift to man and she doesn't need to offer anything else. Sex with her becomes the main focus of the relationship and she knowingly or unknowingly puts pressure on the man to out perform himself every time they are together. Every encounter is the Super Bowl.

Ive only had one slight experience with this. I was with a girl casually who was very into BDSM. I call her an exremophile In that it very much seemed she was getting off not on the act, but off on the extremity of it. So things quickly escalated to a point where sex was more scary than enjoyable.

3 Comparison girl. She has an X and every aspect of the relationship even the sex is compared to who she is with currently.

I have this combined with 4 to a degree, its also the reason i dodge online dating. First dates where ''My EX'' are mentioned are a huge red flag for women i want to steer clear of.

4 The praiser. There's some aspect of the man's sexuality or love making that she comments on as being "the best", "the most", "the biggest", etc.. Everytime he's with her.

i Just don't believe anything women say about me anymore to be honest. I don't know how good i look if i was to judge myself some days i look in the mirror and feel like i look like Gerald butler, other i look like Nosferatu.

My cock is a solid 8 inches however i wouldnt call it big or small, yet ive had every variable of ''its to big it hurts'' and ''is it in yet?'', ''You're the best ive ever had'' and ''I wish i could erase that sex from my mind'' (fun fact, those last two came from the same girl)

Ive taken to donning the phrase. ''Your cock is as big as she likes you that day''

4 is a weird one where its both given me massive insecurity about how i perform and look to women, whist also teaching me that how i perform and look is pretty irrelevant to how i make them feel on the given day.

Unabummer80 · 2017-06-25T15:47:26+00:00

1 She shuts down during foreplay and does nothing more and says nothing.

You tripped a circuit or something. I get this sometimes, I just take a breather and then have back at it.

2 The woman who believes the only thing she has to offer a relationship or man is her beauty and sexuality.

I am/was possibly the opposite of this. For a while, I wasnt satisfied unless I had my girl climbing the walls. I was relentless. Ive seen quite a number of posts by guys proudly proclaiming to be the same. Perhaps an example of how some guys are broken? Too focused on the woman to enjoy it properly themselves.

3 Comparison girl.

She aint over it/ she's an alpha widow or some shit. A tricky one to watch out for, some people can kid themselves that they got over someone when they clearly hadnt. I caught myself thinking about my ex ALL THE TIME when I found a new gf, so clearly I wasnt quite over it. Going out with someone just out of a long relationship isnt the best idea. Another confession - I did some nasty kinky stuff with my ex, and Im not quite there with my new gf (and I might never be) and it is sorta getting me down.

4 The praiser. There's some aspect of the man's sexuality or love making that she comments on as being "the best", "the most", "the biggest", etc.

Possibly related to what I was saying for 2. Seems like guys put on a big song and dance about being dynamite in bed, so the girl is most likely reacting to that and stroking your ego. However good you think you are, however big you think you are, there is a good chance that you are average in terms of both skills and size. Remember that.

5 The complainer/the worrier.

Ball gags are useful for these women

Bonus broken man sex point. If I beat it too much, then it is difficult or me to cum when it comes to sex.

darla10 · 2017-06-25T16:12:29+00:00

Get yourself some frame. A lot of these issues will disappear instantly.

abicus4343 · 2017-06-25T04:36:38+00:00

Pornofied.

Title	Broken Sexually
Author	Il128
Upvotes	3
Comments	140
Date	June 25, 2017 4:10 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
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