I have to write this because I think this sub has way too many people who don’t understand that empathy is about understanding people, it is not to baby you and tell you that nothing’s your fault as to justify constantly wallowing in self-pity.

For example, I understand that school is boring and that teacher sometimes can suck. I also understand that learning is important and learning to deal with annoying people is a good skill to obtain Hence, kids, regardless of gender, need help to understand to sit down, shut up, and learn instead of flunking out of school.

Second example, people can understand how depression affects people, especially other depressed people. People also understand that you can’t just treat people like a free therapist constantly upset around them 24/7, especially when you are doing that to your friends, and not your family. So when other depressed people don’t wanna be around you, it’s time to think that being vulnerable isn’t the problem, especially when they warned you about your behavior being toxic and draining to be around.

Third example, similar to the second, autistic people understand how hard it is to be disadvantaged in social skills. That is not an excuse to never learn social skills, especially when you were warned that your inconsiderate behavior is about to leave you with no friends.

People who demand empathy are always a red flag because they don’t have empathy for others and they usually mean “I am blameless, please pity me” when they use the word empathy. They are allergic to accountability and personal responsibility.