[Q4Men] Killing attraction

Aaren_Augustine · 2018-09-05T10:08:42+00:00

Knew a girl that liked to make out with girls while clubbing. Dropped her. Seemed like she didn't see sex the same way I did.

Its a very weird idea but maybe some men actually fuck women they love rather than whatever is around at the moment. If I don't like a woman, not going to be interested in have sex with her.

wtknight · 2018-09-05T12:22:43+00:00

Racist or overly conservative views have killed attraction for me in the past. A woman who I know has a boyfriend but gratuitously flirts also kills attraction for me, as unfaithfulness is not attractive to me at all.

crackrocksteady7 · 2018-09-05T13:00:27+00:00

"im not about the drama buuuuuuuuuut" (proceeds to gossip shit talk)

also thot behavior

FalseBed · 2018-09-05T10:14:36+00:00

Has their ever been a particular experience behaviour from a woman that has killed all sexual attraction to her?

Yes.

If so, what?

Primary its either been them being an attention whore or insane/possessive/crazy/etc. There's a couple of times its been them using text speak or they are well stupid/dumb. I don't care how hot a woman is if she has any one of these traits it kills the attraction and I stop showing any interest in her.

Story time!

No story time.

concacanca · 2018-09-05T11:22:59+00:00

Yeah. I've actually spent a long time thinking about this.

That desperate need for validation is a problem for me. It leads to immature behaviour which has never added to any attraction. It might be dancing on tables in a nightclub, making out and groping with other girls in front of a bunch of guys, might be ONS - you name it. It demonstrates a lack of security in self and a bit of a lack of social accuity. It can be reputation damaging for them and me if I pick them up.

Kinda the analogue of a dude walking up to a woman and trying to qualify himself. It's a demonstration of low value (in most cases, there are a handful of exceptions).

dudewheresmytest · 2018-09-05T10:32:54+00:00

Can't list a time where I had a chance then rejected it but I can give a list of things that would turn my hard drive to a floppy dick.

Overly controlling women/shrews (like a Delores Umbridge or Nurse Ratchet type)
Women who sound like teenage drama queens and talk with that ugghhh attitude
Dumb women
Women with daddy's little princess syndrome
Any woman with a very nasally and annoyingly high voice

reluctantly_red · 2018-09-05T10:24:07+00:00

On three occasions I lost all attraction for otherwise fuckable women when it became clear they were stupid entitled spoiled brats (really not my type). One I just never called again, one I left at a club and went home with another girl (the look on the spoiled brat's face was precious), and the third got left by the side of the road (124th Street in Edmonton) when she got all dramatic and did the "if that's the way you feel you can just stop the car" BS.

MercedesBenzoAMG · 2018-09-05T10:22:55+00:00

I would certainly drop that kind of girl in a relationship as well, although she'd be fun to mess about with otherwise. I'm monogamous. It's enjoyable to watch that stuff but I wouldn't want one of those girls to be my gf. This is one area in which I'm a bit boring.

You'd think that I would hate crazy girls after many bad experiences with them, e.g. threatening suicide when we break up etc, but I'd be lying if I said I didn't still get turned on by them even if I know logically it's a bad idea to be involved with them.

What does immediately kill all attraction is finding out a woman has kids, or a woman talking about wanting kids, or anything along those lines. Could be the sexiest woman in the world for all I care, if she starts talking about how much she wants kids or if I find out she has them it's dead.

StaySkepticYT · 2018-09-05T13:11:14+00:00

Not directly related but:

With dudes I think it's less that they don't find them hot anymore but more that certain bad behavior makes them uninterested to be around them anymore at all. It kills attraction, but it usually doesn't kill sexual appeal.

If a girl acts like a total bitch I have no interest in actually trying to get with them but theoretically speaking I still find her hot. The sexual attraction is still mostly based in visuals, it's just that it stops mattering at that point. What does seem to work for both though is the more in love or attached you are to that person the more sexual appeal there is as well. It's just the basis that started the attraction that has a different allocation.

With women if he wasn't amazing looking to begin with it could legit make them lose what made the dude become sexually attractive in the first place. Little of the attraction was based in pure looks to begin with. It could instead be based in social charm, body language, confidence+ the right flirtatious assertiveness, a feeling of being protected, a feeling of him being mentally strong, a feeling of being provided for, his humor, etc.

Venicedreaming · 2018-09-05T13:32:25+00:00

I can never get over smoking when a woman does it. It’s a free world whatever but it’s such a turn off

Salty-Bastard · 2018-09-05T14:45:22+00:00

Burping out loud.

Wearing perfume (I'm allergic).

Tyler_Gatsby · 2018-09-05T15:06:03+00:00

Usually the biggest instant turn off for me that you can't always see immediately, and get hit with later are hard drug problems.

An example being the last opiate addict I'll ever date. I let her shack up with me of course, I thought she had her consumption habits under control at first. The final moment that immediately killed my desire to be with her, and make me want to get rid of her was thinking I found her dead one day.

I came home and her car was there, typical day, and I walked in with a "Hey, I'm home, it's me." No response, so I thought ok, she's taking a nap, or shower, or has headphones in, whatever. I go through the house to the bedroom. No girl. Now I'm walking around all "baaabe?" looking around like that Vincent Vega Pulp Fiction gif.

I pass back by the open door bathroom again, and catch a foot sticking up over the bathtub. Go in to see a totally clothed gf laid out in the tub, looking like she was thrown in there. She literally looks dead, in one of the most uncomfortable positions you could be in. Of course I'm thinking "Oh god oh god, she's dead" and touch her, but she's warm. I do the little face tap slap thing people do in the movies, and she snaps out "Wha-where- what am I doing in the bathtub!" I tell her I don't know, I just found her that way, and she just laughs it off with an "Oh, guess I passed out an fell."

That was the last day I happily came home to her, but not the last day it took to get her gone.

jkonrad · 2018-09-05T20:10:43+00:00

Sure, all the time. Low class, low intelligence, low maturity, low athleticism, low personality...

VAOTOMARNOCU · 2018-09-06T00:40:43+00:00

Being a feminist
Being certain personality types (ESFP, ISFP, INFJ). These types are full of drama and not worth the hassle
Being a social media thot

It's not like these kill sexual attraction though. If they're hot, I still get a boner

Back then I would pursue them for a pump and dump, but nowadays I prefer not to waste my time with them

PearsOfWrath · 2018-09-05T22:06:33+00:00

Tbh no. My penis doesn't really care about her personality. If shes a horrible person, it doesn't really affect sexual attraction.

lucky_beast · 2018-09-05T12:45:32+00:00

Any time I'm talking to a girl and find out she believes in "male privilege" or the wage gap or thinks the earth is flat or some other equally dumb thing it's always an instant attraction killer. I'm not attracted to retards.

whitetrashcarl · 2018-09-05T14:38:38+00:00

Sexual attraction for men is usually described as mainly physical, with personality having little affect on whether he'll still sleep with a woman.

WHY DOES EVERYONE THINK WOMEN AREN'T THIS WAY EITHER?

petrichordium · 2018-09-05T14:36:05+00:00

This is less like many other posts, in that I’m not especially PROUD of this, but here it is.

The “nesting” phase has always been something that turns me off—basically that period when even a childless person start turning on a bunch of maternal instincts (rampantly adopting pets for a few past GFs) and easing into a less “fun” existence.

I don’t know whether it’s bc I associate it with a decline in sex and cocktail dresses for home improvement and sweatpants, but if you care about keeping me in this phase, i need to see that everything sweet in life isn’t going away to make room for coordinated sets of dinnerware you aren’t supposed to actually use.

The irony is that I thrive in fairly stable situations. I am quite a homebody in many ways (once i get some energy out); i just have deep associations with this phase being the end of everything good in life.

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Eastuss · 2018-09-05T11:27:59+00:00

Nothing truly kills my attraction for ever, however a drunk woman who is all clumsy and chuckling at shit permanently is kind off repulsive.

exit_sandman · 2018-09-05T14:04:46+00:00

Question: Has there ever been a particular experience or behaviour from a woman that has killed all sexual attraction to her? If so, what?

It is difficult to say whether a particular behavior completely kills any sexual attraction I might have felt for a woman, but it's indeed true that it can certainly make me not wan to sleep with her, since I am not really the hatefuck-type.

BadgerwithaPickaxe · 2018-09-05T14:18:46+00:00

Women who act completely differently around other people. Not slightly like a totally personality shift. Just smells like bad news.

FI-Boy · 2018-09-05T16:49:08+00:00

Maybe from moment to moment a girl can kill the mood. But if I’m attracted to her then I’m attracted to her. However, things like being a single mom or otherwise someone who is just an idiot/spoiled/entitled/liberal is an instant deal breaker in terms of a relationship.

KV-n · 2018-09-05T22:04:54+00:00

i dont think any behavior can kill sexual attraction in that we no longer will want to fuck her. Yes theres pleeenty of behaviors that will stop men from pursuing a woman but we will still find her hot/fuckable if we did before said behavior

cxj · 2018-09-06T06:13:46+00:00

As soon as a girl I’m into is rude to customer service people in any way I feel personally hurt and violated . Like u bitch, how could you do this to me and my reputation in front of this Starbucks barista I will never see again.

Smoking also intensely grossed me out, and definitely hard drug use.

A million guy friends too ughhhhhh 😫

Serious, non ironic racism also kills it

PieceBringer · 2018-09-06T06:21:08+00:00

Double-talk and my attraction goes to anger pretty quickly.

YaAmar · 2018-09-06T09:42:22+00:00

Sexual attraction for men is usually described as mainly physical, with personality having little affect on whether he'll still sleep with a woman.

Sexual attraction for women is usually mainly physical, with assertive personality traits making a physically attractive man more attractive, but not making a plain man attractive on their own.

I think it's also why many guys feel a woman is lying or "settling" when they describe not being into a particular type of guy "anymore" (usually badboy types).

Yes, women usually have a type that they stick to for most of their adult life, and then when their eggs are rotting, that is the time when they lower their standards.

Although it can happen hella earlier than 30. Say, I met a 19 year old girl who at the height of 6 feet tall approached me. Very pretty, feminine.

I was instinctly suspiscious of why she'd want an older, shorter, less aesthetic man than her, considering that I look poor - I wear 5€ euros v-neck t-shirts and €10 euros cargo shorts and my shoes are 10+ years old and they look like something out of a crocodile's stomach.

Turns out that she had been cheated by her 6'6'' boyfriend and wanted someone she felt she could control. DidN'T maTtER gOT sEx.

Question: Has there ever been a particular experience or behaviour from a woman that has killed ALL sexual attraction to her? If so, what?

There were also women who made me work real hard to get them, and then when I got them I dumped them instantly after it because I'm pretty sure they didn't make the other guys who were more aesthetic wait for it, and I lost all sexual attraction for them.

platinummattagain · 2018-09-06T13:50:28+00:00

I feel like this has happened to me a few times but not in a light-bulb moment type of way, it was over the course of a whole night of her being nasty to people and at the end of it I remember seeing her (she's hot) but being really turned off.

LewisCross · 2018-09-05T13:37:45+00:00

Has [there] ever been a particular experience or behaviour from a woman that has killed all sexual attraction to her? If so, what?

One was overly emotional. Like completely unable to regulate her emotions. Would go from weeping crying to throwing things.

Another one was a stuck up bitch who cut off sex almost completely.

_Ulan_ · 2018-09-06T03:27:54+00:00

If she previously had kids. If I'm slightly drunk I might not mind but sober I can't find that attractive. Obviously I hope that will not apply if these are my kids : )

Whodunnit88 · 2018-09-05T10:51:49+00:00

Yes. Any woman who is busy.

wobbleelbbow · 2018-09-06T06:14:44+00:00

I was into this one chick many years ago until I heard from a close friend of mine that she occasionally doesn't shave her legs. Instant loss of attraction. Well, to be precise, my attraction for her went from 8/10 to 3/10. True story. She still has great ass and I would ram it like a truck rams a man crossing the road.

Another instance was me talking to a woman I was attracted to and her mentioning she will beat (I guess americans call it "spanking") her own child for misbehavior. Loss of attraction. And I do not even want kids and never planned on having them. Go figure.

Edit: feminists downvoting me? Shave your damn legs women!

Title	[Q4Men] Killing attraction
Author	decoy88
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Date	September 5, 2018 9:39 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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