A few days ago , a post in PPD was about the two contradicted advices that women give to men which basically were :" building friendship with women is an effective way to reach a romantic relationship " but also " women hate when their male friends approach them and they get devastated knowing the person they trust had ulterior motive " . Those two advices alone by women can wast mouths or even years of the man's life . So it not illogical to not take women's advices seriously since .First, women never had a track record of helping men and definitely not now after feminism. Second , men are aware of the " group bias " women have so It's hard to believe that women want to give advices that wouldn't eventually help women more than men (for example how men should be patient with women but women should have high standards from the beginning ) .

Now if we exclude women from the list of " Who can be a good coach ? " , we may think of attractive men as the most legitimate one due to the experience and the simular circumstances , but eventually most men receive the same advice :" Just be Yourself " which doesn't make sense and It's due to the different lens people judge attractive men. Attractive men are heavily judged by their personality wanting to be loved for who they are the same way as women . So in conclusion here , It's like both type of men are athletes but are in different sports.

All of this basically keep the manosphere. (Or parents , which isn't something that make sense since we always talk about how different dating has become). Now women's complaints about the manosphere are built upon moral and emotional flaws , like how there they call women gold diggers and try to ruin women's perfect social reputation ..etc ...etc . But at the end of the day , it actually make sense to :

1_ If you're willing to adhere to what women want, there is nothing wrong with imposing your desires and standards ( money in exchange of sex not relationship)

2_ Adopting a mentality that filter women instead of swipping right on every woman ( having standards is celebrated by women so there is nothing wrong for men to do the same)

3_ Accepting having flaws and not aiming to " be a yes man for women " ( Toxic masculinity is no where near bad as loneliness)

4_ Aiming for sex and having different standards for sex than for relationships .

5_ Accepting that being attracted to youth and innocence in women is not a sin and It's just what you like . ( people who like spicy food aren't masochist they may just like it and nothing deep about it for feminist to think about )

6_ Men accepting that A/F and B/B is just an abbreviation of attractiveness may not be negotiated and modern relationships are prime example of this .

The manosphere may hold a lot of paradoxes but at the end of the day , especially from women and blue pill men , WHY DO YOU CARE WHAT MEN DO WITH THEIR LIVES?! ( no one had a problem with young women adopting " Bad bitch" mentality so why the aggressiveness and hostility towards men who aopt the manosphere?)