Why aren’t men good problem solvers when it comes to relationships?

wtknight · 2025-05-29T23:33:32+00:00

Removed. No internal questions (Red Pill asking Red Pill or Blue Pill asking Blue Pill).

Acceptable-Truck3803 · 2025-05-29T20:44:49+00:00

Most of the points you are bringing up and pointing out are doomsday/black pill/MGTOW points. There is also the part where people prefer to complain vs do something as many folks are scared of change.

Marriage: a lot of men preach to not get married and avoid it because women would take all of your stuff, BUT why not just get a ironclad pre-nup or post-nup so you don’t have to worry about divorcing your wife?

This sounds great in theory and on paper everyone wins if marrying for love. However once you introduce feelings and emotions into the decision, it's somewhat of a "you don't trust me? You think I'll divorce you? You think this isn't forever?" Cue in the arguments from both sides.

Loneliness: a lot of men complain about loneliness and how they can’t get any women BUT why don’t they just develop social/people skills and self care skills.

This is coming from many folks who have given up and have the "crabs in a bucket" mentality. If you are suffering we are suffering so we don't do anything at all about it as it's easier to complain loudly than to take action. People can join bar leagues, gyms with classes, groups of folks meet up on meetup/local Facebook groups, reddit meetups. There are options available. its easier to complain on social media however and doom scroll instead.

Attraction: a lot of men complain and hyper fixate on the idea that you can only attract women through looks, money, and status BUT why don’t they just focus on finding and fulfilling their purpose so that they can attract the right woman that help them fulfill it?

This isn't wrong, however from young as a man you are basically spoon fed the world is a competition and you are to compete as much as possible to have the best at everything to have said woman/partner walk into your life to start a family, have a home with white picket fence, etc etc. However if you ask a woman what she wants in a man/partner, typically it's a nice guy, good career, emotionally available, not rude, etc. BUT what is automatically not included and is "assumed" is that man/partner is also good looking, attractive to her (which is most but not all woman), has a decent job with good income, good social standing in their respective circles/community/city/country/etc.

You cannot help those who refuse to help themselves. "You can lead a horse to water but cannot force them to drink it." Doesn't have to be pill related, but these previous two statements relate.

No-Rough-7390 · 2025-05-29T21:02:36+00:00

If you’re speaking about men in general, it’s because they listen to what women tell them in good faith and don’t bother to read between the lines.

Barely-moral · 2025-05-29T21:06:49+00:00

Possible answers.

Marriage: a lot of men preach to not get married and avoid it because women would take all of your stuff, BUT why not just get a ironclad pre-nup or post-nup so you don’t have to worry about divorcing your wife?

Nothing is Ironclad. Also, reducing your dating pool to women that are ok with pre nups or post nups creates a bigger problem than the one we are trying to solve.

Loneliness: a lot of men complain about loneliness and how they can’t get any women BUT why don’t they just develop social/people skills and self care skills

That is not the solution. But that is not the point. The right question is why are men not problem solving their loneliness. And the answer is that the problem can't be solved by their actions alone. There is no relationship unless someone else decides you should be in one.

Attraction: a lot of men complain and hyper fixate on the idea that you can only attract women through looks, money, and status BUT why don’t they just focus on smfinding and fulfilling their purpose so that they can attract the right woman that help them fulfill it?

You think the problem is lack of attraction. I see the situation and believe the problem is that women are attracted to the wrong traits.

nightcall379 · 2025-05-29T21:47:45+00:00

Attraction: a lot of men complain and hyper fixate on the idea that you can only attract women through looks, money, and status BUT why don’t they just focus on smfinding and fulfilling their purpose so that they can attract the right woman that help them fulfill it?

What is that even supposed to mean?

nightcall379 · 2025-05-29T21:50:33+00:00

I’ve realized that a lot of men complain about relationship issues but never bring up solutions that are reasonable to be successful in relationships. On the other hand, if men faced a problem with their vehicle, they’d be the first to know how to fix the problem, but for some reason they cannot fix the vehicle of their relationship with women.

Because cars are inanimate objects that don't work directly against you

You're acting as if the reasons for a toxic relationship is because the man isn't trying to solve the problems, and not because the woman actually wants the relationship to be toxic

MisterFunnyShoes · 2025-05-29T20:30:53+00:00

The Red Pill specifically tells men how to improve these things.

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soontobesolo · 2025-05-29T20:32:37+00:00

The whole point of red pill is to understand and fix these things.

nightcall379 · 2025-05-29T21:47:17+00:00

Loneliness: a lot of men complain about loneliness and how they can’t get any women BUT why don’t they just develop social/people skills and self care skills

Implying that works

The blue pill has been repeating that "solution"/"advice" for over a decade now, and still haven't provided a single shred of evidence to prove it actually works

Title	Why aren’t men good problem solvers when it comes to relationships?
Author	gokeke
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Date	May 29, 2025 8:19 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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