Blwjob vs Handjb vs Regular S*x

Wife_and_Mama · 2024-01-30T18:19:36+00:00

It's the idea of selflessness. Other sex acts are reciprocal. A blow job is really just about him.

idontlikecockroaches · 2024-01-30T17:53:29+00:00

Ugh I don’t know to be honest, I think all men are different. But my ex was very particular about blowjobs. Other guys they were more of a smaller event and PIV sex was the main course.

anothergoodbook · 2024-01-30T18:04:25+00:00

BJ’s are considered more submissive. For some men the visual of it is a huge turn on. And the focus is solely on providing pleasure for a man (or rather the pleasure the woman gets it’s because she is bringing pleasure to a man).

votrepetitfleur · 2024-01-30T19:38:12+00:00

Honestly I love giving my boyfriend bl*wjobs after a long day at work. He says he loves it because he can just lay back and relax for the first time of the day and not have to worry about a damn thing. He also says the visual is a huge turn on for him, and he finds the act very submissive, which is a pretty big part of our relationship dynamic.

Generally speaking I give him a full massage first and end that off by pleasuring him afterwards. It helps him relax, helps him sleep, takes care of his sexual needs and makes him feel appreciated.

I absolutely love doing it for him anytime he wants me to, giving him pleasure makes me feel fantastic.

Fae_Leaf · 2024-01-30T18:44:03+00:00

It just depends on the individual. Some love head a lot more than others. For example, I actually don't care about receiving oral (on myself) and don't particularly enjoy it, so I never have my husband do it. But we both enjoy when I do it to him.

I'm not great at it though and utilize it as foreplay (not as a finishing act) most of the time. Same with touching. Sex is pretty much always the main course for him, as another commenter said.

As with anything, communication is important in your relationship. So you and your future man will want to be open about what you like, don't like, and really need from each other when it comes to sex. And it's good to be open to trying things especially when you lack a lot of experience.

AbhorrentlyKawaii · 2024-01-30T18:07:46+00:00

Man here. I try not to pitch in on this sub if possible, and I can only speak for myself, but handjobs are definetly the worst of the three (if not combined in some way with the other two), even with adequate lubrication. Blowjobs and PIV are definetly preferable for multiple reasons and a mix of the two is a good way to keep things interesting.

Also worth noting that blowjobs where you use your hands as well often feel better than just using your mouth, but both are good. Hope this helps lol

CountTheBees · 2024-02-01T22:36:39+00:00

If you are a virgin, these are not questions you should be asking. Part of being young and inexperienced is learning with your first partner - I can't see these discussions benefiting you at all. If I were you I would stay off the sex stuff and get into other topics that contribute to your SMV.

Things like

r/kibbe r/coloranalysis r/Makeupaddiction or r/skincareaddiction

Or whatever the hip new subs for those interests are nowadays... Get some girly interests.

ArkNemesis00 · 2024-01-30T19:40:21+00:00

Others have touched a bit on the psychological component so I'll try to go more into the physical.

Oral sex can be given to men in an unaroused state (for both the man and the woman). Other sex acts require an erection or lubrication, which requires the man to "perform" to some degree even if the woman is doing most of the work. Blowjobs are the only sex act to require nothing from men, so on a sub about personal responsibilities and LTR, it makes sense why it would be a recommended option.

Handjobs will always feel less special because of the similarity to masturbation.

Oral sex feels fairly similar to vaginal sex, which men seem to like. Oral sex can also take longer to reach a climax - a slower and steady pace towards orgasm will often result in a more intense finish.

Key-Tie2542 · 2024-01-30T20:30:23+00:00

I usually prefer PIV or PIA sex to blowjobs, but sex requires a lot of energy for the man! And when I'm tired after a long day, blowjobs are special in their ability to offer relief and relaxation at the same time. Really not a fan of handjobs, since they can even be painful for me if not done in a very particular way (and which I can do for myself).

Ok_Outside149 · 2024-01-30T20:12:50+00:00

Offering another female perspective, blowjobs do nothing for me sexually. I don’t like giving them, they don’t turn me on. I agree that it is nice to pleasure your partner - but for me it’s the same way it’s pleasurable to see my partner eat a meal I made for them. I love seeing them be happy, but the cooking and cleaning part is still work and doing it doesn’t turn me on. They do not give me real pleasure in the way touching me does.

However they are a pretty standard part sex so unlikely to find someone who is happy with never receiving one. I rarely ever give one to completion though and 9 times out of 10 it ends in sex. Sex is my preferred methods.

SuperiorLake_ · 2024-01-30T18:30:52+00:00

I think inferring to any sex act as red pill is unnecessary and potentially dangerous. I cringe when I see posts like this. Red pill or not, no one owes anyone a sexual act. It’s for you and your partner to decide. A HVM shouldn’t expect his woman to do anything that makes her uncomfortable just for his benefit, and the woman does not owe him anything of the sort. Giving to your man in any sexual way should be done because you want to for whatever reason, not just out of obligation. Assuming a sex act is red pill just opens the door for a woman to be more easily coerced.

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Title: Blwjob vs Handjb vs Regular S*x

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Full text: A lot of the theory posts and advice given on this subreddit seems to treat bl*wjobs as the default s*xual action wives should give to husbands. Why is this?

What about handj*bs or just s*x?

Are bl*wjobs referred by men or are they just the easiest to give?

Are bl*wjobs your preferred method or pleasing your husband over handj*bs or s*x?

I am a virgin so I have no idea.

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itanewdayshinebright · 2024-01-31T11:59:22+00:00

I prefer to give bj’s because its something he can’f do himself. A man has had decades of giving himself a HJ, I will never be as good as that, so much rather do something I can match in skill

undercovertrad · 2024-02-03T01:54:40+00:00

My husband prefers actual sex and to make it a mutually pleasurable experience. He says orgasm from hand jobs and BJs just don’t feel as intense and fulfilling. But there is a strong tendency in RP advice that makes it seem like men can’t enjoy sexual acts without it being something the woman isn’t getting anything out of…but my experience has been that healthy men who love their partners prefer for both of them to enjoy the experience. Women can marry the men they wish, but I love being married to a man who prefers finishing inside me and making sure it’s a lot of fun for both of us. My past experience has been that pure sexual servitude is degrading to my femininity and causes me to lose respect for the man due to his lack of concern for my personhood. My husband and I have an agreement between ourselves that we don’t turn the other down unless there is a significant or medical reason to do so, and we love each other so want each encounter to be something we both get something out of.

Title	Blwjob vs Handjb vs Regular S*x
Author	TheRedPilledLurker
Upvotes	18
Comments	50
Date	January 30, 2024 5:46 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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