Another reason not to get married. The weight gain that follows after. You can never see it coming.

giraffe34 · 2015-02-28T17:58:11+00:00

Speaking of which, most "Before and After" photosets on r/FitToFat include wedding photos at some point...

letmeseeyourrealface · 2015-02-28T18:32:08+00:00

It's insane how many marriages are exactly like this.

redpillbanana · 2015-02-28T20:32:38+00:00

I'm going to do whatever the hell I want. Disagree? Give me half your salary and the kids.

That's marriage in a nutshell.

cocaine_face · 2015-02-28T21:11:12+00:00

This happened to my cousin who was sorta alphaish beforehand. Or at least had the potential to be - he was muscular and tall, but he was raised religious so when he got a girl pregnant (who was admittedly pretty cute at the time - giant boobs, tiny curvy figure, I was jealous at the wedding), he put a ring on her finger.

He's still in pretty good shape, and I want to say he's probably around 24 or 26. He could EASILY pull the hottest of the hot tail, as long as he had even a modicum of game.

But now he's married with a kid, and she's a lardwhale. Easily 180-250 pounds.

Just awful. And I can't really drop any Redpill on him, because he has a kid, and she's his wife, and he's still religious. So he's pretty much fucked.

Poor guy.

PlusGoody · 2015-02-28T18:54:08+00:00

You can often see it coming. Fat friends? That means that fat, especially after marriage and kids, is socially acceptable in her world. Fat mom, aunts or older sisters? That means that fat is not only socially acceptable, but genetically predisposed.

The trick to avoiding this is finding women who have a LOT invested in looking attractive TO OTHER WOMEN. Because even if she thinks marriage and motherhood exempts her from being sexually attractive to men, if she loves looking great in great clothes and love being an alpha female, she can never slack up.

JP_Whoregan · 2015-02-28T20:14:22+00:00

My official position is and always be, don't marry.

That being said, if you're going to insist on getting married, make sure the woman you're sizing up (pun intended) for marriage is not constantly "on a diet". A woman who is always "on a diet" is trying to stay "not fat" just long enough to squeeze into that wedding dress. Then after the wedding, the dress comes off, and the mu-mu and sweatpants go on.

Of course, this won't guarantee that your wife doesn't blow up to the size of a Zeppelin, but it can help mitigate the odds.

GuideGhost · 2015-03-01T02:33:17+00:00

I saw this meme posted non-ironically on Facebook a few years ago by a then-recently married girl who has predictably now ballooned.

kackwotz · 2015-02-28T19:55:15+00:00

Dread Game A B Cs

Get a hobby

Hit the gym

Buy new clothes

Throw-awy · 2015-03-01T01:56:39+00:00

http://imgur.com/a/N2cyu

Some before and after pics. Visual representation of the written words on this thread since some of us (like myself) find pics more of an impact than text. I am both disgusted and heartbroken at how some of these girls really let themselves go.

JayViceroy · 2015-02-28T18:25:56+00:00

She went from model and on top of the world to landwhale hambeast feminist. Nice.

denmaur · 2015-02-28T19:00:33+00:00

It may not happen at every marriage but it happens in a lot of them. Once the woman has the ring, she gains power. Once the couple has children, she has almost all of the power. That's when her true character comes out.

My87thAccount · 2015-02-28T18:44:06+00:00

A fat person out of work with no ambition, that's who will properly prepare and motivate my kid everyday.

Throw-awy · 2015-02-28T21:55:07+00:00

This reminds me of a post here that linked to another subreddit where it is all about the validation. It was one of the few posts there that really pissed me off. Basically this girl was crying about her husband wanting her to lose weight and she was talking divorce. Seriously lady? You would rather get a divorce than lose weight? Then I remembered a book that explained why she would rather get a divorce that look good.

I read a RP book where the main theme was that a woman's tolerance in modern society has gone way down due to our current alimony and child support laws. A divorce in the old days would leave a woman with little financial resources, so she had to put with things she found odious---like losing weight and trying to look good. She had to have a higher tolerance level to keep her husband and access to his resources and her current lifestyle. Now that modern laws have given her a safety net, which is an access to financial resources. She does not have to put up with her husband's fat shaming and whining to lose weight. Since she now has a safety net and she can let herself blow up and knows that she will be financially taken care of.

My real life example: I was dating a girl a while back and we were at that point where she was wondering if we were going to get married. Since we were not married, no safety net. I knew a break up was coming when she started a diet and exercising HARD to lose weight. She really put a lot of effort into it because it took about six weeks for that ultimatum speech to happen.

Obio1 · 2015-02-28T19:15:06+00:00

Human beings need the threat of loss. Period.

Without it they turn into slackers.

It's why socialism doesn't work either. What happens with socialism? Everyone sits on their ass because someone else will do the work. The next thing you know there's no food on the shelves in the stores.

Marriages are the same way. If you remove the threat of a break up from the equation, somebody (most likely the female) is going to sit on their ass and do nothing because someone else is doing the work.

It's human nature.

Now we have divorce laws which attempt to reduce a woman's risk of being dumped. But those protections have backfired just like socialism did. Now we've got a nation of fatass women who expect to be taken care of no matter what.

badp4nd4 · 2015-02-28T19:11:05+00:00

This is the main reason I won't consider marriage. Women no longer need or want to maintain themselves once they have a child with a man.

While this is a generalization, I've found this to be true more often than not.

markfeel · 2015-02-28T21:00:02+00:00

Quick question: I will never get legally married (i.e. sign papers which symbolically castrate me), but if I want to have kids would it be fine to simply raise kids while cohabitating (with you being the sole owner of the house and most of the property)? Worst case scenario, she goes crazy/gets fat/whatever, but you keep your property and don't lose your kids if you have enough documentation to prove you're not abusive and shit. Is this an okay idea or is there a better way to go about it?

GuitarHero07 · 2015-02-28T19:17:39+00:00

Well the guy was doomed from the beginning since he was a beta bux. I'm sure he failed to maintain frame (in fact I doubt that he ever held the frame). If he was running dread game from the beginning and held the dominant position, she would not have gained the weight in the first place (it is common to gain weight in pregnancy but not that much). Now he is in a very difficult position but it's not impossible to get out of. He needs to start working out, dressing better and pursuing other hobbies. He needs to make himself more attractive to other women. It will be much harder for him to retake the frame, but it can be done with persistence and consistency.

Unfortunately, I fear that he is too Blue Pill to be saved now.

oldredder · 2015-02-28T20:56:29+00:00

The only way this won't happen is if a man has no legal consequences (divorce-rape) for throwing her to the side or getting new women to fuck. That's it. Pick your nation / legal jurisdiction and if you aren't there yet DON'T GET MARRIED.

therellikofthenight · 2015-02-28T22:03:26+00:00

Marriage is like Josh Hamilton's 5-yr/$125 million deal. When they get it, what's the point in trying anymore?

AngusOfPeace · 2015-03-01T11:11:20+00:00

Just a tip: always look at the girl's mom before you ask her to marry you. If her mom is fat, she will probably get fat.

tombreck2 · 2015-02-28T18:39:08+00:00

This is actually my biggest reason I won't get married.

spinmoves · 2015-02-28T19:07:33+00:00

I'm new to this sub, but from the looks of things, I see one of three outcomes:

1: She loses the weight and they all live happily ever after.

2: She stays fat and faithful. In this case I can only see them resenting each other more and more, which would create a toxic environment for their kid.

3: They divorce and share custody of the kid while daddy foots the bill.

I think the only good outcome in this scenario is also the least likely.

doob-was-here · 2015-02-28T18:32:13+00:00

tried to find the weight gain one but reddit is not my full time job. https://www.youtube.com/v/EclQVQGqnZ0 don't know if reddit is generally too young or just that sam has been forgotten.

2015-02-28T18:36:18+00:00

Agh that sounds nightmarish

TheIronViking · 2015-02-28T19:54:51+00:00

I've yet to see a couple go through multiple years in a relationship without SOME weight gain. More often than not the women I observe balloon up. The thing is...so do the men. Part of the problem is our different builds. 20lbs on non-lean aka fatty mass looks a lot worse on a woman than a man.

For either gender, it's silly to allow yourself to "go" the way we do. It's especially so for women, who leverage appearances to a greater degree than the average man. Then again, when you've got the guy locked down, why bother?

deaduponaviral · 2015-03-01T01:37:48+00:00

My jewish BB best bud for life is going to get engaged to his current jewish girlfriend. He recently moved out of state and jobs to live with her while she completes her masters/grad program? in social work? Lol. She's a few years older than him, has a cute face, and her family is loaded. He also believes in the typical bullshit "plan" of life set before him. However if I know anything, jewish wives blow up faster than most (his own mother can attest to that). The wedding day will be a sad one for me indeed.

Stayinghereforreal · 2015-03-01T03:17:03+00:00

She will lose the weight when he walks out the door. Or when Paulo Thunderdick is her new "personal trainer".

GayLubeOil · 2015-03-01T00:33:19+00:00

Honestly its your fault if your bitch gets fat. She's your responsibility just like your dog or your child. You wouldnt let your dog eat shit off the lawn. You wouldn't let your toddler eat little pieces of carpet. So why they fuck would you let a woman fat herself?

Women are not responsible enough to handle their shit. All of these strong independent women are obease as fuck addicted to xanex. The longer a woman goes without male leadership the more she runs herself into the ground.

So if your bitch is on a cinabun spiral its your job to check that slut. And if you can't then your not enough of a man to have a bitch.

kevkos · 2015-02-28T20:17:30+00:00

Wow. They should divorce. "The baby" is not a good reason to stay with someone unhappily. Maybe your cousin needs that wakeup call, as she probably thinks he could never go anywhere.

Waldo00 · 2015-03-02T00:09:44+00:00

It's not marriage. It's no fucking game. Lost the power and lord knows she needs a patriarch to guide her.

Jericho443 · 2015-02-28T20:57:08+00:00

If you have a solid RP foundation in your marriage, and are truly the unquestionable captain of your ship, it only takes a disapproving glance to get your wife to lose weight and tone up, or wax, or dress up, or any other little thing that you want. My wife has had two babies in the past 3 years and is already back to the Brasilian hardbody I married. There were moments right after the babies came where I furrowed my brow and shook my head at her less-than-perfect ass when she thought I didn't know she saw me (this is key). She was at the climbing gym the next morning.

Newdist2 · 2015-02-28T18:45:08+00:00

Depending on how old she is, she may divorce him at some point and lose the weight.

Hughtub · 2015-03-01T01:41:27+00:00

Some women treat marriage as a license to let themselves go.

chill1995 · 2015-03-01T02:34:57+00:00

I'm so thankful my sister is health and body-image obsessed. Her partner is a really genuine guy and they're both trying to adopt a more rational, and redpilled mindset.

Claude_Reborn · 2015-03-01T03:35:13+00:00

She only gets fat if you let her. This is where long term dread game comes in handy.

Let it be known that if she hits a certain BMI, you WILL be looking around for other options. You need to keep fit and in top shape so she is constantly reminded that you have other options.

It's up to you to make sure she eats right and if she starts plumping up, then you take her to the gym and get her in the squat rack.

BlaiseDB · 2015-03-01T03:50:21+00:00

If LTR/marriage is the direction you are moving in, get her to show you family pictures of her mother and grandmother. Odds are, that's what she's going to look like in 20 years, maybe less.

the99percent1 · 2015-03-01T10:44:51+00:00

It is what it is because the guy didn't have the right toolset and mental strength to handle a girl like your cousin. Now, if he were to have read RP, he might have a fighting chance.

Panda_Love_23 · 2015-03-01T17:08:46+00:00

I think a major facet here is it's important, in a world of growing fat people, to find someone who values fitness and health.

I know for sure there is no way I am ballooning after marriage, or at any point in any relationship. But I also workout and eat with moderation. So it's a lifestyle and pride thing for me as well. So perhaps in the dating world, a good strategy, if seeking LTRs, is to find someone with a priority on their looks. Not a shallow one, but a prideful one of taking care of their body.

2015-03-02T01:42:43+00:00

Its been said Asian (well Chinese, not sure about Korean/Jap) women don't suffer from this syndrome quite as badly or much at all. Actually it has been said they are better all round.

makethemsayayy · 2015-03-02T07:48:13+00:00

Literally 75% of American adults are overweight. It WILL happen unless you hound her ass, statistically speaking.

yummyluckycharms · 2015-03-01T22:42:06+00:00

Just a friendly reminder - dread game only works before marriage - not after.

After all, if you get a divorce, she gets half your stuff, and can then use that money for plastic surgery to go after the next guy. It literally has almost no negative repercussions for women, and as after all, what you are essentially telling her is "do what I say, otherwise, you can have half of everything I own".

cocoguard · 2015-03-01T15:36:33+00:00

Men do this too, definitely more often in beta world. I don't understand it, I mean if I was now living with and spending all my time with one person I'd be embarrassed to pig out on food and I hate saying "yeah so today I'm gonna go to class, skip the gym, go to the store..." to my college roommate so I can't imagine saying that to my spouse.

lalicat · 2015-03-01T05:12:30+00:00

I've been in an RP marriage for going on 8 years. She keeps fit running triathlons. I keep telling her she's losing value whereas I'm gaining it as I age.

skripklubbin · 2015-02-28T20:25:41+00:00

If you can't see that shit coming a mile away based on: personality, work ethic, eating habits, exercise habits, etc etc then you get what you deserve when your wife turns into a fat piece of shit. Barring being a marathon runner who becomes wheelchair bound there is no reason to gain ANY weight after being married much less double in size to morbidly obese. Guy got what he deserved for ignoring the warning signs.

doolinnc · 2015-02-28T20:08:49+00:00

This behavior can likely be adjusted using TRP honestly. If not, you maybe just shouldn't be married with that person.

The guys in marriedredpill seem to have success with it.

cooledcannon · 2015-02-28T23:48:21+00:00

Ive never completely understood why people think its "easy" to be obese and "hard" not to be and its about laziness.

Im skinny and healthy and its certainly not hard at all to do it.

MMBeast01 · 2015-03-01T14:48:29+00:00

will more blame pregancy and kids for the weight gain, instead of wedding, so Just don't make kids =D

Title	Another reason not to get married. The weight gain that follows after. You can never see it coming.
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Date	February 28, 2015 5:48 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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