Be a shitty alpha

AwakenedSovereign · 2019-02-24T15:35:48+00:00

Good post.

TL;DR

Your job isn't being better than anyone else. Your job is to approach, achieve and sustain your "personal best self" for as long as possible. Comparisons against others are usually not helpful because everyone gets dealt different hands in life.

Upon finding TRP I found my focus switched to "bad bitches only". Because hey, if they all sluts, why not just go for the Nova hot party sluts?

Problem is this narrow-minded thinking can confuse you. Trap you.

You only go to clubs, you only see club women. You only compare yourself to club players.

There are lots of ways this can happen. Basically the ultimate logic is.. not getting what you want? Change something until you do.

Change not coming fast enough, or reliably enough? Not sure if it's "worth it"? The work itself is worth it. Be the best you can be, even of at the end of the day it's not enough. If you never try at all the answer is definitely No.

Change where you are trying. Some guys leave this country to find love or a wife. Women here are fucked.

Change what you are trying. Nightgame vs. 6'5" Chad's not working? Go play Dungeons & Dragons at the pubs and pick up nerd bitches who haven't seen a six pack in six years.

And finally, at the very end of all that effort, LET GO. This is the ultimate ultimate TRP truth.

Ask yourself this:

"If I don't get HB8+ women like Alphas do, should just shoot myself?" No. The answer is no, because no pussy is worth that.

Pull that pussy off the pedestal and realize your happiness isnt at the bottom of her velvet tunnels, but at the bottom of your effort, the bottom of your strength.

What you want is to be sitting on your deathbed with a glass of Brandy in your hand, thinking back and saying to yourself... "Goddamn I didn't think I had it in me. I did things I never dreamed of. Maybe it didn't end the way I thought or wished it would - that's life. But I know for a fucking FACT I lived this life the best ways I knew how. No regrets."

AdmirableStretch · 2019-02-24T15:57:39+00:00

Reminds me of a piece of advice that always stuck with me: "If it's worth doing, then it's worth doing badly".

Meaning that if something is worth it, you'd best attempt it even if you think you'll be bad at it, rather than waiting for the perfect moment when all the stars align. Because that moment might never come.

Better a shitty version of what you want to be than a "good" version of something you dont even like.

IvanReilly · 2019-02-24T15:18:16+00:00

Good post. I think not comparing yourself to others but comparing yourself to who you were yesterday and making yourself better.

THEdirtyDotterFUCKr · 2019-02-24T18:03:25+00:00

This is good advice, however I see a lot of comments along the lines of "one day I hope to x"

There is a general miasma that annoys me. OPs advice seems to me like two tiers after swallowing the pill.

take you red pill
lift heavy things, get better, learn something
keep doing better, be responsible, be honest with yourself.

But a lot of noobs seem to take their time with everything. As though being alpha is a goal that takes years to get to and they need to do some prereqs before they can start training.

Dood! you could die before you finish reading this, everyone, and I mean everyone takes life for granted and thinks they're gonna live til their 70s at least.

Get off your ass! work in an office? get cold at your desk? instead of bitching about the thermostat or bringing a sweater to work, do some jumping jacks, pushups, dips from your chair or desk. FUCK what your coworkers think.

Yes Statistically most readers/redditors will live to at least 50. Do not assume you are in that majority, live like you're gonna die tonight and when you truly believe that. You will do some amazing shit your coworkers and acquaintances will wish they had half the balls to do one of the things you did this weekend in their shitty lemming lifetime

ChesterRickman · 2019-02-24T15:23:16+00:00

I agree. Don't be afraid to be shitty and accept responsibilty. Fear of making mistakes is what fucked with my behaviour for so long and made me stay on the sidelines.

0io- · 2019-02-24T16:29:29+00:00

The perfect is the enemy of the good. If you're a fat fuck, you don't need a perfect diet and exercise plan, you just need a non-retarded diet and exercise plan and stick to that. Too many guys get bogged down in details, how do I respond to this or that, etc. Get the big things right and the major pieces in place. You'll be on the right path.

DropDeadTyrant · 2019-02-24T17:03:09+00:00

yea but I'm doing all of this. I write poetry for up to an hour and a half a day. I've been accepted at 4 colleges. I talk to anyone and everyone. I lift. I wear good smelling colognes. I even do that thing they say here, "surround yourself with attractive female friends to make yourself look even higher valued". And, I don't get anything. The only attention I've gotten from a girl was three years ago, but I was too blind to do anything. I don't even want sex, I just want a damn hug, a pat on the back, to hold hands, something to say I'm getting somewhere. Like geez.

YourZenemy · 2019-02-24T16:46:38+00:00

Amazing post with great takeaways. Even the comments are helpful.

Not sure if any of you consume content by Gary Vaynerchuk, but one of his themes is how everyone claims to want to be millionaires [alphas] but are not willing to put in the work, the grit, once they realize what it truly consists of [TRP truths]. He emphasizes that if you are happier making $84,000 as #7 in the company ["shitty alpha"], that will ultimately bring you and those around you more peace [+results]. And that takes a level of self awareness.

It applies to this thread almost flawlessly.

Take your wisdom and apply it to something great my friend. I'm curious more about the process for you and what kind of work you do as well.

I'd sidebar this if I could.

openoids · 2019-02-24T21:47:21+00:00

At the end of the day, we all go to bed with ourselves.

gaydabsquad · 2019-02-24T18:09:43+00:00

Solid advice for all areas in your life. Getting shit at work and business or having trouble with the relationships in your life? What could you have done better? It’s hard to admit you fucked up (even if it’s just a little slip up.) This is how your game gets tight. Repetition and improving upon every experience.

Thank you for the reminder OP.

oooKenshiooo · 2019-02-24T20:05:05+00:00

Solid post. Can confirm. Always pick your battles.

The_Red_Choice · 2019-02-24T21:26:51+00:00

This was needing to be said. I see too many people on here who think they're failures because they don't weigh enough/too much, don't fuck 7 different plates a week, don't make 7 figures etc.

All that is byproducts of what you do. It's not what you pursue, it's what comes to you as a result of you bettering yourself and learning everyday. Also doing things you enjoy does make that journey much easier. Don't limit yourself because you perceive yourself in a negative light. Just keep going and getting better.

vfb14 · 2019-02-24T15:28:07+00:00

Alpha is an abstract concept. It can be derived differently out of particular situations.

elgodo7 · 2019-02-24T17:21:23+00:00

Good post, just curious what job did you have before and what do you do now?

flipwater · 2019-02-24T22:15:15+00:00

If I can give one piece of sage advice, it is that you should accept all responsibility for living the lifestyle you want. If it requires you to be lonely sometimes, accept that. If it requires you to not be respected sometimes, accept that it. If it requires you to make less money, accept that. If it requires you to work hard, accept that. Do whatever it takes to live by your own rules, and spend as much time as it takes to understand what your own rules are.

Beautifully written, thanks for this

Nikkozezim · 2019-02-24T22:20:08+00:00

Tough realization, but not everyone has the capability to be top notch.

_thechinaman_ · 2019-02-25T02:08:42+00:00

Lol didn't even need to read. Title is incredible. Based and redpilled. Tres bien fait!

Warrior_King02 · 2019-02-25T10:28:04+00:00

I do agree with your post but the title kind of doesn't make sense to me. An alpha is an alpha, if you dedicate your life to yourself, work on yourself every day consistently and really make an effort to change your life you'd really change your life. Can't really be a shitty alpha IMO

DouglasPR · 2019-02-25T15:09:58+00:00

"if you are the only alpha male in the room, women will settle for you": exactly! I know I am far from my ideal shape, frame, money... but I win most of comparisons in my environment, only by adopting red pill and looking after the basics, lifting, grooming, focusing in my goals and not falling for every shit test. Its start and a boost to stay in the path

German8835 · 2019-02-25T19:30:56+00:00

Can someone clear this out for me? I started reading rolo tomassis the laws of human nature... and some posts here promote being an asshole, an attention seeking narcissist... but I hope it is only with women, right? Not normal people you meat daily, and not your friends (male, there are no female ones). I can’t think about having a healthy relationship with your bros if you never help them, and the world only revolves around your ass. Am I having a Point, or do you always mean what I mean and I just didn’t get that? Yes, don’t be that nice guy, but command respect and have respect of others

Title	Be a shitty alpha
Author	beachbloke
Upvotes	549
Comments	69
Date	February 24, 2019 2:18 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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