FR: I'm officially "that guy" Orbiters hate

TRPsubmitter · 2014-11-05T04:13:47+00:00

That man is so courageous. He really communicated and expressed his feelings. This is true manhood and goes to show how traditional notions of heteronormative masculinity hurt men.

Unfortunately, they just aren't right for each other. But he should definitely not change a single thing and continue to communicate clearly while getting consent. It's all a matter of time until she chooses him after she goes through "that phase". Keep your head up, lad! She will choose you eventually!

/s

nicethingyoucanthave · 2014-11-05T02:58:33+00:00

Congratulations to you...and Steven. He did the right thing.

Good for you, nothing helps swallowing the pill like being on the other side of the equation.

It can be scary at first. A fat ugly chick with a very low smv tried to pick me up when I was completely drunk at a bar. She was there with her best (male) friend. I was so drunk I played along. She was aggressively trying to get me to leave with her. I eventually said "but you are here with your friend." "Oh we're not really here together. he just wanted to leave." His face: "Wtf? I don't want to leave. I want to spend time with you."

He looked really hurt and I felt bad. He wasn't an orbiter in the strictest sense because he had a gf. Still funny to see what "my best friend" means to her when someone with a higher smv than hers is there.

Rathadin · 2014-11-05T02:55:04+00:00

Good on him for nutting up and making a move.

GayLubeOil · 2014-11-05T03:33:28+00:00

He who hesitates masturbates

R_E_D_1 · 2014-11-05T03:50:48+00:00

Hopefully this woke Steve up to show him how his bitchass behavior will net him no poon. But it probably won't. He'll probably just sidle up to some other chick, friend her up, and pray she notices how good he is for her.

mister_barfly75 · 2014-11-05T08:49:12+00:00

Ugh. "I've always had feelings for you." I bet he pictured confessing that in the rain, then a deep, passionate, tearful kiss when she realised that the one she was looking for had been there all along

Fucking Hollywood. We've all been there. I feel sorry for Steven, I used to be an orbiter, believed that romance and twu wuv would conquer all. Now I know it's the fast track to be an emotional tampon. It was a painful lesson but one I'm glad I learned. I just hope this guy learnt his lesson and isn't about to latch into orbit with another one.

venetianblind · 2014-11-05T04:12:18+00:00

I have to admit, I relish the pain of these chumps. Hopefully, they wise up.

I have plenty of work to do on myself, in many different aspects. But I am decent at naturally behaving in the right way if I run into a girl and we have some instant chemistry. This has led me to be in the position of of snatching a girl away from a hopeful a few times.

Not all of these guys have really been "orbiters" as such, but they have at least erred on the side of supplication and not pulling the trigger hard and fast enough. There was definitely a strong sense that I gave these girls tingles that made them forget all about the nice boy who had been working slowly and dutifully to reel them in.

It’s funny to see how these girls feel about the guy they ditched. Most of them genuinely to agonize a tiny little bit about breaking his heart, but there is always a huge element of contempt for him as well.

I’m a sucker for schadenfreude, so I can never keep myself from briefly voicing my gleeful disdain for the chump I "bested". Pretty much without exception, the girl will say something to the effect of "Nooo! Don’t be meeeaaan!" But they hardly make it through their own sentence before the sentiment wanes, and they get turned on despite themselves.

MagnanimousGenius · 2014-11-05T03:18:37+00:00

I read this and went upstairs and thought the post over, dug up a memory for me

When I first started spinning plates, this one girl who wasn't 'exclusive' with me by any stretch but certainly attempted to pull me in that way, told me how a guy took her aside after school and told her his long held feelings for her and then he dropped off the face of the earth.

I was that guy too, and your story made me chuckle

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johnyann · 2014-11-05T06:46:20+00:00

You know what though? This is probably the best thing that could have happened to Steven. He's gonna move on with his life, and maybe meet some chick that will actually reciprocate his feelings and not just use him as an emotional crutch.

iceax · 2014-11-05T02:51:45+00:00

Learn one weird trick discovered by an orbiter!

Locastor · 2014-11-05T03:36:05+00:00

Upvoted based on title, content did not disappoint.

Good job OP.

johnnight · 2014-11-05T09:42:46+00:00

I'm always puzzled by the total lack of empathy ("capacity to recognize and predict emotions experienced by another sentient being") that women have. It's like not understanding that sticking knives into people kills people.

H4ppenSt4nce · 2014-11-05T17:01:55+00:00

A while back something similar happened to me. I started hooking up with this hot chick that hangs out at some of the local dive bars. Naturally, because she favors the dumpier places she has acquired quite a few orbiters. One night I was walking out through the parking lot to take her home and ran into one of them, named Nick. He was smoking (he doesn't smoke) and looked like his dog had just got run over. I asked him if he was feeling alright or if he drank too much and he just solemnly said no. Well later that night he sends me a wall of text about how he is in love with the chick I just got done fucking blah blah blah. It was hard to read. I saw him a while later and he seemed to have actually learned from it, so good for him.

I_AMA_Naughty_Boy · 2014-11-05T06:01:21+00:00

I feel for Steven here, many of us have been there at one point or another and for some reason I'd like to see /u/Ronin11A invite Steven out for drinks and play the role of Morpheus. Give the guy a chance at least to choose pills. I think that's such a huge issue with tbp so many betas would go red if they knew it was an option.

rednukleus · 2014-11-05T10:48:10+00:00

That's just funny. I'm sure he feels entitled to be with her.

Rush-into-the-fray · 2014-11-05T15:53:27+00:00

Don't feel one bit sorry for that guy, he learned something.

Fractuality · 2014-11-05T18:36:42+00:00

Hey, so i am am in a similar situation to you. Something that is perhaps a more common situation then i thought. My girlfriend has these orbiters who text her more then i can fathom at times. The softest of shit to.

Anyway.

I have no problem handling this, i simply wait for the next msg and then place my hand over her phone and... proceed to fuck her.

But when theses AFC's start asking her to hang out what is the best reaction.

chillmonkey88 · 2014-11-06T08:31:04+00:00

The classic "nice guy" secret contract... Exchange being a friend for the sex. Classic lie... lol

R4F1 · 2014-11-05T04:03:59+00:00

The Red Pill is a hard pill to swallow. Its bitter, gives that nasty taste in your mouth, but its exactly what Steven needs. We've all been there. The fact that a guy can express his feelings, a guy whose been there when she needed him, and yet the girl just brushes him off like nothing for someone whose a total stranger. That's when I swallowed mine.

mega_beta · 2014-11-05T05:38:39+00:00

I've never understood how some guys can just be friends with girls they're not fucking. Seems like a total waste to me, not to mention annoying. Maybe if you share some sport or activity together, I could see that.

ruboski · 2014-11-05T11:00:55+00:00

Oh no, I was one of these orbiters in high school.

brotherjustincrowe · 2014-11-05T15:47:12+00:00

I'd read that text out loud while fucking her in my best fake-crying mangina voice.

Ronin11A · 2014-11-05T21:05:46+00:00

What's the dude (Steven) look like? I wonder if that's a factor.

Here's hoping it's the wake up call he needs to take TRP. Not that anyone could count on it, but isn't that the sort of thing that lands a person here once they realize the shit doesn't add up?

Masonjarteadrinker2 · 2014-11-05T21:33:39+00:00

Haha poor guy, I was BP but I was never an orbiter like this, thank the heavens that I never had to go through that BS.

aurelius_shrugs · 2014-11-06T04:25:42+00:00

Gentleman, it's good to see the scorn and pity heaped on men like Steven. I quite literally pulled this same horse crap on a woman last week. It's an emotional power play coming from a position of weakness, and it's utterly pathetic.

In my case, I was in stellar orbit for a year. It's what lead me to this place to find answers. It was like waking from a coma. It's very sobering to understand yourself in terms of a lifetime of bad habits, faulty pathological beliefs, and poor social skills. The redpill is very bitter, and I'm still choking it down.

My story is slightly different than Steven's. I have the knowledge gained here and from reference experiences in the field. But even so, there's a beta man in me trying to drive the ship. And he needed to be put down with extreme prejudice.

So I mustered my game, and went to work on the object of my orbit. She responded beyond my wildest expectations. At the end of a brief affair, one in which she offered to enjoy another woman with me, I had to kill the beta. I let myself do what Steven did with utterly predictable results. I was the locomotive engineer in my very own slow motion train wreck.

She nuclear rejected me from orbit. And rightfully so.

I fully recommend doing what Steven did. For some of us, the lesson needs to be burned in. If you meet the beta on the road of life, kill him without hesitation.

SamGill · 2014-11-06T01:59:36+00:00

he's no beta that's for sure: he's drawn the line in the sand.

mykonos_rm · 2014-11-05T21:54:37+00:00

It's kind of ironic to me because I was BP for so long, and orbited a few girls. Part of me is refreshed and very pleased to be on the other side of the equation now, and part of me still feels sorry for the poor sap.

This. I went through the same phase, from my late teens, early 20s. I know exactly how you feel.

As for that poor sap, fuck him. Orbiting BPers are vindictive shits who want nothing more then to see you fail in your relationship, career, or life in general. These are the guys who look for any sort of proof or validation that your a stereotypical "loser" in order to paint you in a bad light to the girl your seeing while simultaneously trying to validate their own pitiful existence. This guy probably went home after meeting you and masterbated to the mental image of you and that girl having sex. He will stab you in the back at first opportunity. Vanquish him.

Mrjetsondc · 2014-11-05T13:24:48+00:00

Good for you. Have a cookie.

kackwotz · 2014-11-05T06:01:18+00:00

What's your one weird trick?!

Title	FR: I'm officially "that guy" Orbiters hate
Author	Ronin11A
Upvotes	172
Comments	102
Date	November 5, 2014 2:39 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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