How to Recognize Crazy BEFORE You're Targeted - A Guide to Identifying the Borderline Woman. (Part I)

troghin2 · 2016-10-12T20:41:42+00:00

OP, you must like Taylor Swift a lot.

Whisper · 2016-10-12T22:12:38+00:00

All of this is far too elabourate to be a good thumbnail. As a writer, you need to strive for clarity of basics over completeness.

Here's what people need to know about Borderline women:

They love you madly, until the first time you disappoint them in any way.

Then they hate you, and they will kill your pets.

Beware of any woman who idealizes you right away, and tells stories of all the horrible people who betrayed her and let her down in the past.

awalt_cupcake · 2016-10-12T20:31:24+00:00

You forgot, in your research, the biggest point of them all: dysfunction attracts dysfunction. If you had a mom who has BPD, you have the male version of BPD. You will feel a natural connection with these types of women. It will feel right. you will feel wholesome. And then they slowly begin to poison you. BPD always have an agenda. Most women have an agenda when it comes to their social standing (for instance protecting their innocence if they're called out for being a slut) but BPD women have a plan from the very moment they meet you. They have decided you are the one. The seduction comes too easy.

bigk12345 · 2016-10-12T21:08:23+00:00

BPDs are intoxicating because they are hot and put you through a fucking roller coaster of emotions.

They are also chameleons. My BPD ex pretended to be a good wife material - she cleaned, cooked, demonstrated good motherly qualities.

And then insecurities plus her past started coming out.

Abortion, random stalking of past " abusive" exs. It was mesmerizing to see how a woman could justify all these things and blame others for her own faults.

Once she didn't get what she wanted( marriage) within short timeline, she fucked off to another guy and cheated on me. I was devastated. Another red flag were short term relationships prior to me - I was 2 years, longest before that was 6 months ( read fuck buddies).They are incredibly fickle and unstable.

After TRP, some shit clicked, I figured;

She came from a dysfunctional family where she father was a pushover to the manipulative bitch of a wife and ex hated his father for it. She felt justified in destroying my self esteem and taking out all the anger on me because of all men are pigs and did her wrong in her life.

The funny thing is they cannot pair bond. I know Rollo talks how women love differently but BPDs cannot pair bond at all. They are literally there to satisfy their own purpose and you are just a prop in their scheme- in my case, my role was to be the perfect, moulded husband that must adhere to her standards. Anything I said that went against her will , I could literally see her struggle to realize it by her facial expressions

AVOID!!!! AVOID!!!!

I think this link should be required reading for TRP and should be on sidebar.

http://www.sharischreiber.com/articles.html

postreformedpua · 2016-10-12T21:22:55+00:00

I came here to see actual signs of BPD. But instead I found some weird Taylor Swift fan fiction.

ACTUAL SIGNS OF BPD

Evidence of self harm - Look on arms and legs for horizontal scars. BPD girls use self harm or 'suicide attempts' as the ultimate method for frame control. Often coupled with 'look what you made me do' or 'look how sorry / upset I am - I am the victim you can't be angry at me anymore'. AKA a nuclear shit test. One that would trigger empathy in even the most hardened player.

She has a history of experiencing rape or abuse - Especially if she mentions it very early into your interactions, maybe even before sex. Think of it as her doing you as huge favour and RUN. By having this talk she has put the frame for all sexual experience on to herself forever more. Do you want to find yourself saying 'do you feel safe' during sex? If not fucking RUN.

Has daddy issues - self explanatory.

Has fucked more men than a pornstar - Hard to find out unless she thinks you also have a lot of notches.

Crazily Sexual from the get go - We have all heard 'don't stick your dick in crazy' but we all know why it is hard to follow. They will send you a nude of themselves deep throating a live anaconda after the first coffee date. They are WILD and need no training. They will also get you killed.

There you are gents. If a girl has any of these qualities just put your dick away and make a hasty retreat or they'll have your balls sliced open before you can say "Debby is my sister! That is why I got her text at 2AM".

zigg-_-zagg · 2016-10-12T20:12:14+00:00

Been there , done that . Out of the FOG now.

red_reality · 2016-10-12T20:48:54+00:00

I believe the key to recognizing unhealthy psychological problems in anyone is to be very present and very critical of their actions and emotions. If ever they do or say something that doesn't fit a 'normal' response, recognize it! Those are little snippets of the real person behind the mask.

FriedMyBrain · 2016-10-12T19:56:17+00:00

What experience exactly do you have with borderline disorder? Is this satire?

Gus_Buckeye · 2016-10-13T01:12:32+00:00

I dated a borderline (undiagnosed but she met all the criteria) for almost two years and it nearly destroyed me. This site called Shrink 4 Men, which is linked in the sidebar, literally saved my life.

If you're involved with a borderline chick there is no saving her. You can only save yourself.

Entropy-7 · 2016-10-13T02:13:01+00:00

The mindfuck is that the hottest DTF girl who completely rocks your world on the first date is probably BPD and will ultimately add more complications to your life than she is worth.

TermsOfColors · 2016-10-13T00:03:34+00:00

One of my ex-girlfriends was crazy. I broke up with her not long after finding out she was seeing a therapist or psychiatrist or whatever. As you may guess, I caught a little bit of hell over that. Whatever. I ran into her last year, she has married/divorced twice since then and was actively trying to reel in number 3. There but for the grace of God go I.....

JamesSkepp · 2016-10-12T20:44:28+00:00

I have little idea about BP people, therefore cannot say if it is accurate description of the BP or not.
That being said, some of the behaviours in the gifs are just spot on. The acted out, overdone emotions are classic sign of manipulation. She conveying a message, not an emotion. You don't need to ACT emotions to show them.
By the gifs, one of my first ex-gfs was a Hermit. By the text description, she was a Queen.
This: http://imgur.com/gallery/ESCHs is a classic shit test. She pretends to be offended. Ignore it, she's attracted. I'm not saying this isn't (or is) a BP clue, might be, might be not. But, from experience, this IS as shit test.
Taylor Swift is really fucking cute :D.

oxnaes · 2016-10-13T05:40:40+00:00

To all posters saying BPD is just female traits, wrong.
I was married w/1 kid for 5 years to someone who was eventually diagnosed w/BPD tendencies after I came home to her saying "goodbye, mommy will miss you" to my 4yo son, next to an empty bottle of pills. She had, at that point, been caught having affair and knew I was on way out, so to manipulate human sympathies and make me look like a scumbag , she developed "cancer", started running and shaved her head to look the part. I stuck around for too long, and was fully fluent in crazy as a result. Son lives with me now, and I'm hoping nothing was passed to him

PANDAwaggon63 · 2016-10-13T19:23:14+00:00

BPD ex is what led me here. Hey shit did she fuck me up

RawgerOThornhill · 2016-10-13T21:02:12+00:00

I was married to a BPD, her daughter was also BPD. Lived with them both for nearly 7 years, it was very intense. Key things to look for when determining if your current partner is BPD include:

(1) Self-harm. Cutting, suicide attempts, etc. My ex take on this was to dig into her fingers with her fingernails.

(2) Splitting: your partner will alternate between idealizing you and denigrating you, as BPD's are all-or-nothing. You (and they) are either all good or all bad, there is no in-between.

(3) They have addictive personalities, so expect abuse of drugs/alcohol, sex addictions, gambling etc.

(4) They tend to be paranoid, especially under stress. As other posters have mentioned, if they have lots of enemies or if all their previous relationships are now "bad", watch out.

(5) When they love you, they are incredibly passionate and expressive sexually. As the relationship progresses, you will become less and less idealized and more and more denigrated, until finally you are cast out. The intermittent positive reinforcement is like heroin: you put up with all the garbage just to get a little fix. This requires strong frame to avoid.

If you suspect you might be in a relationship with a BPD, get the book "Walking on Eggshells" and read it. Chances are >90% it won't work out, it is very hard to treat BPD as they cannot tolerate anything that suggests they are not 100% OK.

Basically they have an extreme, nuclear form of hamster that can justify anything, up to and including physical violence, murder, fraud and any kind of abusive behavior toward you and your family.

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gkmedia · 2016-10-14T00:51:00+00:00

The reactions from "when the hermit writes you off" bring back nightmares. I dated a girl (if you can call it that) who was a combination of all of those archetypes, and was more on the narcissistic personality disorder side than BPD (even if only exaggerated coping mechanism for deeply engrained feelings of worthlessness). Good post. I do think facial expressions and dramatic gestures can be a tip off, but there are better ways to convey warnings and red flags, especially because the type can be so predictable when you've already encountered them. Even things you thought were eccentric about one are the same in the next. However, you absolutely need to look within and ask yourself why you date this type. I had to. It's very much a co-dependency. A distraction from your own issues and perception of self-worth. I was letting my health and mental well-being slide for this absolute energy vampire, and although I think the world would be a better place without that type, it was no one's fault but my own

the_strasburger · 2016-10-19T09:51:02+00:00

Hold frame, vet and kick to curb if she don't act right. Seriously. BPD women are easy to spot. They play act for a while like every girl does. But once that period is over, they'll start to do some real weird shit that will have you thinking "uh, wtf just happened?"

They'll also say some things that are odd, have emotions that are all over the place, especially their anger. A lot of small things that most people won't think twice about will set them off. They are also extremely impulsive; cheating, drinking, reckless spending of money are obvious signs for which to look. They're also emotionally empty, for the most part. Horrible self-esteem and self-image. My mother had BPD. Also, children of BPD parents are not doomed. You will need therapy though because BPD people are the last folks who should be having kids.

JackGetsIt · 2016-10-13T00:36:28+00:00

This is an excellent video as well for identifying BPD types before they get their hooks in.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iihsbrwqZLU

Mckallidon · 2016-10-13T02:14:07+00:00

Can confirm. Only woman who ever phased me was borderline as fuck. They're good at what they do. I knew most of TRP when people were still using AIM, having grown up always running with an older crowd, working in kitchens and construction sites. I always hung out with older men and grew up with a crazy mom and figured much out myself even without man wisdom.

They will get the best of us if we're not careful because they draw out our pure masculinity, and it feels good and powerful. And, because they will let you smash them as much as you want. It's a fucking trap. If you escape, broken or intact, without knocking her up, you will have seen the abyss within and without. And TRP will taste better than anything ever.

Dream_21 · 2016-10-13T16:51:54+00:00

I love seeing more discussion of cluster B disorders in TRP. Thanks to OP for making this post and great comments. Cluster B women are something special.

For those of you who haven't experience one... you're in for a nasty treat if and when you ever do. It's the worst ingredients of women, super charged + NOS.

Study up, don't let taking the red pill make you over-confident.

Anyone transitioning from beta to alpha is a prime target for BPD women...

Five_Decades · 2016-10-12T20:46:47+00:00

Most borderlines aren't as hot as swift though.

ek1995 · 2016-10-12T21:21:33+00:00

What the sandwich fuck is this?

StotheGG · 2016-10-13T00:26:53+00:00

I was at the tale end of my marriage. I got to know a girl who was absolutely beautiful. I'm talking so beautiful she could have been a Victoria Secret Model. Most attractive woman I've ever met. Incredible.

She was married. And I heard the story about how he was asexual. He had a disorder. He never fucked her. This guy was ugly as fuck, had a shitty job. Why they were together, by any objective measure, made no sense. Hell, he was fat and shorter than she was.

Anyway, I finally figured out a few things. 1) She was absolutely crazy. She made everything up, not only to me but to everyone around her. She was also with this guy because she could literally 'physically' dominate him. I'm certain he feared for his physical safety, as I'm sure she hit him besides acting like a fucking maniac. They had a daughter together and he was an incredible pushover. So, they will no doubt be married for life, unless she can find an absolutely 'sure' sucker like her husband, but with more resources, to replace him.

As someone else mentioned, here are some of the other traits.

Very sexual. This is particularly true if they are into porn. Bisexual women are far more likely to be BPD. There are reasons for this. One, BPD is often triggered by sexual abuse, so they have a more fluid sexuality and are more promiscuious as a result of this early abuse. Secondly, they actively use sex as a way to get and keep guys. They let you stick it in their ass, they like you to do rougher stuff than your typical girl, are willing to do threesomes, both because its tied to their abusive past and also because it makes them 'unique' to you.

Are very willing to change their belief structure or agree with you on topics, because as mentioned, they only mirror back what people say.

Also any woman who cuts herself. Fucking run. Shocking to see how many woman have cuts on their arms.

There is a long list that could be written and the only way to actually be able to avoid these women is to always value yourself more than he person you are with. So you leave, wether she's actually a damsel in distress or a manipulative bitch.

Paratonir · 2016-10-13T07:50:54+00:00

2 years ago back in my full beta days, I was "friends" with a waif who has the most beta cuck boyfriend the world has ever seen. They are still dating to this day, but it is fascinating to see life being sucked out of him progressively while he still blames her "emotional troubles" for any shit that she pulls off. I've never read about BPD archetypes until today, but I still knew that she was crazy and manipulative even as a beta. It's sad how some idiots are so brainwashed that they can sugar coat crazy behaviour when they see it and twist the blame onto something else.

trppr · 2016-10-13T20:31:18+00:00

Can you elaborate more on the difference between hermit and waif? They both appear to be operating around activating sympathy and protector emotions.

PM-ME-YOUR-SEXTAPE · 2016-10-13T16:34:30+00:00

Rampant drug abuse, and I mean rampant. A long history of flings, etc. and the bitch put me on a pedestal so high my head was in the clouds within 5 mins of meeting me. Emotionally manipulative. You'll know it when you see it

PantsonFire1234 · 2016-10-14T12:45:32+00:00

Very nice idea to make a series of posts. Well done with the flair, you have potential. I agree that bpds are probably the number one threat to your happiness. Though I doubt RP men would attract them since they usually target beta man.

Anyway I found this post to be lacking with any specific lessons learned and concrete talk about the inner workings of bpds. You are clearly interested and knowledgeable about the subject so it's a shame, given how well written your post was. I really hope you take everything from part 1 and make part 2 the post it's meant to be.

Also after seeing the twentythousand personalities of Taylor Swift in gif actions I can't help but notice how bland she is in the looks department. Where does this basket case get her entitlement from, I've dated hotter women than her when I was a teenager.

fatalbinoninja · 2016-10-18T19:10:36+00:00

Holy crap. I married one! This explains so freaking much.

jeff1328 · 2016-10-13T03:05:13+00:00

Jesus.....as someone who spent 2 years with BP "Waif" (nailed it to a tee I swear) this is scary accurate. Thank you for the post. I think a lot of women have various attributes of BP some more than others but as someone who is selfless its hard to identify when you are being prayed upon. Hopefully this helps a few open their eyes. I know I needed to open mine but by the time I did it was too late.

Torridzone92 · 2016-10-13T03:13:39+00:00

Holy shit. This hit way too close to home. I dated a girl like this once and the Waif/Hermit sections were basically a biography of her.

I look forward to reading more of these.

Fulp_Piction · 2016-10-13T07:58:06+00:00

"You ain't supposed to see the whole eyeball on ANYBODY" - Dr. P

electricqueer · 2016-10-13T18:36:05+00:00

Everytime I read info on BPD women I can't help but think isn't this behaviour how most, if not ALL women behave...

[deleted] · 2016-10-14T12:29:39+00:00

OP has such a crush on TS

But this is a really good HOW TO guide on not sticking your dick in crazy

Trump_will_win_2016 · 2016-10-13T03:25:34+00:00

This is a bunch of fucking bullshit and Taylor Swift pictures.

hibloodstevia · 2016-10-13T01:10:51+00:00

You are an idiot. She is in show business and people inside her inner circle are the only people who would know what is part of her image and what is her personality coming out.

friendlysociopathic · 2016-10-12T22:33:10+00:00

This is a really shit summary of two books on borderline personality disorder accompanied by pictures of Taylor Swift.

Fuck off Calvin Harris. We see right through you here.

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MattyAnon · 2016-10-13T15:58:53+00:00

OP: you are confused between "BPD women" and "women".

GuitarsAreGettingOld · 2016-10-21T11:13:42+00:00

OP thank you. I admire the quality of this post and having met my fair share of these archetypes it will help me a lot in the future.

BreaghaGreenEyes · 2017-01-16T06:48:50+00:00

This made me love Taylor Swift again.

DiarrheaHelmet · 2016-10-13T03:08:11+00:00

Just got through one paragraph and realized it was satire making fun of red pill. Pretty spot on.

Dookiestain_LaFlair · 2016-10-14T05:31:00+00:00

So is all this just cause you don't like Taylor Swift?

Dustin_Bromain · 2016-10-13T00:19:03+00:00

Any woman who displays these characteristics should be put down like a rabid dog; by firing squad, preferably.

TACTICALBLONDEBIMBO · 2016-10-13T09:32:42+00:00

Would be awesome if someone put a bullet through Taylor Swifts little skeezer head.

Heyokalol · 2016-10-13T06:11:14+00:00

This post is pure shit. Go masturbate to Taylor Swift elsewhere faggot.

aanarchist · 2016-10-12T23:43:07+00:00

even better, become an alpha man with untouchable frame who can make a bpd or bipolar woman make the conscious decision to control herself. she's had enablers all her life, all you have to do is break the cycle for her and she will love you forever.

How to Recognize Crazy BEFORE You're Targeted - A Guide to Identifying the Borderline Woman. (Part I)

THE GARBAGE COLLECTOR'S QUALITATIVE GUIDE TO THE FOUR BORDERLINE ARCHETYPES

Introduction

Women with Borderline Personality Disorder are dangerous, especially towards their sexual partner(s).

Content

This first post will be a lesson on how to identify the "Four Archetypes" of the Borderline Woman.

THE GUIDE TO IDENTIFYING TO THE FOUR BORDERLINE ARCHETYPES

The Queen

This is your classic Narcissistic Borderline.

Classic Presentation

Typical Non-BP Thoughts about the Queen’s Behavior:

When The Queen is pleased:

When The Queen is offended:

When The Queen is “sad”:

Typical Emotions Stemming from the Non-BP’s Thoughts:

The Hermit

The Hermit never runs out of things to be afraid of.

Classic Presentation

Typical Non-BP Thoughts about the Hermit’s Behavior:

When the Hermit is “sad”:

When The Hermit has written you off:

When The Hermit is giving you shit:

Typical Emotions Stemming from the Non-BP’s Thoughts:

The Waif

Take a moment to skip ahead and look at the pictures under this subheading.

The Waif is considered by some to be the most destructive of the archetypes.

Classic Presentation

Typical Non-BP Thoughts about the Waif’s Behavior:

When The Waif has a savior:

When The Waif needs a savior:

Typical Emotions Stemming from the Non-BP’s Thoughts:

The Witch

The Witch is going to be the one that murders you.

Classic Presentation

Typical Non-BP Thoughts about the Witch’s Behavior:

When The Witch is trying to stay contained:

Typical Emotions Stemming from the Non-BP’s Thoughts:

Conclusion

Therefore, you must take it upon yourself to learn how to defend yourself against these female predators

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Title	How to Recognize Crazy BEFORE You're Targeted - A Guide to Identifying the Borderline Woman. (Part I)
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