My fiancé LTR has started with the usual , less frequent blowjobs , maybe one every week and a half now when before it was at least once a day , the ‘headaches’ that have magically started happening , the shit testing etc

I have notice the level of shit testing / sex decrease has been almost exactly parallel with the amount of commitment I have given her , moved into the apartment , decrease happens , got engaged , another decrease.

Before she was very submissive , I could basically do no wrong in her eyes and I was genuinely worried that her sex Drive was so much higher than mine and I couldn’t keep up to her demands of sex 3/4 times every day, now she’s disrespectful, She falls asleep more often, doesn’t give me the “fuck me” eyes anymore.

I only discovered the red pill once I was already engaged, but Jesus there is so much I’ve been doing wrong.

I have basically been living in her frame completely , I fit my life around hers but not the other way round and not a balance of the two.

I work 6-7 days a week and basically have no social life or hobby’s , I noticed when She needs a ride somewhere or something , she simply asks if I am at work or not , in her head , me not at work = me being available , this really started to piss me off as I noticed various ways she doesn’t respect my time. She has even nagged me before about wanting me to save my holidays / spare time for her instead of other things that don’t involve her , if i want to do something she wants to come with me.

Here is a list of changes I have recently made:

Signed back up to the MMA gym I was at before I met her , signed up for two days a week , this may not sound like a big deal , but me telling her I am going on Tuesdays and Wednesdays was a big step for me , as the old me would have gone on the days she is at work (she works shifts ) when I told her I’m doing those two days , she looked at me so confused as to why I haven’t arranged it around her work schedule , “can’t you go different days each week depending on my shifts?” “No , I’m going on Tuesdays and Wednesdays”

Taking on extra shifts at work regardless of it it cuts into time with her or not , and telling her when I am working , not discussing it.

Planning my week / having a plan and sticking to it regardless of her schedule , for example if we planned a gym visit and She now has to work that day , she would expect me to not go that day = I don’t think so.

Stopped initiating sex - without acting butthurt , I’ve stopped initiating and talking dirty to her , if she doesn’t want me I don’t want to have to make her want me , I always know by about 6pm if she wants sex or not , if not , She will start with the headaches / tired / whatever excuse for that day , I used to get moody / roll my eyes etc , now I hold a poker face and just act IDGAF

Owning my time more: If She is away at work , I tell her I’m going to bed at 11, but she will phone at 11.30, this seriously pisses me off as it is not respecting that I’ve had the audacity to make a decision for myself that I’m going to sleep. Now if the phone rings after I tell her I am going to bed I don’t answer the phone , and in the morning I no longer apologise for missing her call, or even mention it.

Housework - I make sure the apartment is absolutely spotless , but I never let her see me do it , and never tell her I do it , I let her see it’s done instead. Same with the gym , I let her see that I’ve came home with my gymbag as I decided to go , not checked with her for approval like before.

Compliments - I used to call her beautiful at least 5 times a day , now it’s zero times a day unless it’s while we are fucking.

I used to tell her I love her at least 5 times a day , now zero times unless she says it first and then I return.