The unlucky spin

jrr6415sun · 2021-09-24T04:50:06+00:00

Who cares if she caught you, Were you dating? She flaked on you why does it matter if you’re with someone else?

This will teach her that if she flakes on you you have other options.

L2diy · 2021-09-24T05:12:28+00:00

So what? One of the most basic rules is that girls like guys with options. The only thing you did wrong is if you acted like you did something wrong.

5baserush · 2021-09-24T04:46:26+00:00

You fucked up by acting like you fucked up. Also you might have fucked up by using girls A recommendation for drink to girl B .

"you were with another girl tonight"

"Yeah I wanted to go out tonight"

d3g4d0 · 2021-09-24T05:13:57+00:00

It sounds like everyone involved in this story is under the age of 18. Soft next both of them and pick it back up if they come chirping back. Don't feel guilty for being a man and seeing multiple women. Go find a new girl to enjoy. $0.02

Vertigo50 · 2021-09-24T05:28:34+00:00

You probably didn’t lose EITHER of them. Now that they both know you have options, I predict they will both come crawling back at some point in the future. Then just make a date and hook up. Women love guys with options. It doesn’t matter what they SAY, only what they do.

As others said, your only mistake was if you acted like you did something wrong. You shot yourself in the foot.

Seneca_13 · 2021-09-24T06:30:28+00:00

You're a boy scout, you would have a difficult time in politics. This is exactly why TRP endorses machiavellianism, it's too easy to manipulate an honest man. You did nothing wrong, you only lost because you gave up your frame and accepted theirs. Next time maintain your frame.

red_blood_cells · 2021-09-24T04:37:49+00:00

what exactly did you do wrong?

recov3r · 2021-09-24T05:22:10+00:00

You lost nothing, she flaked on you its her loss. You took time out from your schedule to have fun if she doesn't keep her promise then it does not mean you can't have fun. You were free you texted a friend she was free so you both had good time and thats it. This is the best thing that could happen to you, now she will know that you have other options she can't control you. Don't count this as bad experience its a good one and own it. If she text that you were with other girl then say you flaked on the date so i texted a friend to know if she is free to have a quick drink or yada yada. But just dont explain to much as there is no need.

lifeintraining · 2021-09-24T05:33:56+00:00

“Yeah. Is your friend at the coffee shop single?”

sabanMiles11 · 2021-09-24T05:23:28+00:00

This may take the cake of the most useless thing I read on this sub

riggedved · 2021-09-24T05:29:21+00:00

Honestly the OP and his HBs sound like they’re in their teens. But I digress. Anyway..

OP, she flaked on you and yet you’re the one on the backfoot. And so what if you were with another girl.

One common thing you portray during all your mentioned situations, and even just by the tone of language you use in your post, it is 100% certain that you lack frame. You need frame. Build on that. Else these HBs will be shitting on you all over and treating you like a doormat in no time. If you continue with this frame, you’re fucked, buddy.

God bless America.

python834 · 2021-09-24T07:34:53+00:00

Who gives a fuck.

Most women are dating 3-5 men at once, and will go onto the next date right after you are done.

CbProdz · 2021-09-24T05:15:57+00:00

I wouldve taken a 3rd one lols jk. My man, you did nothing wrong. I wouldve done the exact same thing you did. Its all part of the game I hope you use that as a learning opportunity.

meerita · 2021-09-24T07:30:34+00:00

And this is how i lost a 8/10 and a 9/10 the same day.

ACTUALLY YOU DON'T.

Believe me but your value increased instantly for her. Do you think she didn't revalidated already knowing she flaked you and you, in matter of minutes, GOT ANOTHER WOMAN? Think about it.

She now has this idea in the head: "well, this jerk didn't care I flaked him, in fact, got another pussy to smash in matter of minutes, he has value."

She also knows you fuck the other woman, believe me, she doesn't know you didn't.

OMG this made me feel great. Profit this situation, keep talking to the flaked one!

This is what I do with women that in the last minute they cancel plans. I simply text her back pretending i am texting another woman, telling her that "Hey, I have free time" and if "she wants to go out tonite". What happens in the mind of a woman that reads that is this: "he has options". It works 9/10, she wants to be back knowing she will replaced in matter of minutes with another woman.

TheRedApostle · 2021-09-24T06:24:41+00:00

You are a retard.

Could've spun it around and made them BOTH compete for you.

Instead you explained yourself to her.

NEVER go full retard.

Angry_runt · 2021-09-24T07:02:44+00:00

So a girl flaked you and you went with another girl and they both found out and this is somehow a problem? It's the opposite of a problem.

throwabcdaway3 · 2021-09-24T10:18:24+00:00

The only fuck up is to think thats a fuck up. Just own it. "Yeah you flaked on me so i went out with another friend 🤷‍♂️". You are not fucking either of them so you have 1000% of plausible deniability to say it was just a friend thing. And even if you fucked tjem you could say 'im not into a relationship anyway'.

Never be ashamed of having options, especially with hot girls. Be unapologetical ALWAYS about it. They will respect it and get more horny if you own it. Giys who can gandle 8 and 9 and be casual about are super rare to them. Trust the process, its counter intiitive but its true.

War-rior314 · 2021-09-24T10:37:51+00:00

What the fuck is this. You lost nothing. Fuck the bitch that flaked on you. When she texted you about you going out wit the other girl, why you even respond? This is an example of a man with ZERO abundance. Work on your shit. Theres always more girls to go on dates. Dont lament on what you lost. Look forward to the next girl to stuff your meat in.

4everrekt · 2021-09-24T20:16:18+00:00

You didn’t lose anything.

“A prospective client cancelled a meeting with me and is now upset that I am trying to complete a project with a client that is more serious.”

Do you see how goofy the above sounds?

ShivStarKiller · 2021-09-24T12:05:23+00:00

So? Who cares? They're just women. Not a million dollar business opportunity.

redhawkes · 2021-09-24T15:11:48+00:00

Gtfo dude. The only thing you fucked up is not fucking the second chick at her place.

You don't owe those hoes a shit. Understand that. You're operating in her frame completely. You DEERed. So if the bitch flaked, that means you need to stay at home and crywank? Get a grip mofo. You were probably her plan b.

Now you have preselection and she's knows she can be replaced in no time. I wouldn't even reply to her, just put on soft next and maybe hit her up in the future. Also, don't listen what women say and stop pedestalizing hoes.

You can't lose something you don't have.

SKRedPill · 2021-09-24T15:33:42+00:00

The question is, "Do you really believe you did something wrong?" And "Do you really believe this as a major loss?" If yes, you will fail the shit test, and all shit tests in the future whenever you run into these girls again.

If no, spin it around when confronted and crack a joke. Whatever it be, love you or hate you, they won't be able to ignore you forever.

Also wait for those girls to get older. Then they get desperate to tie down any single man out there.

Reasonable-World-426 · 2021-09-24T05:19:00+00:00

nothing wrong you did, ignore both of them, one of them will reach out. If not, who cares- On to the next ones

a-little-spice · 2021-09-24T13:47:24+00:00

This was all fine until your last sentence. Own that shit, girls want men that other girls want. Sounds like you were winning until you acting like you did something wrong. Your answer should be “of course I did, I already told you I wanted to go out tonight” then let her sputter. You could turn this into a threesome if you were man enough

TheSunshineMan · 2021-09-24T14:04:05+00:00

Exactly like the other guy said.

The reason why you lost them both is that you probably came across defensive instead of like yeah..

I have tons of options..

Other mistake is taking girls out to expensive sushi places on a first date.

That just screams needy beta bux provider.

Corn_in_your_pussy · 2021-09-24T23:46:12+00:00

You didn't lose anything of value

Magnus_ORily · 2021-09-24T10:28:55+00:00

Caught? That's their problem for seeing you as disloyal instead of each other. Your only fuckup was mentioning your couch. Is that a brag or do you just really love your couch?

nightdecoder · 2021-09-24T12:32:29+00:00

They always come back. You did the standard operation procedure, and that was good

Yashugan00 · 2021-09-24T12:40:04+00:00

Did you apologise? Because that's how you lost them.

They would be MORE interested in you if they see you with someone else immediately after they ghosted you.

ihaveanewusername · 2021-09-24T13:11:44+00:00

Was this a girlfriend situation? If yes, dummy, if no, why ya let them set the narrative? If 8 is that restrictive it's dead in the water

b2daoni · 2021-09-24T13:38:46+00:00

And this is how i lost a 8/10 and a 9/10 the same day.

Fam,

you didn't lose a gatdam thing. If anything, ghost both of them and keep living your life on high. Don't act sorry for being single and being a man. You wanted to have a good time, you had a good time. Don't apologize for that.

JohnnySixguns · 2021-09-24T13:44:43+00:00

I'd say you haven't lost shit.

Bet you a coffee at a green branded coffee shop you ignore them completely and they'll almost beg you to go out with them in the future.

sawyer94117 · 2021-09-24T14:40:25+00:00

Doesn't sound like you messed up. You're in prime position.

The response to the text should have been: "And?" She flaked on YOU! Why should you care? At that point you should basically go for broke, I mean, what do you have to lose? Or, you know, you pant alone in your room, really, really hoping she likes you.

You can't leave the door open. To them you slightly wavering may as well be a confession (meanwhile you gotta have them dead to rights and even then they'll deny it -- men tend to project their best selves and women their worst -- makes sense, guys are trying to stand out, whereas what women look for, from protection to resources, is out of fear).

thingsjusthappened · 2021-09-24T15:50:38+00:00

Wow this is some serious simper shit.

qunamax · 2021-09-24T15:53:39+00:00

If you played well, they'll both come around in no time.

AForceNinja · 2021-09-24T20:28:53+00:00

Stopped reading at “German leather seats” yea you’re retarded

tradsouthernmale · 2021-09-24T22:43:43+00:00

Act like you did something wrong, and that's how you'll be perceived.

That was actually a boss move. You did everything right until you doubted yourself at the end.

comcain · 2021-09-24T23:09:01+00:00

You're golden. Ten bucks says you'll get calls from both of them. Son, you are in DE-mand!

TripleOrangeCity · 2021-09-25T04:06:04+00:00

I wouldn't worry about it too much. The objective is to not fall into a false narrative of romance without ruining that narrative for them. You have to consciously manage your relationships by acknowledging that they'll always leave you for a better deal, but that they themselves will not admit that to themselves or the world.

pappo4ever · 2021-09-24T06:27:19+00:00

Propose a trio immediately, you dont have anything to lose.

pnceng · 2021-09-24T11:45:04+00:00

Should’ve went to a different spot..-101

KingCrow27 · 2021-09-24T04:45:26+00:00

Tell that bitch you are not going to accept her BS and getting flaked. Either she's interested in you or you date someone else. Look her straight in the eye and say that.

hydro908 · 2021-09-24T05:22:13+00:00

Lol that’s why dates suck if there not coming over to get pounded during Netflix then idgaf

El_Chutacabras · 2021-09-24T12:23:28+00:00

Dude! Your chances of a threesome were right in front of.you!

L3onard3 · 2021-09-24T14:05:21+00:00

She caught you buying a bitch drive thru coffee and dropping her off back home. Tell her, “Next time you can join us too.”

MushroomAddict920 · 2021-09-24T14:26:33+00:00

You didn't lose shit you gained freedom to get better chicks. The second girl shouldn't have cared

MomentSpecialist2020 · 2021-09-24T14:56:38+00:00

You need to improve your game. First stop going to coffee houses for dates. If you want some action go to fun place that you can move to romantic place next. Be alpha, you plan and control the action. Have different sandboxes for different types of dates ready. Know and control your turf, have fun. And never mix girls in one sandbox. With a new woman go to a sandbox not recently used. 🍀

SnooTangerines6857 · 2021-09-24T17:26:01+00:00

So what its a numbers game , she flaked win win situation,

Business-Cheesecake2 · 2021-09-24T17:40:04+00:00

Should've told second girl you flaked on the first

kevintheredneck · 2021-09-24T18:28:13+00:00

What? I would have told girl #1 it was her loss. You didn’t want to go out, so I called someone who did want to go out. I was going out with a girl and she said she had plans of a Friday night. I’m like ok cool. I went to the bar alone. I danced with every girl that wanted to, drank beer, shot tequila, had a blast. She has the audacity to show up at my apartment the next day bitching at me about dancing with other girls. I told her to walk on, she isn’t all that.

fender1878 · 2021-09-24T19:04:49+00:00

Wow, I read this story and said to myself “this was the absolute best case scenario.” You need to look at it that way too. Even getting the drink Girl A recommended was a baller move — more of a slap in the face.

Though you sound young and inexperienced, you kinda fell into the perfect situation by inadvertently playing the one girl off the other.

What were you supposed to do after she flaked? Just sit home? This is the part where you basically let Girl A know that you have a life and are a busy guy with options. If she wants in, she better adapt quickly.

TigerXtrm · 2021-09-24T19:10:23+00:00

What? But she flaked on you. What in the world were you doing even justifying yourself to anyone?

CouchPotato4206969 · 2021-09-24T21:19:13+00:00

Wow, this sounds like a "you" problem

dvogdano · 2021-09-24T21:25:31+00:00

That case alone could have been the moment you have been waiting for my friend. Competition anxiety. Girl #2 is hotter than #1? Damn thats what’s up. Flake on me, I have options. But this works if you play your cards right my fella

HerefortheTuna · 2021-09-25T03:30:07+00:00

I feel like you failed a shit test. Next time say yeah I needed my coffee and my friend needed a ride. The first girl wanted nothing to do with you, until she saw that you were out with a potential rival to her.

Unforsaken_Dick · 2021-09-27T03:07:07+00:00

I swear women just live for drama, they are chaotic in nature

MadMattDrifts · 2021-10-02T00:07:13+00:00

The way I look at it, you won. You got two good riddances. One flaked on you and the other one got mad because you gave some of your time.

You won. Onto the next.

Title	The unlucky spin
Author	icy_ghost95
Upvotes	55
Comments	87
Date	September 24, 2021 4:34 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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