You're backsliding.

TroglodyneSystems · 2019-09-24T18:46:07+00:00

I used to think that by pouring my emotions out and telling a girl about all of my hardships that we’d bond better.

That’s a fucking lie.

Less is more. You should give just enough to make her realize that you’re not a psychopath, but if she’s pouring her emotions out, there’s no need for you to mirror that behavior.

nateydanger · 2019-09-24T18:56:15+00:00

Be on guard for the unguarded moment.

alsuqyadiq · 2019-09-24T18:48:21+00:00

Great reminder, thank you

Funny to see some shit post about listening to some advice from 4 women video and your post above this.

L3onard3 · 2019-09-25T01:44:25+00:00

If someone thinks their girl wouldn't cheat on them with Tom Brady given the chance...

Doesn’t even take that...Bob from accounting will do depending on how she feels at the moment.

[deleted] · 2019-09-24T23:23:14+00:00

You can be soft to your bros. You can tell them your secrets and fears. Don't show weakness to your women unless you want them to stop liking you.

Make everything appear effortless. Hide your effort.

Whopper_Jr · 2019-09-24T19:20:31+00:00

Good reminders—go back and read sidebar links and look back at archives, even if you think you’re good. Reason? For the majority of us, this forum is the only strong, masculine, RP interaction we enjoy in our lives. I live in a large, incredibly liberal city—I have a larger-than-average social circle, couple hundred loose acquaintances; and yet, I can count on one hand the number of redpilled/natural alpha men I have met.

A popular mantra is that “you become the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.” If all of those people are women and/or BP men, you will begin to backslide. If you step outside of those 5 and the next concentric ring of acquaintances are also women and/or BP men, you will begin to feel isolated ideologically, and you will begin to backslide. It will be incredibly tempting to rejoin the herd.

Luckily for us, the internet exists. Text & podcasts are helpful, video even moreso. You can effectively ‘replace’ your top 5 people with internet personalities as influence surrogates. Before discovering RP, I went through a political/cultural metamorphosis that ended up slowly alienating me from my social circle. Literally knew no one who thought the same way I did, just different flavors on the spectrum between Bernie — Hillary. Very isolating, but I felt more awake, so I continued to dive in.

Off the beaten path is where you discover more and more RP philosophy, and as you begin to apply it to your life, you continue to feel more awake, stronger, more confident. But the herd has a strong magnetic charge, and like gravity, the force it exerts is ceaseless, perpetual. This is not a diet, it is a lifestyle.

Stay strapped.

MasculineDevelopment · 2019-09-25T03:00:12+00:00

Things to never "backslide" on:

Lifting Weights
Making More Money
Self-Improvement

That's about it. Everything else will fall into place if you get those three, especially the last one.

Lateralanouncer · 2019-09-24T20:47:31+00:00

Nice simple post. My father taught me if your not going forwards your going backwards. Or as you would put it. “backsliding” I nice simple way to remind ourselves to keep going forward.

Wingflier · 2019-09-24T21:10:01+00:00

+1 for acknowledging the problem with the religious ideological framework this idea of "backsliding" comes from.

You could the most perfect Christian life possible and it would still never be good enough because to live sinlessly by Biblical standards is impossible (and freely admits as such). At least in TRP our standards are realistic. You can and should be proud of your achievements.

Howdoiusesync · 2019-09-24T20:24:17+00:00

I've worked with female rappers and they shit test you so well it's amazing.

Holding frame makes them like you more, since most of that industry and the one i'm in is about guys pretending to be something they are not.

Recently watched Gone Girl, and yes with great power in a woman (Social influence) they can and will try to destroy the man who they were pretending to be.

Backsliding is never the option.

Curious to know what you think about guys who do backslide and why?

BurnoTaurus · 2019-09-24T20:14:59+00:00

You can absolutely tell a woman all your secrets after you fuck her. Just ask yourself to what ends? Are you trying to endear yourself to her? make yourself seem special? Force her sympathy? Good luck

A man who has a handle on his issues can talk freely about them in a way that empowers the listener. They feel like a passenger on his journey struggling against adversity. A man who cowers in the face of his issues and seeks solace in whining about them to others...

"This post does not intend to have any insight"

Bullshit. Absolutely. This post intends to give insight to the concept of backsliding, flying too close to the sun, getting cocky, letting your guard down. What I have to ask is what is your guard up for? What are you protecting? Your ego? Your pride?

EliteAlmondMilk · 2019-09-25T07:17:41+00:00

"Christians get a lot of things wrong" understatement of the fucking year.

l4w_z0ne · 2019-09-24T21:13:04+00:00

Girls in europe don't even know Tom Brady, ha gottem!

MeansToABenz · 2019-09-24T22:01:59+00:00

What about backsliding if you are focusing on your career? I guess though that essentially this is not backsliding as you are increasing your SMV.

afterthe_fapocalypse · 2019-09-25T15:12:54+00:00

Backsliding ... Reminds me of 'edging' in the NOFAP forums. It's lying.

Thanks for the qui vive. I was just watching some bullshit by Kezia Noble last night. Even if she says something true, it's just so fucking hard to listen to her go on and on and on. I really don't think anyone watches those videos to listen though.

redmaxz · 2019-09-24T22:34:08+00:00

So true. For me especially since I seem to learn things only the hard way. After trp I got so much more success with girls and one in particular that I consider above my looks got me into oneitis stage and who would have thought I went big beta on her. Cut contact with her a month ago and now I'm on the right track again. I backslid.

NobodyP1 · 2019-09-25T00:00:13+00:00

I got to not tell my secrets to women after I’ve slept with them...

Thanks for the post!

Diddlydangerous · 2019-09-25T01:26:48+00:00

I think TRP definitely forces you to clean up your life to the point that you're not hemorrhaging negative emotions as a result of your life choices... a major, major benefit when no one else in the world is really holding you accountable for that.

But assuming you've come to grips with that and don't have crippling depression anymore vulnerability is a key to bonding... if you don't do that in healthy moderation you won't have a strong bond with your woman... then you'll kind of have an imbalance there.

Olram_Sacul · 2019-09-25T19:06:04+00:00

Yep, be careful with what you tell to your friends too

masculinetruth999 · 2019-09-26T14:45:36+00:00

The #1 thing that helped me in my relationship with my current GF is to never open up submissively or passively. Communicate, but never open up. Imagine if your own dad told you his weaknesses he had inside or cried in front of you. It's super awkward. He's the one whose supposed to be in control or at least levelheaded. Show that you have a plan, even for devastating emotions. But really, you shouldn't even tell your GF if your grandma died. Mine died and she never found out.

More important, never just open up and tell her a problem you have. Be angry about a problem, that's fine. Yell, scream. But never sit there and depend on another person to hear you out. It puts control in their hands. And once you do that once, it changes the dynamic of the relationship.

For over a million years, women were regarded as animals and property, by good men, bad men, rich men, and poor men. In recent times, we are coming full circle back to realizing that they are. Studies have shown that no matter if a guy is a famous disease curing scientist or the most selfless helper of the poor to walk the earth, a fertile female is going to still date a broke 6'2 felon instead.

Women. No famous inventions, no famous competitors, their best authors make childrens books and sex books, they just can't perform on the same level a male can. They were regarded as property for over a million years. Every single civilization came to the same conclusion, without contact. That should tell you something.

I don't hate women, I don't hate my gf. In fact I love them, for what they are. They are animals designed to constantly measure the worth and genetic viability of males, just like every single other animal species on earth. But a girl seeking power will never be happy, because for over a million years they have been genetically designed and bred to be submissive. When you give a submissive person power, they will either waste it or abuse it until someone more dominant puts them in their place. This is why drunk chicks get so loud, they are flexing power (which btw would get them killed during primal times), and waiting for some 6'2 guy with a wifebeater to tell them to shut up, and she'll go home with him.

TemplesOfSyrinx · 2019-09-24T19:46:15+00:00

"Christians get a lot of things wrong."

They sure do. I really think Christianity (really, religion in general) is another type of blue pill. Religious people feel comfortable in their faithful, religious slumber and would rather not swallow the red pill and face the fact that there is no god or gods.

Satou4 · 2019-09-24T19:17:23+00:00

Each day we stray farther from God.

mheyk · 2019-09-25T04:52:44+00:00

https://youtu.be/9ZL27Aiw9_I

hazelstein · 2019-09-25T16:49:40+00:00

Never let your guard down to anyone. Never share a secret. never share or show your weakness.
Great Post for a reminder.

paradox368 · 2019-09-25T17:16:40+00:00

Dope post man! Especially the Objectively you are the worse than you started

ZoroasterFlame · 2019-09-26T03:40:24+00:00

The media creates fictions designed to divide us, on the basis of data mining, and you're falling for it.

SKRedPill · 2019-09-26T05:20:58+00:00

That post on the betaization process needs to be here.

Men think that getting married is the beginning and orgasm is the climax. For a woman securing your commitment is the climax. Marriage is essentially post climatic for women.

But only if you let it slide.

fugued · 2019-09-26T15:15:58+00:00

Great point. Last GF was awesome but used stuff I revealed early in our relationship (during my BP-RP transition) as a weapon later. Her jealousy broke us up.

Current GF is awesome too but in a more confident manner. She rarely questions me, doesn't probe or bait me into revealing much. So I control the info flow and dole out an occasional "reveal" so she learns more about me - on my terms.

ReUptheReUp · 2019-09-26T22:05:23+00:00

In other words: always keep your pimp hand strong, never slip, stay sharp, remain consistently consistent, never waver...

Fulp_Piction · 2019-09-27T13:44:37+00:00

Generally the right thing to do is obvious once you grasp trp, I've found that the more I think about something the easier it is to rationalise myself into some 'backsliding' behaviour.

KISS.

notadaddy · 2019-09-28T10:01:50+00:00

Lifting heavy shit and waking up angry cuz it’s leg day has helped me get a bit harder after years of backsliding.

RompeChocha · 2019-09-29T08:39:20+00:00

The moment you share a secret with your girl, thats the moment you've fucked up. Female rappers are starting to make fun of guys who tell all their secrets to her after they fuck. At the time, she might have fake sympathy, but they're drying her up.

Bro, the reverse thing happens to me. Usually after i fuck a chick, even if it's the first time, they open up and tell me a bunch of secrets. A reason why I think you see in a lot of movies agents sleeping with people to get info (See: James Bond), because it's based on what really happens in the world.

umizumiz · 2019-09-24T19:22:48+00:00

Lol

Never in my life have I heard commonly accepted science being rejected. Hahahaha

"Hurrdurr, but God didn't create the Earth!"

"We thought the Big Bang was official, too."

Hyuck hyuck, gwavity? Duh, hwhat's that?! You mean the grass ain't sticky and holding me to the Earf? Oooooohhh my realityyyyt"

Lmao

Frothy-Water · 2019-09-24T22:12:14+00:00

“Have your guard up to women”...you’re gonna push away the one dude, I can already feel it

IndianWise · 2019-09-25T06:42:48+00:00

Lol my girlfriend definitely wouldn’t cheat on me with Tom Brady, he’s like twice her age lmao

Title	You're backsliding.
Author	PM_ME_UR_1ITIS_SNAP
Upvotes	770
Comments	134
Date	September 24, 2019 6:01 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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