How often is too often?

InChargeMan · 2020-04-07T13:24:05+00:00

Interesting, this is a very uncommon and unique situation. We should look into having some sort of bar of information about this, maybe we can put it on the side.

When she explained why, she told me that having sex ...

Well, isn't it lucky that she cleared that up for you. Did she sit you down on her knee for that talk?

My partner says she can only really want sex 2 to 3 times a week

Again, why are you listening to what she says?

When she says something like that, remember to add the rest of the sentence that women tend to forget to say. "with you"

Lets try it:

My partner says she can only really want sex 2 to 3 times a week with me

When she explained why, she told me that "having sex with you more than thrice a week would be like asking a normal person to bang 7 times a day."

My partner and I have been discussing our mismatched drives (im too high and shes low for me),

See how that works? Now you can play at home.

Fix you to fix her, if it doesn't fix her, get a better working model, you're only 21 for god's sake.

redwall92 · 2020-04-07T13:02:34+00:00

Continue discussing your unfed sex drive with your partner and watch the frequency/quality of sex with your partner go down with high correlation given to the number of words you use when discussing said topic. Assume an exponential factor associated to the number of times you bring up said topic in a week.

If you stick around much, you will hear this phrase:

You cannot negotiate desire.

Think about that phrase. Spend some time chewing on it. Figure out if you want a woman to have sex with you just because you talked her into it. Negotiated with her to have sex more than 2-3 times a week. Gotta get that chart up. Hell man ... bring some graph paper to the bedroom and point her to it every time she says 'no'. Don't half-ass this. If you're going to logic your woman into having sex with you, then damn ... just go all the way. Show her the graphs; show her the charts; 5x/week vs 2x/week. It's all in the numbers! Do you want a woman to have sex with you because you spreadsheet her into it?

You cannot negotiate desire.

SBIII · 2020-04-07T13:51:43+00:00

148 lbs - 5'3''

Hey, MRP - I'm a Skinny Manlet...

Benchpress - 155 // Squat - 225 // Deadlift - 275 lbs

Who lifts a bit ..

I've been taking Zoloft for a bit

Self medicates...

Just curious, every day I do research on ADHD and medication I feel as though I could greatly benefit from Adderall.

Thinks he has ADHD..

Hey guys, I want to get the know the meta is for LMGs in BF1. Also a general class/weapon discussion thread would be fun.

Plays video games ..

I am a medium sized Youtuber (17,000) in another game. I have been playing and loving ROS for the last two months

A LOT..

Her love language is quality time and my love language is physical touch.

And reads the Love Languages.

I'm wondering - considering all the above - why the only person who has ever shown any interest in fucking until I was 21, doesn't find me attractive?

I just can't fugure it out.

Yours sincerely,

Clueless in Seatlle

tom-anonymous · 2020-04-07T16:28:29+00:00

You're surprised by the reaction you're getting here. This tells me 2 things. 1. You don't know what MRP is about. 2. You don't know what any of these men have gone through themselves, and how they have improved their situation by improving themselves.

I recommend starting off by listening to the Rational Male. You're still very much blue pill. Way too blue pill to hear any of the advice a lot of these guys are telling you.

This isn't a place for guys to drop a question and get an answer. It's a dumpster fire shit test that helps these guys determine whether or not its worth their time to help you.

This place is a journey. It's not a one and done deal.

SubjectiveCompass · 2020-04-07T13:28:05+00:00

Keep learning how to be a better you and act like you don't know or care how many times you have sex because it's always there when you want it... until you don't have to pretend anymore. How excited are you to do something that she keeps nagging you about?

The only numbers you should track are gains and goals you have control over.

Tyred_Biggums · 2020-04-07T14:46:50+00:00

~~im too high and shes low~~

"I'm too needy and she doesn't find me attractive".

FTFY

DeplorableRay · 2020-04-07T15:40:52+00:00

I used to think my wife had a low sex drive, turns out she just wasn’t into a weak piece of shit that needed validation. I got my shit in order and smashed it at the gym, now I get sex when I want, enthusiastically. She can’t submit to a chump. If all else fails, dread dread dread.

red-sfpplus · 2020-04-07T13:28:52+00:00

Sometimes we have coke fulled sex for 24 hours non stop.

Sometimes we dont have sex for a week.

We fuck when we want to fuck.

RStonePT · 2020-04-07T13:36:31+00:00

Are you satisfied?

That much.

part_wolf · 2020-04-07T14:21:19+00:00

Let's see what the hamsterbator says...

I posted this in marriedredpill, but it was removed and I was told to post it here, and I wanted to get some more perspectives. I would love to hear what you guys think.

I didn't bother to read the sidebar and I want to be spoonfed a quick and painless solution to my problems.

My partner and I have been discussing our mismatched drives (im too high and shes low)

My girl isn't attracted to me.

I wanted to know how much is too much to you? I'm asking for your personal opinion on this matter.

I'm too weak to decide for myself what I want.

I thought a good/reasonable norm was that couples (atleast in their early 20s) had sex 5 to 6 times on average per week, maybe 4 if life is tough that week.

I'm obsessed with the fact that I'm not getting the sex I want.

When she explained why, she told me that having sex more than thrice a week would be like asking a normal person to bang 7 times a day.

Her desire is so low that she's resorted to overtly telling me how unattracted she is.

For instance, I said if I'm not in the mood that day, her approaching me would make me get in the mood...whereas she said the reason that she doesn't feel that way or want it is because I'm always wanting it.

I'm so desperate and needy that it's turning her off.

It makes me feel undesired.

I need sex for validation.

My partner and I are 21, and this is my first relationship (yes im a late bloomer)

I am clueless about how to attract women.

I was just trying to get some thoughts on whether this is normal and reasonable for couple in their early 20s.

I have no mission and this relationship is the only thing I have going for me.

I don't have anything to really compare this to.

I have zero game.

Most people on the internet say "sexual frequency is whatever a couple is comfortable with". Am I in the wrong for thinking 2-3 times is a bit too low?

The internet has given me permission to want sex, but I'm too weak and scared to act on my desires.

Just to be clear I don't pressure her, there's always consent, and I make sure she enjoys the sex too. I prioritize her pleasure.

During sex, I surpress my own desires and desperately hope that she likes it so I can feel validated.

Her love language is quality time and my love language is physical touch.

I'm a huge pussy and I can't accept anything but what society tells me is okay.

By the way, I do lift weights and focus on compound movements. COVID is messing with that, but here are my stats:

I can barely squat my bodyweight.

TL:DR would you date a person that only wanted sex 2 or 3 times a week

I'm too retarded to formulate a meaningful question, use the available resources to understand the problem, and ask for help on what I actually need.

Cl_ARK · 2020-04-07T13:34:32+00:00

How much data do you have on this?

Many times women just don't realize how infrequently they are having sex. Start charting sexual frequency in a spreadsheet or something. If you have some concrete evidence to approach her with, it could help quantify to her how much she is neglecting your sexual needs.

fannyfire · 2020-04-07T14:53:31+00:00

I have a high sex drive too. Two weeks ago I had sex every day for a consecutive seven days. I didn’t realize it until my wife had told me. Her sex drive isn’t always that high but it’s good enough to keep me from considering divorce. If you’re having this discussion with your LTR you need to seriously and I mean seriously think about your future. You’re fortunate that your LTR is being blunt by telling you that she isn’t that attracted to you. This gives you an opportunity to ask yourself if you can settle and get less than what you want out of life or to decide that the current situation isn’t good enough and you need to move on.

The key think to remember here...

She is satisfied and you are not. She has ZERO incentive to meet your needs. You could dread her, increase your SMV and other various covert contracts but at the end of the day you’re just a monkey banging on drums. If it were me I’d be so glad that she told me this because I’d be out the door. Daddy has to eat and he doesn’t beg for scraps at the dinner table.

tightsleeves · 2020-04-07T18:55:00+00:00

Your challenge is that you found the red pill (congrats btw) but instead of starting from scratch and learning it you jumped into questions and now are getting very defensive over the facts.

The truth is, this is all you fault and so far all your attempts to correct it have been wrong. Talking about it with her wont fix it.

Most importantly, if you became a sexy fuck then your women wouldnt be hoping to fill her sex quota for the week before she gets a break.

How do I know? - Because I was there. Read the books, internalize them and practice it all. It works, but only if you realize that only you can change

iwillruletheworldkjh · 2020-04-07T19:39:34+00:00

Damn so much bullshit and negativity here. Different girls can have different sex drive. Being you the same person, if the girl is a nympho she will want to fuck a lot, if her hormones aren't that favorable she'll want to fuck less. Now, this is gonna be a problem. Mismatched sex drive makes one angry and the other feel over desired and inflates their value.

My 2 cents: get more ripped, fuck her rough af, and if she still has low sex drive then it's up to you to keep her or to next her. If you always feel nervous and angry, it's probably because of her, take care

Just to clarify: I count having sex in hours, not how much times. I hope your weekly sex is more than 6 hours

Edit: I read you medicate somewhere in this post. Did you start taking it during/after the start of you two being together? In case big big redflag

ChokingDownRP · 2020-04-07T22:24:06+00:00

21M - 148 lbs - 5'3''

I think I found the problem you short, weak faggot. Sex on demand is reserved for men with muscles. Lift and sidebar, report back in 6 months.

BobbyPeru · 2020-04-07T23:18:22+00:00

I’m going to make this really simple:

She’s just not that into you

Title	How often is too often?
Author	TheBrownSlaya
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Date	April 7, 2020 12:41 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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