I found this out year or two ago. Wanted to share it with you. I always wondered how he seems to magneticaly pull people in, everyone he met liked him and he was not really doing anything special. I was intriguied by him. I go to the same barber he goes, i get the haircuts for free since they are good friends. The barber sometimes asks me how is it going with girls? If you are like your dad you wont be bad, haha. Then the other guy usually smirkes. I took that as a banter. Often times when i say i am his son people open up their eyes and say really, well how is he, where is he. They look in some direction, say his name and shake their head like “that was the times”.

I then realized he is my father and i can ask him. I said it nonchalantly, people somehow gravitate towards you. He said, yes i do have something dont i, he smiled. That was it.

Then one day he opened my eyes. He was showering and i was getting ready to go out so while he was in shower i brushed my teeth and what not. He asked me about girls, whats up with girls. I said nothing much, i dont have a girlfriend. He asked me something i answered and then it started. He said, okay listen to me. He started talking slower. The most important thing you should know is that you are going out to meet women and be with them, but you should actually go out and have fun, drink a little, sing and dance. The girls will come to you, or your friends will look at you in a way that you will feel there is something going on. When talking to girls you should never tell her you like her, but you should show it. You should talk to her and tease her, make her laugh, look at her eyes, make strong eye contact, with everyone in general. Be close with women, touch them. Hug her when she deserves it and push her away accordingly. You should have a mentality of being a man and everyone around you is something to suplement your world, your view of the world. The disco ball in a club does not work and music does not play until you walk into that club. But take this with a grain of salt. Everyone is different, you should be you. If you are not the type to dance, dont. And you should always do good to people as long as what you do does not harm you. Have fun and never, never worry about what others will say. Because they are living their lives and you are living yours. If you like pizza and someone says i hate pizza you would not stop eating it. You would say ok, and eat the whole damn pizza. If someome says you are stupid, you are stupid for them, and their smart is maybe being an alchocolic and not finishing school.

He talked to me for 5-10 minutes while taking a shower, spilling all this inner game stuff left and right, you could say he taped into a rant mode. And i really resonated with things he said, then he said go out now i need to step out of the shower. I was already finished and i got out, said bye and went straight to the club and that was the night i kissed a girl for the first time. Since then he talked to me about funny stories, women he met. He also trained judo and has a black belt and many trophies which probably explains his confidence amongst other qualities.

Since that day i am constantly growing as a person and i am talking to him daily about everything. He often jokes “hey if you are searchung for a girl, see if she has beatiful mom, you need to take care of your father too,haha”. He is more than hapily maried to my mom tho, and he is my hero, truly.

Edit: Thanks for silvers and hugz!! I really appreciate it.