Is this how girls flirt at the gym?

purplethizzle · 2022-10-16T02:44:33+00:00

that or, they’ll just stare at you from across the gym and will never speak to you

denimclad_secret · 2022-10-16T03:27:17+00:00

Yep. Women are VERY conscious of personal space so if they breach yours or put themselves in proximity to be noticed/approached by you, its game on.

A_Rabid_Doge · 2022-10-16T06:27:02+00:00

Well, for my female friends who have liked guys at the gym, they have always asked them some shitty usually unnecessary question to get their attention. So I think it's a good indication

OrzhovPalatine · 2022-10-16T03:09:18+00:00

In your case Yes, it's basically her saying "it's ok for you to talk to me"

Girls dont approach like guys do, they generally will be indirect. At best she'll make it easy to talk her.

Dont worry though, it's easy to miss. You wouldnt be the first guy to miss the "signs".

Keithlct · 2022-10-16T04:13:36+00:00

Hey bro, that is how women try to tell you that they like you by being in close proximity to you.

Nirvanablue92 · 2022-10-16T06:34:10+00:00

Yes they will get close to you and even turn their back to you showing they feel safe around you. Always approach from the side though.

LucianU · 2022-10-16T07:34:15+00:00

Do they typically just make random excuses to talk to you?

That's basically it. If a woman talks to you for no apparent reason, she's likely interested.

incognito3107 · 2022-10-16T06:34:52+00:00

Yes, that is a very common action. Innocent and they can check if you are smart enough to catch such subtleties in normal social situations. If you want to confirm this, just continue conversation for a few moments. If she clings to it, there is a good chance that she likes you.

motherseffinjones · 2022-10-16T15:47:31+00:00

I also struggle with this, I am good in most setting but I can’t tell at the gym. I swear this one girl keeps bending over in front of me but I’m still not sure. I also just zone out and workout, I just figure if she is outside at the same time as me I might shoot my shot 🤷🏿‍♂️

big_nose_juicer · 2022-10-16T16:01:30+00:00

Going to be completely honest, I wouldnt read too much into one instance. Unless a girl is making it completely obvious over multiple times you see here, the only way you'll know if someone is interested is by talking to them.

James_Cruse · 2022-10-16T10:49:22+00:00

Yeah, I thought this too when I was younger: Girls don’t like being approached at the gym.

Since then, every girl I’ve met outside the gym, that goes regularly, really wants to be approached at the gym and would likely date any of them, assuming they’re normal guys.

Here’s some things to keep in mind: 1. If any girl says ANYTHING to you at all at the gym, unless she works there, that’s a female approach. Girls aren’t like us - they don’t just walk up and start a conversation. We’re the confident action takes as men, they receive and react. 2. If a girl makes eye contact longer than a beat and looks one iota more than neutral on her face, she’s interested. 3. If a girl stands near you, and doesn’t really look like she’s doing much, or just absently fiddling with her phone - she’s interested.

None of these things you need to approach - judt go over there and have a fun casual conversation and soft close her about bars in the area and ask her out if she bites. If not, say you need to get back to your set and re-approach later. You’ll see her again.

EladioV · 2022-10-16T05:15:13+00:00

I have had the same experience a few times and even if you get the signs it doesn't mean that you would get her (at least that has been my experience) so don't feel bad for not getting the signals at the first time.

uniquan · 2022-10-16T17:08:47+00:00

Kind of reminds me of two girls sat next to me at the food court when there are further open seats

But no eye contact from them so it's probably nothing

jeskimono · 2022-10-16T20:18:49+00:00

As a women who goes to the gym frequently. I have asked people if they’re using equipment solely because they are close to it. I want to be courteous and not just walk up right next to the person and start using it. Sometimes I choose my “spot” to set up based on proximity to mirror or weights. Never have I thought that could be taken as flirting. Now, I have made some weird faces including biting my lip while I made eye contact with a male. That’s been awkward and then I spend the rest of the session thinking “that man probably thinks I was trying to be sexy and flirtatious.” I can assure you I was not….I was itching my lip with my teeth because I don’t want to touch my face after handling gym equipment face palm

Independent-Garage59 · 2022-10-16T09:54:30+00:00

Damn you.

Individual-Pin-9980 · 2022-10-16T16:33:03+00:00

This is exactly how girls flirt under any circumstances

herendzer · 2022-10-16T16:43:24+00:00

Don’t take it in too much. This happens a lot. Girls are more social creatures than boys and need to make friends at the gym.

lostat17 · 2022-10-18T01:14:30+00:00

Coming from an avid girl gym goer. probably, however it’s not certain. If you see her again smile and nod and don’t be afraid to say “nice seeing you again”.

I personally don’t mind being approached in the gym, however I don’t speak for all women !

Keremetter · 2022-10-16T08:01:25+00:00

Wtf this is so pitiful to be honest.... If a woman approached me like that I would think she was not ready for life let alone meeting me.

ShameAffectionate15 · 2022-10-16T22:25:01+00:00

Have you ever heard the pick up line made popular on youtube that goes like “hey do you know the direction to…? Actually that was my opener, my name is blah blah blah”. Thats what she was doing. Good luck! Take it from me.

rahhumilovedogs · 2022-10-16T17:29:37+00:00

I don't care how cute a girl is. Can drop a note under my windshield wiper or something. I'd be extremely annoyed. Like... Girl so being so fn desperate / needy. I'd prly never go back to that gym again. Cringe.

epimpstyle · 2022-10-16T11:10:28+00:00

... if this is how they flirt... how women are communicating?

It looks like if they ask a question... it may be a "shit test", if they look at you - they are flirting :-))

HoshiarMVP · 2022-10-16T16:26:44+00:00

Depends on if this keeps happening or if its one off

todsitfornow · 2022-10-16T19:46:55+00:00

I have such terrible eyesight that I literally would not be able to tell if some looked at me longer than even a second. I’m sure people think I’m stuck up. Lol

Kobe_curry24 · 2022-10-16T20:49:45+00:00

Bruv if she likes you then talk to her if you don’t like her then don’t Lmfaoooo y’all listen to internet to much you could be missing out on your wife cause you listening to Tik tok idiots

Matheusmeister · 2022-10-16T22:10:14+00:00

there was one day I was at the gym, there was a girl who suddenly offered to take turns with me on the machine she was doing her exercise, at the moment she was on one machine and I was resting on the other

recyclablebanthas · 2022-10-16T23:01:32+00:00

1

I've been of the mindset that women generally don't like to be approached in the gym. I take lifting very seriously and tend to zone in as well so I wouldn't necessarily want to be bothered.

The reality is this: the issue is complicated and people often over-simplify it.

A lot of socially awkward guys try to approach girls anywhere, including the gym, and make it awkward.
The common response to this is easily people over simplifying and saying you just shouldn't approach at the gym.
The reality is, if you know what you're doing or can otherwise interact with people in a way that's not awkward, then you'll be fine.
If you interact with anyone, without regard for what they want during the interaction, you'll have mixed results at best.

2

I was at the gym the other day doing barbell squats and this girl set up next to the platform I was in while I went to the the restroom. When I came back she asked me if it's ok if I workout here? Even though they were so many open areas in the gym.

Unforced and unnecessary openers like this are an indication that someone has gone out of their way to interact with you.

As you say, there were plenty of open areas and she didn't need to talk to you. But she chose to.

Was she interested? Without a crystal ball there's no way to know because you didn't respond to the opener apparently by giving her anything to work with.

But you could have took what she gave you and started a conversation if you had been inclined. And from there you could have seen if she was interested.

3

My friend who was in the elliptical noticed and told me that girl was flirting with me but I think I was too stupid to notice.

It's not stupidity. It's apparently a combination of habit and possibly at least a small amount of insecurity which led you to completely discount the possibility someone would be interested in you and wanted to start a conversation.

4

I was more confused as to why she wanted to workout next to me with so much space everywhere. It was pretty late at night and the gym was somewhat empty. Had another girl ask me if I was using this barbell on the wall when I clearly had another one in my hand with weight loaded.

Same thing here: there's no way to tell for sure without a crystal ball now that the moment is passed.

The only way you could have known is by taking what you gave you and seeing if a conversation would come out of it.

The problem is that both of these girls didn't use openers that would segue into a conversation very cleanly. It's a common problem among guys as well, to not know how to open a conversation.

You would have had to put a little bit of work into it, perhaps observing something about them or the situation and commenting on it further to see if they respond positively.

Like commenting about how the place was empty, wouldn't have been that helpful, but commenting on the hour that you were both there, might have worked out pretty well. Because it would have given them an excuse to talk about something from their life like their schedule.

5

Do they typically just make random excuses to talk to you? I can never tell in the gym.

People in general make random excuses to talk to people they would want to talk to. It's a human thing.

froze_gold · 2022-10-17T00:55:11+00:00

Lol had this happen once too. At my gym is a single row of treadmills spread out a good couple feet from eachother, side by side. This girl was giving me eyes, got up and came right over to the treadmill next to mine and started walking.

I knew it too and didn't do shit. I mightve even sped my treadmill up as some kind of reaction to the tension.

jiva_maya · 2022-10-17T01:51:48+00:00

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