Is this is test from her?

Creative-Cable-7033 · 2022-07-19T11:07:29+00:00

Maybe she is over being the one to initiate contact all the time...

gemini88mill · 2022-07-19T10:43:45+00:00

If your seeing the girl, why are you guys still playing games?

Excellent-Ad1075 · 2022-07-19T14:14:55+00:00

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Lopsided_Jackfruit37 · 2022-07-19T14:22:40+00:00

Dude... wtf.

I would ignore you too. If I had to initiate all the conversation and plan the dates, I would get upset that you're not putting it the same effort and find someone who will. Let this be a lesson to you next time.

kathruins · 2022-07-19T12:56:05+00:00

she's passing you the ball to see if you even care to initiate. the damage may already have been done, but you could salvage it if you put in effort. sounds like she's been putting in a lot. it works best if its 50/50 from the get go, not 100% from her for two weeks and 100% from you the next week. sounds exhausting.

bamfbamfbamf · 2022-07-19T13:46:31+00:00

You’re the one testing her lol. Stop playing games next time.

waverunnr · 2022-07-19T14:38:53+00:00

She’s reduced her contact because she met someone else who treats her better.

Obviously.

LolaBijou · 2022-07-19T14:06:28+00:00

It’s not a test. She’s over you, and sick of being the one to initiate everything.

BitchLetEmKnow · 2022-07-19T14:41:16+00:00

Love how you seem to only respond to the very few comments validating the fact that you think her sudden lack of interest is because she's testing you.

She's not.

She's waiting for you to take initiative to show you're just as eager to make an effort to see her like she's been making with you.

Reply and ask questions and reach out first = she believes you're interested and willing to make the effort

Don't reply, continue to wait for her to say something else and hold out till she's done "testing" you = don't be surprised if you never hear from her again.

Sucks to see you literally fuck up a good thing for you cause you can't be bothered to offer a hang out/date idea. If she wants someone to just follow her lead, she'll get a puppy.

kona1160 · 2022-07-19T13:51:57+00:00

Lol no she is just fed up of being the one to initiate 90% of the time, I know because I'm in her position right now with someone. Unless she shows interest I'm not going to bother

Connect-Pear-3859 · 2022-07-19T13:55:02+00:00

She's found someone who responds/initiates first.

Constant-Will7622 · 2022-07-19T12:48:25+00:00

Wants to go on road trip = huge interest sign.

Maybe shes busy, you know, planning it?

Grallmab · 2022-07-19T11:01:41+00:00

Maybe she has a life? Haha, not like its been days with no response, if she likes you she'll respond, if not then you've saved each other precious time

serialkiller_mne · 2022-07-19T13:45:21+00:00

She might have got bored of your ignoring so she fires back? She may have some self respect, you know?

attlif · 2022-07-19T16:14:20+00:00

You treated her like a random pick ho and she took your balls and slapped you across your face. Now you’re simping to get her back, over compensating, and she’ll likely be repelled and … see ya OP.

If you weren’t prepared for this outcome, you shouldn’t have engaged in it. Lesson learned. She woke up to finally understand her worth / value.

dregandragan · 2022-07-20T08:19:46+00:00

I finally ended up texting her yesterday and she answered almost immediately so she came to my place and we hung out all night.

L4b_kira · 2022-07-19T13:26:27+00:00

She wants you bro

WeebInTraining69 · 2022-07-19T13:50:48+00:00

sometimes girls pull away for no reason idk why but u have to give them space

lol ppl downvote cause me and the guy above me spit facts being 2 available leaves u on delivered while she’s replying to the dude who isn’t opening hers lol

CyberliskLOL · 2022-07-19T15:25:23+00:00

I'm assuming "seeing this girl for quite some time" means you had sex? This is usually the point where most if not all of the control shifts from the girl to the guy. What this means is that now you are the one who shouldn't do what you don't wants girls to do when they are largely in control, which is playing games and shit. Take responsibility and behave like a standup guy. If this was one of your male friends you'd just ask him what's wrong and try to rectify the situation, right?

So just tell her you want to talk and you'd like to clear some things up. If she has any interest at all, this is bound to get her attention. Then tell her straight up that lately she hasn't been responding to your texts, ask her if everything is alright or if there's some kind of problem that maybe you should talk about. And yeah, basically just go with the flow.. tell her how you feel and how you'd like to proceed from here and she'll likely do the same.

Nixu123 · 2022-07-19T10:16:36+00:00

Probably

BreakinLiberty · 2022-07-19T15:31:09+00:00

Bro if a girl is initiating contact all the time she is interested. She won’t even care if she has to do it

But give her some extra attention here and there once in a while.

Have you guys had sex yet? Give her some good D and she will be initiating 100% of the time and you will never have to do much texting

I actually hate texting much anyways since i like to save conversations for in person

rasputin424 · 2022-07-19T16:15:38+00:00

My friend do not let all these women gaslight you. As long as you were responding to her and not playing games she will continue to text you because women communicate more frequently than men and when a woman likes you she takes the initiative to text you. My question is how long is quite some time? If we’re talking 3-6 months or more she not fed up there is someone else. Something none of these women will admit is a woman will pour a lot of energy into communicating with a man who she is using to try and replace her: Exboyfriend or the dude she really wants but he don’t really want her, and put him out of her mind. The sudden drop off in communication means she either went back to someone old or is pursuing someone new. Be thankful that you didn’t invest too much into her and just wait for her to respond as you have been. Her reason for going ghost when/if y’ll do talk will tell you everything you need to know. If she REALLY was tired of initiating communication she would have told you so but if she didn’t then it’s not the issue. Don’t let these women fool you they like initiating texts especially with men they really like. Stay strong my boy. 😉

sussykeke · 2022-07-19T11:15:38+00:00

Yeah could be a test. This does happen where the girl is super interested and suddenly goes cold. Talk to some other girls in the meantime, do some cool shit. If she texts back, make her wait for a while before answering

Sumbuddyonce · 2022-07-19T14:57:19+00:00

Reciprocate.

It's good to have her chasing you but if you don't do the same sometimes she'll get bored.

Make a plan for this road trip, include things you know she'll like. Show her you remembered things she said. Then pitch the idea

TheykeepgrowingUU · 2022-07-19T15:02:12+00:00

Call her.

reddunt3 · 2022-07-19T15:04:58+00:00

There could be thousands of reasons, things happening in her life that have nothing to do with you. You don't know.

If you are still in early stages, best thing is to simply train patience and wait , if you were the last one to text.

If she is actually interested she will aaaaalways come back when she's ready.

cobraCL · 2022-07-19T15:28:57+00:00

No. Any relationship where one party consistently has to carry 90% of the effort will fail.

Even natural hunter/pursuers will grow tired of settling for breadcrumbs off your table. It is only natural for any person who respects themselves to back out.

maxpossimpible · 2022-07-19T15:36:24+00:00

You're playing it too cool man.

You need to match her text frequency and initiations otherwise she will move on because she thinks you're not serious or you don't like her.

FIVE_6_MAFIA · 2022-07-19T15:39:51+00:00

She found a new guy that she likes more, she's not into you

ashwheee · 2022-07-19T17:26:15+00:00

I really wish I could read this content because the comments have me intrigued.

Title	Is this is test from her?
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	37
Comments	69
Date	July 19, 2022 10:06 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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