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noldi123 · 2022-06-09T19:04:49+00:00

I honestly bought an iPhone tripod with a Bluetooth shutter clicker, and took some solid photos myself. Took a few tries, but it paid off. 1000 matches in about 3 months use. I’m not a god tier chad either.

Johnnytanss · 2022-06-09T17:25:40+00:00

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dheidjdedidbe · 2022-06-09T19:42:17+00:00

I did a professional shoot for my college graduation and use the best pic from that as my dating app opener. It has yielded zero matches

invaderjif · 2022-06-09T17:33:44+00:00

I ain't putting 300 dollars in for a woman who gives one word response.

Johnnytanss · 2022-06-09T17:57:01+00:00

That’s very true about the great results from a professional photographer. However as I began to read profiles better and recognize filtered pictures, I noticed that professional studio photos are actually too good. I’ve matched with many women I considered very attractive to beautiful that had studio photos. In person they do look entirely different. Studio photos can make most, if not all portraits significantly and remarkably better. At least 3 different times I was barely able to recognized them in person.

I’m not saying they can make an overweight unattractive person look great and I’m not judging anyones looks except to make this point. They can however make an average person appear much more attractive then they are. I avoid profiles with these pictures and I would never get them done myself and post them. The last thing I want is to be far less than what my pictures revealed and what my date was expecting. Plus the other person feels somewhat deceived.

But having said all that, they can be done more realistically but you have to be honest with yourself on just how consistent the picture is with your true looks.

Steakman1 · 2022-06-09T17:16:45+00:00

Is there a specific type of photographer that does these? Getting professional photos is something I’ve been considering. But I don’t really know what kind of photographer to use. I see plenty of wedding photographers. But never seen something along the lines of a “dating profile photographer”

ReadyTelephone2395 · 2022-06-09T19:07:46+00:00

You rly dont need to hire a photographer or have 6 pics to be successful.

Just have some girlfriends to take pics of you. Girls take great pics.

Also i agree a lot of dudes have horrible profiles just look at the tinder subreddit.

djdante · 2022-06-10T00:52:12+00:00

So I'm a dating coach and avid photographer - guys pay me regularly to take photos for their online dating profiles - it's worth it...

BUT I also see guys losing money to photographers, so here are some things to consider, because the online dating landscape keeps changing.

The majority of photographers are rubbish for online dating.. They take technically brilliant photos, but don't actually take the time to help you find the sides of yourself that are most attractive.... This can result in a lot of ... not quite wasted money.. but not money so well spent... Most men who go to a photographer for help for online dating DONT KNOW HOW TO POSE to be the most attractive, so they need someone who can really support them in that, not just sit idly with a camera taking shots with perfect lighting. Without knowing a photographer with lots of recommendations, at least choose a gay or straight female photographer becuase they will more organically'feel' what shots will help you most on online dating.
Never fill your tinder profile up with high end shots - this was never a good idea because it makes you look fake or conceited. This may get better results than your old bad photos, but it's still selling yourself short on potential matches.
Recent statistics are showing that 'niche' online dating profiles are outperforming regular hot ones. In other words, a hot guy does well regardless, but hot profiles are out-performed by good 'niche' profiles - this means a profile that the average woman will find okay.. some women will HATE, and others will LOVE... So a niche could be, tattoos on prominent display... if you're a musician, ham that up big time... if you're a nature, lover or hippy - put that on big display... IT has to be a niche that ENOUGH women will dig obviously, no sense in putting up a 'Call of Duty niche profile' obviously. So if you DO have a niche, consider doing your photo session around that, rather than going broad interest.
In recent tests, I'm seeing a trend for more and more organic looking profiles... i.e. This is a bit of an extension of point 2, but deserves it's own section... An 'IDEAL' male Profile as of right now would be one that's full of 'incidental' lifestyle shots that aren't posed, but that all look attractive or ooze personality - women are more and more losing trust for photos that look too polished. OF course, it's frigging hard to get lots of 'incidental' lifestyle photos without a photographer hanging around us, but it's worth knowing this is a trend of preference. So this is an example of my own that was taken on a whim by a female friend and wasn't posed - photos like this do better than posed ones - https://d2oezb05uoa2c1.cloudfront.net/p/p6trwm8kgw88o0gw.jpg
Someone mentioned that they could get good photos with a mobile phone and a tripod... This is 100% correct, you don't need to pay a photographer, if you just get a bit creative - I shot an entire video showing this in action to prove my point - but I dont' want to spam here - so here are two images - which is the professional, and which is with my mobile phone?

https://d2oezb05uoa2c1.cloudfront.net/p/pmhpji0wgc0gkssk.jpg

https://d2oezb05uoa2c1.cloudfront.net/p/p0zsjvosgckoog8c.jpg

Spoiler: The First one was shot on my mobile phone all alone with a tripod, and scores 9.4 out of 10 on photofeeler, the second one was shot on a digital SLR by a photographer and scores 8.5 on photofeeler.

So, I think if you're going ot spend good money, it's worth understanding how to maximise that spend, and how to find a photographer who will do a good job for you.

One last tip - Find a friend who wants to do online dating shots with you - often photogrphers will give you both a discount and you can get some social proof photos with a mate laughing together which is good for building trust.

Canadian-Seductioner · 2022-06-09T18:24:39+00:00

That's a lot of money to invest. You only need 1 really good headshot for your first pic which you can probably get from a photographer for like $100. The rest of the photos should be a combination of other pics looking good and doing interesting things. Take a look at my last post for more detailed info.

nordik1 · 2022-06-09T21:01:31+00:00

Depends on your age category. If you're 18-25 the professional polished aesthetic is going to be a negative against you. The gen Z aesthetic is largely about looking like you aren't trying at all

Milennial is more mixed, but I wouldn't do more than 1 or 2

Honest_Inevitable632 · 2022-06-09T18:08:10+00:00

Although high quality pictures are important because this is your catalogue to sell yourself initially, it could backfire as if one is trying so hard especially if the outfits you have really don’t depict your everyday life.

Having good pictures are good to stand out but you can equally get good photos using a phone camera using proper lighting and angle

Good pictures, chiseled jaw, clear skin, good smile and strong hair game typically gets me lots of interviews

1keentolearn12 · 2022-06-09T18:22:55+00:00

This is a good idea. Selfies are a bit shit

Can you post your pics, (cover your face)

kyrensolo · 2022-06-09T18:46:40+00:00

Makes sense OP. Although I will say that a friend can just take photos of you with their iPhone camera, the quality these days is really good.

vorpod · 2022-06-09T19:50:48+00:00

Or use portrait mode, save the 600 and profit

chillbill1220 · 2022-06-09T20:09:49+00:00

I second this. Didn’t pay for professional photos but had my buddy’s girlfriend take a few and was in a wedding last summer so a couple good pics came from that.

My online dating results have tripled in the past year. Way more matches, hotter matches, better convos, more dates, more sex. Sure I still get ghosted occasionally and have some one word response convos but results are a lot better

CoolAidCucumber · 2022-06-09T20:21:23+00:00

Yeah this is bad advice.

MapsCharts · 2022-06-09T20:35:26+00:00

Or just talk to actual girls ? You won't even need a photo and they'll see you how you're really

kingpersnickety · 2022-06-09T21:44:23+00:00

Nope I did this in 2019 and my online dating success rate was still abysmal

Delicious_Ad_1853 · 2022-06-09T22:06:09+00:00

You have the right idea, but no need to pay so much. Plenty of hobbyist photographers out there that could help you stand out for less than $100.

2022-06-09T22:13:22+00:00

Did that, still zero likes/matches

2022-06-09T22:14:45+00:00

This is a great idea

NinoZachetti · 2022-06-09T22:24:38+00:00

I agree that you need to me maxing your photos but disagree that the way to do it is by booking a session. 95% of professional photographers are gonna take nice guy beta shots and once your session is done if you don't find photos consistent with the vibe you're trying to impart you're screwed. Much better to use your own phone with a tripod and remote and become an amateur photographer yourself. Or better yet, get a cheapo DSLR or mirrorless camera for the same price that you would've paid for a single photography session.

Commercial_Habit_923 · 2022-06-09T22:32:15+00:00

Well you need to make sure the pictures are good for tinder, just having professional photos won’t help

sportsdude523 · 2022-06-09T22:34:58+00:00

i've been told by matches in person that my pictures do my physical attractiveness in person no justice. so it matters.

Nell_De_Blass · 2022-06-09T22:35:50+00:00

Seems rather vain. That would turn me off if I saw some dude posing for professional shots.

timetobbetter · 2022-06-09T22:46:16+00:00

Or just approach women IRL and do the apps on the side. I won’t say the apps don’t work but if you aren’t willing to spend the money or put in the effort for pictures you can always go outside. I’m not sure on the percentage but I’m certain a large percentage of women are NOT on a dating app. If someone would like to find the stat that would be nice to know

Celtic50 · 2022-06-09T23:50:07+00:00

Is that not considered a little corny? And if not what kind of pics would you take? Types of poses, looking at camera/smiling or not, etc?

methmonkeysyrup · 2022-06-10T02:32:22+00:00

The majority of the really soulful and appealing women that I've met in my life and remembered fondly were ones that I met while I was doing something completely non girl chasing related.

2022-06-10T02:41:10+00:00

I BEEN TELLING MY BOYS THIS FOR SO LONG

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