I got her in bed with me but my dick couldn't get up. She's still down, what do I do?

ImNotClayy · 2022-04-29T19:31:49+00:00

what kind of advice you want my brother?? Do oral or something get creative 😂

congowarrior · 2022-04-29T19:54:29+00:00

It is called perfomance anxiety. Start with foreplay and get really into it so that you can take your mind off sex. If you are focusing on her, you wont focus on your perfomance anxiety.

VorpalPaperclip · 2022-04-29T19:33:31+00:00

Don’t drink, and get comfortable with her. Its not going to hurt to discuss this with her if she really likes you and it will help you relax. This happens to many of us and it’s totally normal if you are nervous and anxious. You will be fine.

renegade453 · 2022-04-29T19:41:43+00:00

Not getting a boner when in need is a bigger problem and takes alot of time to heal from. It can be a porn induced problem, physical , mental problem.

caligrown_85 · 2022-04-29T20:42:14+00:00

It’s the prozac. Just take some dick pills and you will be good to go

MeWuzBornIn1990 · 2022-04-29T19:48:34+00:00

Make her cum with your tongue/fingers and just relax. Take deep breaths. Cuddle for a while after getting her off. Try your best to get into the moment and out of your head. The issue is not with you — it’s because you’re in your head.

Ferox666 · 2022-04-29T19:38:52+00:00

It's not so important. Don't think too much about it. If she's in the mood go oral or finger her and it's also ok if she cools down and you two get to have a relaxed talk.

Also, this might happen now, but in future occasions won't, so don't think it's the end of the world!

glyep · 2022-04-29T20:19:18+00:00

Yo bro - dealt with this in my early days. There's nothing casual about casual sex. Even though she's probably a tiny harmless thing; being completely naked, expected to preform, and confident all at the same time is not an easy task.

General things to try - Time. Patience. Not beating yourself up if it doesn't work. Drop porn, don't drink excessively. Just hang out naked with her and touch her body gently for a bit. Drop the expectation of being an alpha chad fuck machine. Sex usually starts gentle.

In the moment - Focus on her. What she feels like on your body, what she smells like, what sounds she's making, etc. Breathe her in!

Then if you're stuck in your head - Try to manually direct your attention away from your head and down to your belly area and breathe deeply into it and repeat with washing your senses with her body and feelings.

Just keep trying!

froze_gold · 2022-04-29T19:42:04+00:00

Pop a viagra, if all else fails

But you could try not thinking so much and focus on the foreplay

Smitty-TBR2430 · 2022-04-29T20:07:59+00:00

You mentioned Prozac and alcohol in combination — which is NOT good! — so I’m not surprised you couldn’t get hard.

Please consult your personal physician before you add Viagra or Cialis (or anything else!) to your pre-fuck preparation.

Silver-Variation8903 · 2022-04-29T19:34:11+00:00

Just use viagra.

You should really look into not watching porn. You may have porn-induced erectile dysfunction.

But yeah. Viagra is your best friend here.

S0GGYS4L4DS · 2022-04-29T20:33:46+00:00

Ditch the Prozac for that day. You should feel a rebound.

Kiltmanenator · 2022-04-29T20:43:09+00:00

Stop WATCHING PORN and stop masturbating, or at least only do it once a week

blackopsplayer5 · 2022-04-29T20:04:01+00:00

lol whiskey dick. I had that in a threesome. Well it would’ve been but it was pretty embarrassing. Safe to say i never got a threesome from them after that

Mr_lightning22 · 2022-04-29T20:13:25+00:00

Maybe change your diet and lifestyle like excersizing more or go to a doctor if that doesn't work and you have a genuine problem

There is also a supplement that boosts the body's natural testosterone production so that could help you with your issue it's called Aphro D

Effective_Elk_4719 · 2022-04-29T20:19:21+00:00

You're 18 and have performance issues? Go see a specialist man. That doesn't sound normal for your age.

MeanCry5785 · 2022-04-29T20:38:16+00:00

Are you still satisfied with things on your end?

R4nd0m_T4sk · 2022-04-29T20:40:02+00:00

Sounds like performance anxiety which is totally normal, focus on her till you can get over your state of mind, there is a chance you'll have to wait a few times unless she helps you out.

Also quit the porn it'll help.. It's stimulating a part of your brain that's easily triggered, if hands on sex isn't getting you excited it's because you get more stimulation mentally from watching it then doing it.

(I speak from experience)

2022-04-29T20:46:48+00:00

I've had this happen to me literally several times. No masturbating, no drinking, no porn for as long as you can before you know you will have sex next.

ignitedwolf9200 · 2022-04-29T20:49:30+00:00

You’re a young man. Shouldn’t have any issues getting it up.

Put down the porn.

diegggs94 · 2022-04-29T20:50:55+00:00

Get out of your head, slow it down, focus on how good it feels and how hot she is. Sometimes I go soft and just stop and lay there inside her. I say “I just love feeling close to you like this” and maybe add some small pumps, she’ll love it. And if she doesn’t then oh well.

2022-04-29T20:56:46+00:00

Quitting porn would be a great start.

str8rippin_xii · 2022-04-29T21:06:27+00:00

Post on Reddit lol

tommygun1688 · 2022-04-29T21:09:34+00:00

Prozac will do that.

SwissFucker · 2022-04-29T21:10:45+00:00

Never happened to me and I am 33. Drunk, Drugs, Drunk and Drugs for days and still I never ever couldnt get it up. I think its a mental issue. Go to a urologist instead of asking Reddit

YimYam1 · 2022-04-29T21:11:58+00:00

Get the fuck off reddit and get down on it???

gillmanblacklagooner · 2022-04-29T21:12:42+00:00

You have 1 tongue and 10 fingers.

gillmanblacklagooner · 2022-04-29T21:12:59+00:00

Are you still there?

slash03 · 2022-04-29T21:17:03+00:00

Sex is fun ,it’s not all about your dick ,start playing.

saito200 · 2022-04-29T21:17:38+00:00

the more you try to control your dick, the worse. Use your tongue and your hands, and if you dick wants to do something it will let you know.

Have sex with her a number of times, and feel relaxed around her. Don't have expectations about your performace.

Rheastar · 2022-04-29T21:22:29+00:00

Don’t drink. Don’t masturbate for a few days to a week before seeing her. I bet nature will take its course.

Revolutionary_Wind_8 · 2022-04-29T21:27:26+00:00

Stop the porn for a week, try again.

monstawonder · 2022-04-29T21:27:59+00:00

It's anxiety. Just get comfortable with her, no pressure, let things go. Don't think too much, everything is going to be alright, everything is ok with you! ;)

GWKBJ7 · 2022-04-29T21:31:53+00:00

Its cuz ur stuck in ur mind retard. Like most people. Breathe. Get present. Ur body is literally programmed to fuk. Stop getting in its way

Captain-Stubing · 2022-04-29T21:31:53+00:00

I had to ditch the SSRI's in the end. Drinking is nullifying the effects of them in the end anyway. You're 18, if you can't fuck and can't drink, what are you really doing? She probably won't stick around if your dick is limp. Pounding on her til you can nut is gonna get old, fast. She's may start thinking its her fault. Either way, you should let her know that the pills will always affect your performance.

koldkaleb · 2022-04-29T21:31:58+00:00

You do it again lol, you'll get hard this time

77sam123 · 2022-04-29T21:36:03+00:00

Pop one cialis pill 1 hour before Thank me later.

jessiepc145 · 2022-04-29T21:46:18+00:00

Idk why you’re getting so much hate but here’s some actual advice:

No more porn, or masturbation (matter of fact take a day or two to fast from everything to get your dopamine up again lmao)

2 start working out rn, literally rn start cranking out push ups and make it a habitual thing to move your body

Hydrate
Invest in L-Arginine, L-citrulline and maybe some ashwagnda. Pop some with some fruit an hour before you smash

rojacompa · 2022-04-29T21:51:58+00:00

Just make out with her, do some foreplay and go down on her. It’ll get her in the mood and that alone should get you going

myloteller · 2022-04-29T21:57:43+00:00

Just go to a doctor and tell him you have boner anxiety. Did it at 23 and wish I would have done it sooner. Sildenafil (viagra) is a life saver. They will probably have you do bloodwork just in case but mine came back fine. I just get nervous lol

maxpossimpible · 2022-04-29T22:04:22+00:00

Just go down on her and do longer foreplay, you'll get it up after 3-10 minutes of foreplay.

insomniac_321 · 2022-04-29T22:08:35+00:00

Use your hands and tongue as substitutes until you can get ol’ john schlong up and running again 😂

Minty_MantisShrimp · 2022-04-29T22:08:50+00:00

I suggest you stop watching so much porn, and reduce the times you masturbate

b__james · 2022-04-29T22:13:39+00:00

Blue chew

mtgxbuster · 2022-04-29T22:27:13+00:00

Dirty delete

Title	I got her in bed with me but my dick couldn't get up. She's still down, what do I do?
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Date	April 29, 2022 7:29 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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