Ok guys I need help with dating. Why does no man consider me? Why does no one like me? Why do men cancel on me?

Brahms12 · 2022-04-23T02:53:40+00:00

There's a thing with men called the chronic nice guy syndrome. It's a turn off to women Could there be something similar for women?

Recktion · 2022-04-23T03:01:49+00:00

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strengthenics · 2022-04-23T03:26:02+00:00

Seems pretty hard to believe that no guy shows interest in you if you are attractive. Where do you spend your free time?

ResponsibilityKey427 · 2022-04-23T03:13:49+00:00

You sure you attractive?

Attractive women I know don’t struggle at all

HowToStud · 2022-04-23T04:11:36+00:00

You’re probably not attractive or you’re talking to guys who have better options.

putcoolusernamehere · 2022-04-23T04:07:05+00:00

Since you're a woman, you don't need to over complicate things. Just take cute photos of yourself and make a Hinge profile. You will be drowning in male attention in hours.

Billyjeanisntmylover · 2022-04-23T03:26:30+00:00

Not trying to be offensive but are you really attractive tho ?

IamaThrowAwway · 2022-04-23T03:21:21+00:00

Hon, like yourself first and be acceptable to yourself. Look up the 80/20 rule, which basically says 80% of your self-worth should come from you. You should like who you are. You should like how you look. You should like yourself. Only 20% of your worth should come from external things like praise, compliments and attention.

In the first place, there's just lots of bulshitters and window-shoppers online: men and women. They think they can go through with it but they can't or they're lying about who they are and so they won't meet you since then it will be obvious they're lying. That's probably most of it.

Beyond that, there may be something about how you see yourself that's causing a kind of negative feedback loop in who is attracted to you. Someone likes you --- there's no doubt of that. Someone in your sphere dreams and fantasizes about you. Maybe you're overlooking that person?

naiseivad · 2022-04-23T03:33:52+00:00

Post a picture and we can decide, or send one. I'll be honest

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Ambitious-Ice2357 · 2022-04-23T04:42:03+00:00

This must be a troll post. Any woman can get a man to be interested in her just by breathing and having a pulse.

Khryn_Tzu-TTV · 2022-04-23T05:19:49+00:00

I'll date you.

Problem solved.

r_m_castro · 2022-04-23T03:07:51+00:00

You're probably ugly. Show us pictures so we can judge.

Mundane_Natural5131 · 2022-04-23T03:22:36+00:00

As long as your not 250 pounds there should be a high % of men that would date you maybe you are not showing interest in people so they get the vibe like you dont want to be approached or uninterested

TheDimLighter · 2022-04-23T03:44:37+00:00

No_Management_1733 · 2022-04-23T02:54:40+00:00

Because guys are dumb. Believe me, I am one. LOL

Seriously though would you like to chat about it?

ZepperV2 · 2022-04-23T03:27:59+00:00

Women are always told that they’re attractive by their friends and get compliments from guys to get in their pants. It’s like this video https://youtu.be/EBWlHQsIDq4

Mundane_Natural5131 · 2022-04-23T03:20:38+00:00

Wow i wish i could find a girl like you dying for a man to notice her where i am the girls get angry or rude if i approach them or even check them out so i often avoid it unless they send me obvious signs. Id suggest you start making eye contact with men and probably smile that should get men to approach you if you do it enough

Suspicious_Loan8041 · 2022-04-23T03:57:02+00:00

We don’t know you personally so we can’t say.

vanmoonshine · 2022-04-23T03:57:14+00:00

Depends on how attractive you are, and whether people see you as highly innocent. If you never flirt yourself or give anyone the impression you like them then people arent going to have any reason to engage with you. Being too attractive could be offputting to people as well, especially if you're not an openly warm person. Would have to see a pic to tell.

wastingtoomuchthyme · 2022-04-23T03:59:04+00:00

But without a pic we going to need proof.. or I will assume the "attractive" is in quotes like someone's Mom calling their son "handsome"

If you were really as attractive as people claim that either:

1 - you're really not that attractive.. and people are telling you you're attractive to get something off of you.. completely transactional relationship

2 - there's something really off putting about your personality that's overcomes your attractiveness.

That's really it it's either a or b..

The print media level women that I know don't have this problem.. in fact they tend to feel pretty lonely due to how other women treat them.. since she's a little quiet all the women assume she's stuck up in our nasty to her.. the guys fall all over themselves to try to be with her.. one friend had some 50-year-old guy offer to buy her a house "no strings"

brock275 · 2022-04-23T04:21:59+00:00

I’m tipsy. Send pics and I’ll give you the honest feedback your friends won’t.

Corndesu69 · 2022-04-23T04:26:22+00:00

No way, have you tried online dating?

Maxoncillo · 2022-04-23T04:26:41+00:00

You know, the dating game is very different between men and women, and is all because of the bases that those things are built. Although is a direct question, we need more info to help you out, cuz... Well, as I've read in the comments, the main problem here is that you're a woman. I'm down to help you if someone isn't doing it already

Granny_Killa · 2022-04-23T04:30:45+00:00

Are you really logical and boring or something?

Some women I can't have a flirty conversation with them because they are so logical and ask questions like a job interview. I am matched with a hot one now who is like this and I'm not sure I want to meet her as she probably wants to talk about stocks instead of sex when we're out late drinking.

TheLegendofMikeHawk · 2022-04-23T04:51:43+00:00

Have you considered being more direct? As in actually approaching men you find attractive. Compliments from woman work really good as openers, talk for a bit, feel him out, and if you jive well, ask him out. As a man I love being approached by woman. I think you'll find initiative goes a long way. It sucks that you got cancelled on. . . But that's just a drop in the bucket. It happens to everyone, I don't take it personally. The more men you meet, the more likely you'll find a man you actually connect with.

skaag · 2022-04-23T04:54:17+00:00

No worries, go on a date with me and that will change your energy 180 degrees, and men will start chasing you.

ricagraca · 2022-04-23T05:10:03+00:00

Give eye contact with a guy you like. If he does not move, wink. Is that easy. At least for him to walk to you.

Loki112612 · 2022-04-23T05:22:54+00:00

Missing piece

pdx4nhl · 2022-04-23T05:30:17+00:00

This has to be a troll post. There is no actual info to offer any sort of guidance. I'm calling BS.

IamPattiCake · 2022-04-23T05:54:09+00:00

Dm me

Title	Ok guys I need help with dating. Why does no man consider me? Why does no one like me? Why do men cancel on me?
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Date	April 23, 2022 2:50 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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