How do you get a guy to put his arm around you when you're sitting on the couch next to each other?

snowdude11 · 2022-04-18T23:17:35+00:00

"Brrr its cold in here"... then snuggle up next to him

Lightly tap or touch his thigh when you laugh at the movie or he makes a joke

TheBuddha777 · 2022-04-18T22:28:00+00:00

Take his arm and put it around you

soothsayerrrrr · 2022-04-19T02:47:09+00:00

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Evry1cansuckit · 2022-04-19T00:38:10+00:00

Put your head on his chest. He'll do it

chubbydoggy · 2022-04-19T02:04:23+00:00

Elbow him in the ribs. When he reflexively lifts his arm, duck underneath it before he relaxes.

maplecandyland · 2022-04-19T02:33:29+00:00

you could start by cuddling into him, itll prolly happen then

Ashishpayasi · 2022-04-19T02:53:10+00:00

Put your head on their shoulder or simply ask

imsexc · 2022-04-18T22:22:05+00:00

By telling him. Why make it so hard

willgo-waggins · 2022-04-19T00:25:18+00:00

So I’m not going to be a juvenile prick like most of these clowns.

When my girl wants this - even times when we are standing and talking to people and she is just feeling that she needs my love or support at the moment - she will just gently bend her head down and nuzzle into my chest slightly. It’s a signal I learned almost immediately meant she wanted me to hold her - even if only for a brief moment - and I respond automatically by putting my arm around her.

Try some sort of obvious physical signal like this to start. Or if he seems just clueless then just ask “would you mind holding me?” And keep it straightforward and simple.

If he rejects or declines then you know you don’t need to waste your time with him any more.

bobsbitchtitz · 2022-04-19T03:07:29+00:00

Put your head on his shoulder like towards the clavicle his natural reaction will be to put his hand around you.

daggershield · 2022-04-18T23:05:24+00:00

Tell him or just take is arm and out it around you

Billieclide · 2022-04-19T00:52:18+00:00

Note to all women. Sometimes us guys get too far in our heads for various reasons..
I will apologize for them.

Point of this lesson Take the leap. Make a move. Be like Nike and “ Just do it”

We will be ever so grateful!!

I know it’s scary Trust me I know all too well.

Or

Just tell us to stop being a bitch and do it.

This is my ted talk

hookedonfonicsmunky · 2022-04-19T00:00:29+00:00

Hahaha why are you next to eachother on the couch questioning if that's alright hahahaha, just twist his titties, he'll get the message

lmao_lemo · 2022-04-19T01:23:36+00:00

How do I know when to put my arm around a girl I like?

domo94 · 2022-04-19T01:06:10+00:00

Nudge your shoulder into him like a dog would. Get close to him.

Granny_Killa · 2022-04-19T03:26:09+00:00

Lean your head onto his shoulder

Ambitious-Ice2357 · 2022-04-18T23:03:27+00:00

Take your top off

2022-04-19T01:25:07+00:00

Tbh its super cool when i woman just straight up puts my arm over her, or like tries to sort of squeeze under it

Both_Move2565 · 2022-04-19T02:48:10+00:00

Sit yourself really close to him like you’re literally on him and he should catch the drift! If he doesn’t then he has no game and is shy out of his mind

quadfintryfin · 2022-04-19T07:12:18+00:00

If this is a serious question then the serious response is to enable him to do it.

We live in a world where normal / good dudes (especially young men) are paranoid about “sexually assaulting” a woman by showing affection.

I’m by no means saying there aren’t creeper guys that will try to get handsy, but normal dudes have to walk this line even moreso these days.

danishruyu1 · 2022-04-19T07:17:16+00:00

Sometimes just being direct can be super helpful and even appreciated. One time a girl I just started dating invited me over and basically said “let’s cuddle, let me get some blankets?” and there you go. Point was she took the initiative and it escalated. Pretty sure 99% of guys that are interested would love that.

You don’t have to make him sit there and wonder if his arm needs to go around you. You don’t even have to say anything if you’re shy. Just lean your head on his shoulder and that’s enough of a signal. It’ll work.

WhosYourBuddha89 · 2022-04-19T08:16:47+00:00

Ask them to. But since you're asking that question I assume you want to be more subtle. So:

Step 1: Yawn.

Step 2: Look into his eyes and ask him if you could cuddle onto his shoulder.

Step 3: I think your desired move by him is a natural consequence for most people in this situation.

theethiopiankook · 2022-04-19T02:12:21+00:00

Lean your head on his shoulder and nudge into him.

al-long · 2022-04-19T02:34:01+00:00

Play a game of ‘count the shoulders’ , worked for me :)

FlatDistance5 · 2022-04-18T23:28:14+00:00

If you’re a whale tell him before hand that you like him, and see if he’s interested, because he might not know how to let you down.

If your attractive (not a whale) in any combination, cute face, nice body, maybe your face isn’t that cute, doesn’t matterand he’s spending time alone with you. Then if he’s not brave enough, when you sit next to him put your leg next to his touching. Then about 15 minutes into the movie if he hasn’t taken initiative, grab hand lift it up, lean into him and put his hand arm behind you with his hand on your boob (make sure you’re wearing a tank top no bra)

If he keeps his hand there or starts moving fingers then you start slowly taking control let him no what you want don’t tell him, direct him until he takes control. If he moves his hand away don’t worry about it. Maybe he’s the guys who’s really nervous

Edit: fuck my broken English… you guys get what Im saying

2022-04-19T03:34:15+00:00

Without obvious consent, that's called harassment nowadays.

NoDatabase1552 · 2022-04-18T23:57:33+00:00

I hope that you're pretty, at least.

recyclablebanthas · 2022-04-19T11:26:27+00:00

How do you get a guy to put his arm around you when you're sitting on the couch next to each other?

At the end of the day, one can't make someone do something. They'll do it if they already want to and they're given an opportunity and/or encouraged to do so.

So like others said, you could do something cheesy like say you're cold. Or you could just scoot in closer.

-Mavs · 2022-04-19T03:09:23+00:00

This is for the guys.

You need to make a move to show that you’re interested in her romantically and not kill the mood by not trying.

If she pulls away and shows indications of not wanting to be touched get her the fuck out of there, stop wasting your time and lose her number otherwise mindfuck and games down the road.

graduallywinning · 2022-04-19T02:35:34+00:00

He would not be sitting next to you if he didn't want to put his arm around you.

Similarly men, if a woman is sat next to you alone to watch something, she wants you to put your arm around her.

determinator94 · 2022-04-19T04:56:59+00:00

You don’t; it’s either the guy puts his arm around you or he doesn’t. Don’t try to put in more effort than you need to; it’ll exhaust you.

2022-04-19T01:54:44+00:00

By looking deeply in his eyes with a sexy smile, lick your lips, wink, grab his thigh and whisper “put your arm around me you hunk”.

modidlee · 2022-04-19T04:03:41+00:00

Leave the timid guys alone and get a guy who isn’t afraid of escalating things

whale_sports · 2022-04-19T00:48:58+00:00

I will just go ahead and tell the lady to come next to me, and we will cuddle during a movie. Should be no issue.

GroundbreakingAd8077 · 2022-04-19T02:36:35+00:00

Lean on him, or just put it around you

Mighty_Sapphire · 2022-04-19T02:40:32+00:00

Are you guys dating?

dbie · 2022-04-19T02:51:03+00:00

Tell them you feel cold.

alexmaycovid · 2022-04-19T03:38:38+00:00

Just take his hand it put it around you. I did it with girls if it works with girls it should work with guys more easily

No_Lettuce7271 · 2022-04-19T04:39:02+00:00

Ask him to count shoulders…his and yours!

MoonMan12321 · 2022-04-19T05:42:02+00:00

As someone said before, girls are not used to rejection and if a guy is nervous or if he hesitates, it can feel like a rejection. We guys can be dumb af. Best way is to ask right away, or wait forever if he's not getting your signals. Also, don't punish him if he's not getting any signals, if you think he's not, be open about it. Like I said, we can be dumb af sometimes.

Otherwise_Rub_9736 · 2022-04-19T06:20:13+00:00

Whenever I’ve been at a guys house and felt like I wanted/needed a hug I’d just say, “can you hold me?” The average reactive I’ve gotten is surprised eyes and a pleased smirk, followed by them actually holding me. They’ll typically ask, “like this?” and that’s when I usually adjust the position or sometimes, hold onto them too.

incognito3107 · 2022-04-19T06:53:36+00:00

You can lean gently on his shoulder and look him into the eyes.

Gwarshow · 2022-04-19T07:04:05+00:00

Just grab his hand and place his arm around you. What's so hard about this?

Yummy_Castoreum · 2022-04-19T07:13:44+00:00

Ask.

Ouch78 · 2022-04-19T07:26:53+00:00

Hold hands to start then once you both are settled lean in to him while doing a activity is tv watch sport etc

decred_sia · 2022-04-19T07:47:48+00:00

Think like a cat, and bump him with your head - it will triger ris petting reflexes

unfinity2 · 2022-04-19T08:03:24+00:00

Ugh…you guys are so frustrating. Just take his hand and wrap it around you silly.

hootingstar · 2022-04-19T09:49:07+00:00

Make them comfortable, and give them some hints like saying "Hug me already, will you?" out loud. If you can do it like you are his mom, the action will be instantaneous.

AstralValProjection · 2022-04-19T10:11:11+00:00

Sit beside him and lean over to him if sitting beside him doesn't work

Arsky · 2022-04-19T10:30:28+00:00

"Can you put your hand around me?"

Nukethewhails · 2022-04-19T10:46:19+00:00

Hey let's count shoulders. 1-2-3-4.

She proceeded to laugh called me a dork then decided she wanted to be little spoon instead.

ThePhunkyPhantom13 · 2022-04-19T11:24:22+00:00

You could point to his arm and say "lift." When he does scute under it.

Fickle_Celery_8257 · 2022-04-19T13:26:51+00:00

Wish I knew 😪

Title	How do you get a guy to put his arm around you when you're sitting on the couch next to each other?
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Date	April 18, 2022 10:15 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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