I’m in university and I just want casual sex but I don’t know what to say to a girl without getting me too’d.

Therocksays2020 · 2021-11-12T09:16:12+00:00

You’re already starting from a place of fear. Very few men get me tood. That’s not the issue. You will get rejected on this journey. That’s apart of it.

You don’t ask for a hookup. You ask to hangout. You make new friends. Do you go to parties? Do you have a social group? Do you interact with any women

1990MeWuzBorn · 2021-11-12T12:53:57+00:00

You don’t need to say anything special. Literally walk up and start a conversation with the girl like you would with another dude. If she’s into you it won’t be hard to tell and getting her to “come watch a movie later” won’t be that difficult of a task.

Skinny_Wizard · 2021-11-12T10:31:37+00:00

Just tell them the truth and ask for consent. Be straightforward that she can date whoever she wants and you should too,if she doesn't want that respect her opinion and move on.

LesWhite · 2021-11-12T20:17:00+00:00

"Without getting me too'd"

This has never happened to me, so I agree with the other guy saying you're starting from a place of fear. Quit thinking every girl will "me too" you if you're direct or express your sexual interest

cronasminate · 2021-11-12T09:15:46+00:00

As long as you ask for some sort of consent when it comes to any sexual activity, you should be fine. For example, don't just touch her boobs without any indication that she's okay with it. I personally just ask out right before I do anything and it has worked for me. I've hooked up 5 times this semester so far and I haven't been me tood.

SuperDuperMaxy · 2021-11-12T16:00:53+00:00

I highly recommend you watch TaySocial and ThatJustHappened on YouTube for some good videos to ease your mind on approaching.

dixxiepixy · 2021-11-12T22:05:47+00:00

Getting me too’d?? Wtf

IGetBoredSometimes23 · 2021-11-13T05:44:21+00:00

Avoiding #MeToo is easy when you know about affirmative consent. Learn what that is and you'll be fine.

The only times that #MeToo became an actual issue where a man had to face negative consequences for their actions when the men did things that were so egregious that they're was no question of sexual assault and/or sexual harassment take place. Harvey Weinstein got in trouble because he told women, "Fuck me or lose your career". That's rape no matter how you slice it.

There hasn't been any instance of a man facing negative consequences for their actions because they went up to a woman and said in a non-threatening way something that can be summed up as, "I think you're attractive and I'd like to take you on a date." If they say no, let it go, move on, and you'll be fine. And avoid doing anything at work unless the vibes are right.

KingoftheNorth412 · 2021-11-12T12:48:44+00:00

“Hey I’m not looking for anything serious, how about you?”

“Im just looking for a friends with benefits situation”

Many will shut it down. Walk away from those. Some will reciprocate.

Women are just as horny, if not hornier, then men.

CraftyAd5327 · 2021-11-13T04:55:38+00:00

Don't be creep If you don't want to get me too

There's a boundary there

userisauser · 2021-11-13T04:40:25+00:00

There is one rule with women that nobody will tell you...

That rule is: There's no such thing as #METOO for a guy the woman is attracted to. Everything that will get you metoo'd is everything that will get you laid.

Metoo is about leverage. If a girl doesnt like you, she'll simply reject you. If you're powerful and a girl sees she can take that power from you, that's what they'll do. Women abuse power whenever they get it (which is why they never keep it). So if you do do something that really offends them, do not apologize, do not react, just leave. That's all you can do. If you start pleading for forgiveness, they'll just punish you more.

Concordantly, do not ask for permission or even seem like you need their approval for whatever it is that you are doing.

Grabbing their hand without their permission and saying, "come with me to insert fun non-sexual location" could get you metoo'd but thats also what a woman who would have a fling with you, wants you to do.

Alternatively, don't shit where you sleep. Don't do risky shit where everyone knows who you are. Anonymity is your friend. That may mean to not hit on girls on campus.

sparhawks7 · 2021-11-14T00:42:52+00:00

Sorry, what? You don’t want to have sex with a girl because you think she will accuse you of rape? What?? If you can’t even have a conversation with women without them accusing you of sexual assault I think you have bigger problems buddy.

I’m gonna go ahead and assume that your post isn’t actually you outing yourself as a rapist, and assume you’re just parroting some stupid incel shit that you’ve read somewhere..

Women are people. Just talk to them. If you’re looking to hookup/only have casual sex, say so, it’s really not the massive deal you’re making it out to be. Lots of women want casual sex (although we don’t want it with creepy guys who are apparently worried they will sexually assault us?!). You could try tinder or a similar hookup app, as that’s probably an easier way to find girls who are looking for the same thing. Finally, hopefully you know what consent is, if you don’t, please educate yourself.

2021-11-12T09:30:52+00:00

Tell them the truth.

Every time.

Ask for what you want exactly.

eyesopen1111 · 2021-11-13T00:55:46+00:00

1.Start with known social media hook up websites, like Tender. Go from there. Or Adult Friend Finder or Seeking Arrangements.

2.Use your social circle and just let people know that you are focusing on work, so nothing serious, but that you are looking to date casually.

3.The bar scene is famous for casual hook-ups, plus there are drinks.

CityChicken8504 · 2021-11-13T03:06:26+00:00

No one wants to be manipulated.
Be kind, be upfront, be honest.
That triad can get you far.

Lonely_Man22 · 2021-11-14T02:54:48+00:00

Am waiting to hear the, “Just workout bro.”

Appropriate_Pen_919 · 2021-11-13T07:41:02+00:00

I just graduated from school. Be confident, cocky even. Act like you’ve done it before, ask to buy a girl a drink and put ur hand on ur kid back when u lean in to ask her. That’s not inappropriate at all as long as u make sure u don’t escalate without her permission imo. It’s a small way for her to know ur into her.

Appropriate_Pen_919 · 2021-11-13T07:42:13+00:00

Adding: I’ve seen plenty of dudes do really suspect shit and nothing happen. Be a better man than them, but girls will appreciated verbal confidence and slight non-inappropriate touching because unfortunately they experience a lot worse every nighr

Mr_Mortyposter · 2021-11-15T00:14:27+00:00

I want to get laid and have casual sex too. I’m not attractive enough. I have to resort to hilarious desperation.

5_7pickup · 2021-11-12T10:27:23+00:00

Refer to my field reports

DarkPrince831 · 2021-11-12T22:06:51+00:00

Im 15M and im a Sophomore in High School. I would also like to have some casual sex on a daily basis if possible.

I workout so my appearence is not too bad but Im awkward with others. Please help me too. Im guessing standards differ since im not in college yet so please help me

sheba7-93 · 2021-11-12T23:46:13+00:00

I don’t know what to say to a girl without getting me too,??? are you a perfectionist ???

worried about what to say worried about rejection worried by offending someone saying the wrong thing...if you can relate 3 books that will help you

1.no more mr nice guy

2.the gift of imperfection

3.how to be imperfectionist

Nofapdeity · 2021-11-16T06:11:32+00:00

Dude you’re fucking jacked it should be easy for you

Title	I’m in university and I just want casual sex but I don’t know what to say to a girl without getting me too’d.
Author	anonyoose
Upvotes	35
Comments	82
Date	November 12, 2021 9:06 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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